toxic people

[Guest guest]

Several years ago someone, I think maybe Tracie, was writing about somebody's sister-in-law, and said (as best I can remember) to try to forgive her, even give her a hug, but if she couldn't do that, the universe would find a way to include her. I think I saved that, because it was so beautiful & profound. If I can find it, I'll send it, because Tracie, or whoever, expressed the thought so well.

Ramblin' Rose

Moderator

Reply-To: Neurosarcoidosis To: Neurosarcoidosis Subject: Re: warning, Christian content - SDate: Tue, 17 Apr 2007 01:40:47 -0700 (PDT)

Debbie, I can certainly see where you're coming from. I have certain people that had been in my life that are just to hard for me to handle at this time. With my health problems and my husband's Asperger's syndrome...i have too much on my plate already. Let's add in my own boys and one daughter-in-law and elderly parents on both sides and I am already exhausted. So far this year My father-in-law had a 5 way by pass and a week ago my mother-in-law had to go to the hospital with chest pains. She's losing blood and they don't know where from. Who has time for extra-difficult relationships? I pray that they find the friends they need at this time and unless the Lord speaks directly in my ear I won't go out of my way for them. It's prioritizing need. Some people just drain too much out of you. If every time I meet with someone I feel awful afterwards I just can't continue to abuse myself that way. Keep praying for them and it will take care of itself somehow. I really do believe that. hugs S.Debbie <rozebudz36 (AT) yahoo (DOT) com> wrote:

Terri & ,

I was reading about your sisters & I have a similar situation with my cousin. She was not only a cousin but also a great friend. But as I got physically sick , she started getting more mentally ill. Her mother is szchophrenic(sp?) and I think that's where her illness is coming from. She is not a szcho., but she has quite a multitude of mental problems now. But I have noticed since the illness' started, I have had to kindly "push" her out of my life. She would get me so wired and upset, it would make me feel more ill. I finally found myself avoiding her calls and hiding out from her because subconciously, I couldn't handle her visits anymore. I know she is ill just like me and she does need the support which makes me feel so guilty for pushing her away. I also find myself thinking about her and worrying about her.

But if praying for her is the only way I can help her without making myself sick, that's all that I can do, I guess. Thanks for listening. Debbie

Co-Moderatormosaicgirl1 <mosaicgirl1 (AT) yahoo (DOT) com> wrote:

,I saw your post yesterday but didn't get to write; I am sorry you arehaving such a hard time. Girl get out those paints and paint your heartout. It will help your depression.I have a sister like yours but she is bi-polar and drug addicted. Ifinally had to just shut her out. I know how bad it hurts my Mom, butbesides just wearing me out, she was stealing pills,prescriptions....anything that would help her get high. When shecouldn't get meds she would eat over the counter benadryl just to try toget high., I know you are a Christian and you need to pray about your sister.What I did was not easy and it really hurt my Mom, but my other sisterand brother have done the same thing. You just don't need the extrastress. God is always with us and when she gets on your nerves, startpraying like there is no tomorrow.I used to pray that He would change my health, my situation; now I justpray that I get to be here to see a new day and to enjoy my life nomatter how long or short it is.So , any time you need to vent just go for it. Just know that youare being thought of and prayed for.Terri G.>> ...I am just feeling so crappy today. ...really depressed and justneed a cry and a hug today. If you're up to it today send some prayers,good thoughts, whatever you can. Yesterday I got dressed (took aboutthree hours...) and took a twenty minute drive to see my mom and thesubsequent houseful of people. I felt so tired/fatigued that I basicallysat for an hour...felt overwhelmed by the constant loud talking...that Igave my mom a hug and told her I had to leave cuz I wasn't feeling well.My sister who is on dexatrin(speed) (NOT dexatrim ...the diet pill)forher fibro just talked nonstop for the whole time I was there. Iwondered...how does she breathe? Someone would ask her husband aquestion and he would say one sentence stop to breathe and in she wouldgo to finish what he would have said. I find this behavior soself-centered and rude but I don't have the strength to confront herabout it anymore. This turn-back to colder weather has also turned mypain back> up a large notch or two. And my depression has also returned. I am sotired of this cold. On days like this it just all seems just too muchtoo handle and I want to stay in bed all day. But I will force myself tostart a new painting and reach out to other people so I can Try to takemy mind off my own troubles. I am going to be impolite... so those ofyou bothered by cussing please don't read on.... SHIT SHIT SHIT damn theheadaches damn the irritating behaviour of inconsiderate people damnthis disease damn the pain damn the fatigue But hugs to all of you..nowI'll try to work through my pity party of today...thanks for listening S.>> ---------------------------------> Expecting? Get great news right away with email Auto-Check.> Try the Yahoo! Mail Beta.>~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~The Neurosarcoidosis CommunityNS CHAT:- FAITH CHATS: WEDNESDAY 9PM EST. 8PM CENTRAL. 6PM PST SUNDAY 12 MIDNIGHT EST. 11PM CENTRAL. 9PM PSTOPEN CHATS: THURSDAY 9PM EST. 8PM CENTRAL. 6PM PSTSUNDAY 4PM EST. 3PM CENTRAL. 1PM PSTCHATROOM LINK: http://www.emxpc.net/chat/index.php Message Archives:-http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/messagesMembers Database:-Listings of locations, phone numbers, and instant messengers.http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/database