Guest guest Posted November 15, 2005 Report Share Posted November 15, 2005 My 14 yr old son has inherited my obesity gene. He is 5'10 and weighs 289 pounds. I have tried to encourage him to lose weight, gently...I know how it feels to be nagged. I even took him to the doctor who also tried to encourage him. But he said and I quote, " Im happy the way I am. " . He has always been active in sports. He has now decided to take up wrestling and needs to drop to 275 to make the team. He is doing fairly well. He has gone from 293 to 289 since practice started two weeks ago. I need some advice on how to keep him motivated, without harping on him. Keep him in your thoughts and prayers...I worry so much about him. Huggles --- End forwarded message --- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2005 Report Share Posted November 15, 2005 When my 20 year old wanted to drop 10 pounds and saw me walking every day, I mentioned if he walked with me he would lose the weight he wanted because he was already eating right. So that's when we taking our long hard walks on Sunday together. He lost his 10 pounds and has managed to keep it off, if he sees himself putting a pound or 2 back he says mom I'm walking with you. He doesn't exercise like I do, just enough to keep his weight where he wants it he just doesn't have time being a full time college student, working part time and having time for his girlfriend. If you ask your son to walk with you or he does the treadmill, then you do the treadmill but start him off so he don't get to sore and then increase him. You to can exercise together weigh together keep a chart on how each of you are doing. At one time I had both my sons and their girlfriends working out, of course it was in the warm weather, they don't want to get out in the cold. Now I do the treadmill and walking when I can in the daytime if the weather is good. Anything that can encourage him to do this with you, or ask him to do it because it's hard for you to when no one else exercises. Just my thoughts. You're doing great, keep up the good work. Donna Diane Duenas wrote: My 14 yr old son has inherited my obesity gene. He is 5'10 and weighs 289 pounds. I have tried to encourage him to lose weight, gently...I know how it feels to be nagged. I even took him to the doctor who also tried to encourage him. But he said and I quote, " Im happy the way I am.". He has always been active in sports. He has now decided to take up wrestling and needs to drop to 275 to make the team. He is doing fairly well. He has gone from 293 to 289 since practice started two weeks ago. I need some advice on how to keep him motivated, without harping on him. Keep him in your thoughts and prayers...I worry so much about him.Huggles--- End forwarded message --- Donna JordonDSJordon@... Yahoo! FareChase - Search multiple travel sites in one click. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2005 Report Share Posted November 15, 2005 Hi; That's always a challenge. Instead of telling him to " Loose weight " , encourge behavior that will achieve this without directly telling him to diet. Encourage him to keep active such as his wrestling team, or other sports. Suggest some low fat or lower calorie foods/snacks as choices such as vegetables and fruits. Also show him by example the correct portion sizes that he should be eating. I know that I always ate much larger portions than I should have been eating. Now after surgery, I understand what a regular size portion looks like, and it's ok to eat amount. Good luck. Ozzie > > My 14 yr old son has inherited my obesity gene. He is 5'10 and weighs > 289 pounds. I have tried to encourage him to lose weight, gently...I > know how it feels to be nagged. I even took him to the doctor who also > tried to encourage him. But he said and I quote, " Im happy the way I > am. " . He has always been active in sports. He has now decided to take > up wrestling and needs to drop to 275 to make the team. He is doing > fairly well. He has gone from 293 to 289 since practice started two > weeks ago. > > I need some advice on how to keep him motivated, without harping on > him. Keep him in your thoughts and prayers...I worry so much about him. > > Huggles > > --- End forwarded message --- > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2005 Report Share Posted November 15, 2005 Im also encouraging him to log his food on fitday. I think if he gets an understanding of how calories add up..it will help. He is finally trying so hard. Wrestling is his incentive. He gave up drum line(a band thing)which he loves, to do wrestling. He is struggling between his love of music and his love of sports and being on the team. > > My 14 yr old son has inherited my obesity gene. He is 5'10 and weighs > 289 pounds. I have tried to encourage him to lose weight, gently...I > know how it feels to be nagged. I even took him to the doctor who also > tried to encourage him. But he said and I quote, " Im happy the way I > am. " . He has always been active in sports. He has now decided to take > up wrestling and needs to drop to 275 to make the team. He is doing > fairly well. He has gone from 293 to 289 since practice started two > weeks ago. > > I need some advice on how to keep him motivated, without harping on > him. Keep him in your thoughts and prayers...I worry so much about him. > > Huggles > > --- End forwarded message --- > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2005 Report Share Posted November 15, 2005 , I will keep your son in my prayers. This is my biggest fear. He says he is happy but we all know the truth. I'm sure with wrestling practice he is going to get plenty of physical activity in. Just put healthy stuff in the house. If he drinks soda, get him to switch to diet if he hasnt already. Precut veggies and leave them in the fridge with low fat ranch dip. I will be thinking of him. KRistie > > > Date: 2005/11/15 Tue AM 07:59:15 PST > To: gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients > Subject: Fwd: My 14 yr old son > > My 14 yr old son has inherited my obesity gene. He is 5'10 and weighs 289 pounds. I have tried to encourage him to lose weight, gently...I know how it feels to be nagged. I even took him to the doctor who also tried to encourage him. But he said and I quote, " Im happy the way I am. " . He has always been active in sports. He has now decided to take up wrestling and needs to drop to 275 to make the team. He is doing fairly well. He has gone from 293 to 289 since practice started two weeks ago. I need some advice on how to keep him motivated, without harping on him. Keep him in your thoughts and prayers...I worry so much about him. Huggles --- End forwarded message --- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2005 Report Share Posted November 15, 2005 I was that kid. 290 in High School. Wrestling, football, swimming, baseball. Here is the hard part, he will not do anything because an adult says. My suggestion is to show him some tips to help him make weight. Salt, Water, low carb, hight protien, all of them work. It has to come from " I know wrestling is important to you, so here are some things I know that will help you be successful at it " and NOT from the nagging, " your fat " place. If you focus on giving him the skills he needs to control his weight, even if he is ok where he is right now, you will help him avoid the trauma, hardship, pain we all have faced as he gets older. Encourage, encourage, encourage. Good luck, and I hope this helps a little. > > My 14 yr old son has inherited my obesity gene. He is 5'10 and weighs > 289 pounds. I have tried to encourage him to lose weight, gently...I > know how it feels to be nagged. I even took him to the doctor who also > tried to encourage him. But he said and I quote, " Im happy the way I > am. " . He has always been active in sports. He has now decided to take > up wrestling and needs to drop to 275 to make the team. He is doing > fairly well. He has gone from 293 to 289 since practice started two > weeks ago. > > I need some advice on how to keep him motivated, without harping on > him. Keep him in your thoughts and prayers...I worry so much about him. > > Huggles > > --- End forwarded message --- > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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