Re: Re: Re: Fwd: Mourning the Loss of Unmet Needs.

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> Donna thanks for sharing, I am glad things are working out so well for you and

your husband.

Kristie

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> Date: 2005/11/13 Sun AM 09:01:39 PST

> To: gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients

> Subject: Re: Re: Fwd: Mourning the

Loss of Unmet Needs.

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> Kristie

> I relate to every thing your saying also, that is how my husband felt, but he

knew with my health problems I had to have the surgery. He was also scared he'd

lose me because of his depression and all. I wasn't going to leave him because

I lost the weight, only time I was thinking a divorce was the right thing is

when he said he couldn't take the responsibility of family any more and the

doctors were on his side. Now that he has learned so much from counseling and

medicine through the IOP (intensive outpatient program), he's doing great. Has

excepted how good I look, loves his family, wants to stayed married and kisses

me so much now, he finally has excepted every thing will be alright and that

every thing isn't perfect and there will always be imperfection. Just need to

look at things from both sides and except things the way they are, and

appreciate life, some people don't realize how good they have it even if life is

hard, there's always people worse off. Smile and!

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> ou will

> be smiled upon. Donna

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> hollotwomn@... wrote:

> , I am so glad that you are falling in love with your husband all over

again. Speaking of husbands. My husband was very against me having this surgery

but I told him it was my body and I needed to do what made me happy. It was hard

I had told him I have been with you since I was 17 y.o. (32 now) and that we

always came to the same conclusion no matter how we got there but this was one I

wasnt budging on. Well, I am 6 weeks postop tomorrow and we are both happy. We

have been going to counseling though and this has made me see his side, and he

is understanding my side. This surgery can be tough on relationships. He said

his biggest fear is that I am going to leave him. It was almost like my fat was

his shield also. He said he always thought that I was attractive but now I am

becoming overly attractive and he is just some out of shape shmuck. Him and I

have been enjoying all aspects of our marriage, it is definitely one plus to

this surgery you are more confident and ca!

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> take that to the bedroom.

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> Kristie

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> > Date: 2005/11/13 Sun AM 07:15:27 PST

> > To: gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients

> > Subject: Re: Fwd: “Mourning the

Loss of Unmet Needs.”

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