...a sudden death

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On May 1st, one of my best friends(of 21 years) died. She was 55, had just had some tests and was fine. But she had recently been taking some vitamins with shellfish in them(chitosan is ground-up shellfish and absorbs fats). Her husband told me that they discovered what was making her swell up and she discontinued taking them. He said she snored louder than usual that night but it didn't occur to him that anything was wrong until he went to wake her up at 7 a.m. to get up for work. He couldn't wake her up. She snored before but never that bad and with the allergic reaction...it probably just closed her throat right up. I have been in shock all week. We had joked that if anyone would die first it would be me with all my health problems. She was always so full of life, joking and laughing. I am in denial at times and then at other times just break out crying

again. It's been a rough week. She has two boys, late twenties, married . She didn't even get to hold a grandchild yet. I can't but help thinking that if she had a c-pap machine it would have saved her life. I am definately going to make sure my husband wears his every night and finally get in for a sleep study myself. The night before she died I had written a letter to her about getting together for a visit. damn. death is a mysterious visitor isn't it. hugs and take care of yourselves S.

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, Please know that I am giving you a big hug. I know how terrible this can be. And it sounds as though you are going to have to be there for her husband, as he may be feeling a guilty right now. But the comfort is , is that she passed with her husband at her side and knowing that she had a best friend in you, and now she is not only in a great place, but is watching over you. Please hold onto your Faith, and know that you have many friends here to help you through this. Lots of ove Lynne Solberg wrote: On May 1st, one of my best friends(of 21 years) died. She was 55, had just had some tests and was fine. But she had recently been taking some vitamins with shellfish in them(chitosan is ground-up shellfish and absorbs fats). Her husband told me that they discovered what was making her swell up and she discontinued taking them. He said she snored louder than usual that night but it didn't occur to him that anything was wrong until he went to wake her up at 7 a.m. to get up for work. He couldn't wake her up. She snored before but never that bad and with the allergic reaction...it probably just closed her throat right up. I have been in shock all

week. We had joked that if anyone would die first it would be me with all my health problems. She was always so full of life, joking and laughing. I am in denial at times and then at other times just break out crying again. It's been a rough week. She has two boys, late twenties, married . She didn't even get to hold a grandchild yet. I can't but help thinking that if she had a c-pap machine it would have saved her life. I am definately going to make sure my husband wears his every night and finally get in for a sleep study myself. The night before she died I had written a letter to her about getting together for a visit. damn. death is a mysterious visitor isn't it. hugs and take care of yourselves S. Ahhh...imagining that irresistible "new car" smell?Check out new cars at Yahoo! Autos.

To My New Family

Love Lynne

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,

My heart goes out to you. I know how hard it is to lose such good friends. It all seems rather senseless.

CPap's are great, but honestly, it wouldn't have done anything for the allergic reaction to the shellfish.

However, for all of us that are accused of snoring, know we snore, deny we snore, and on-- get in and get a sleep study. Truly, the machine is worth the hassle, and you will feel so much better.

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,Oh My Goodness! I am praying for your healing and acceptance of this situation. I am so sorry that you are going through this. My heart is with you.Naa Koshielynne zacharias wrote: , Please know that I am giving you a big hug. I know how terrible this can be. And it sounds as though you are going to have to

be there for her husband, as he may be feeling a guilty right now. But the comfort is , is that she passed with her husband at her side and knowing that she had a best friend in you, and now she is not only in a great place, but is watching over you. Please hold onto your Faith, and know that you have many friends here to help you through this. Lots of ove Lynne Solberg <mary_s777 (AT) yahoo (DOT) com> wrote: On May 1st, one of my best friends(of 21 years) died. She was 55, had just had some tests and was fine. But she had recently been taking some vitamins with shellfish in them(chitosan is ground-up shellfish and

absorbs fats). Her husband told me that they discovered what was making her swell up and she discontinued taking them. He said she snored louder than usual that night but it didn't occur to him that anything was wrong until he went to wake her up at 7 a.m. to get up for work. He couldn't wake her up. She snored before but never that bad and with the allergic reaction...it probably just closed her throat right up. I have been in shock all week. We had joked that if anyone would die first it would be me with all my health problems. She was always so full of life, joking and laughing. I am in denial at times and then at other times just break out crying again. It's been a rough week. She has two boys, late twenties, married . She didn't even get to hold a grandchild yet. I can't but help thinking that if she had a c-pap machine it would have saved her life. I am definately going to make sure my

husband wears his every night and finally get in for a sleep study myself. The night before she died I had written a letter to her about getting together for a visit. damn. death is a mysterious visitor isn't it. hugs and take care of yourselves S. Ahhh...imagining that irresistible "new car" smell?Check out new cars at Yahoo! Autos. To My New Family Love Lynne Ahhh...imagining that irresistible "new car" smell? Check out new cars at Yahoo! Autos. "How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these." ~ Washington Carver

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Thanks to all who wrote such kind words. I am still in denial and anger and working it out in my mind. I keep saying..no, no...in my mind cuz it just seems unreal. again, thanks for the kind words. hugs S."Naa Koshie O. Mills" wrote: ,Oh My Goodness! I am praying for your healing and acceptance of this situation. I am so

sorry that you are going through this. My heart is with you.Naa Koshielynne zacharias <children8_2000 (AT) yahoo (DOT) com> wrote: , Please know that I am giving you a big hug. I know how terrible this can be. And it sounds as though you are going to have to be there for her husband, as he may be feeling a guilty right now. But the comfort is , is that she passed with her husband at her side and knowing that she had a best friend in you, and now she is not only in a great place, but is watching over you. Please hold onto your Faith, and know that you have many friends here to help you through this. Lots of ove Lynne Solberg <mary_s777 (AT) yahoo (DOT) com> wrote: On May 1st, one of my best friends(of 21 years) died. She was 55, had just had some tests and was fine. But she had recently been taking some vitamins with shellfish in them(chitosan is ground-up shellfish and absorbs fats). Her husband told me that they discovered what was making her swell up and she discontinued taking them. He said she snored louder than usual that night but it didn't occur to him that anything was wrong until he went to wake her up at 7 a.m. to get up for work. He couldn't wake her up. She snored before but never that bad and with the allergic reaction...it probably just closed her throat right up. I have been in shock all

week. We had joked that if anyone would die first it would be me with all my health problems. She was always so full of life, joking and laughing. I am in denial at times and then at other times just break out crying again. It's been a rough week. She has two boys, late twenties, married . She didn't even get to hold a grandchild yet. I can't but help thinking that if she had a c-pap machine it would have saved her life. I am definately going to make sure my husband wears his every night and finally get in for a sleep study myself. The night before she died I had written a letter to her about getting together for a visit. damn. death is a mysterious visitor isn't it. hugs and take care of yourselves S. Ahhh...imagining that irresistible "new car" smell?Check out new cars at Yahoo! Autos. To My New Family Love Lynne Ahhh...imagining that irresistible "new car" smell?Check out new cars at Yahoo! Autos. "How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you

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, I'm so sorry that you lost your friend. I understand all the emotions you are experiencing. 12 years ago, one of my best friends, , died suddenly at 46 from an asthma attack. She had pretty severe asthma & was in the hospital every few months, but seemed to be doing pretty well. I found myself very angry at her pulmonologist (who is an excellent doctor), but that passed. was the social worker for our pregnancy clinic, so it was a double loss. All of us at the clinic had such a difficult time dealing with her death that we finally set up a grief counseling session, which was very helpful. Out of that experience we decided to honor by giving stuffed bears to our patients with pregnancy loss, whether a miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, etc. We had cards made with 's Bears on the front & a brief tribute to inside. We would tie them around the bear's neck. I still have a bear that I received when my dad & my brother died.

I also made some business cards that said WWNS? (What Would Say?) because we talked about how much we missed her wisdom & problem-solving ability. I realized that when I had a dilemma, if I thought about it, I could just about know what would say. I still have that card on my refrigerator. It's amazing how often I still think of ; so many things remind me of her. When I was still working, we would often get old records on returning patients. 's handwriting would jump out at me & bring me comfort. I would read her notes & picture her smile.

, maybe you can think of a way to honor your friend; possibly giving out small painted rocks or something. I knew a couple who had lost a baby, birth defects, I think. Anyway, they had cards printed up that they would hand out to others in restaurants & stores as they paid their bill. They watched for families with young children who looked like they might need some unexpected sunshine. It was just small amounts of money, but the card told them it was to honor & remember their child. The dad told me that most people would be surprised, then just clutch that card tightly. I know some people plant trees, etc. to honor loved ones. I have a poor track record with trees, so that's not a good option for me.

Again, , my deepest sympathy for you and everyone who was touched by this special woman. Thank you for sharing your pain with us. Love, Rose

Ramblin' Rose

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Reply-To: Neurosarcoidosis To: neurosarcoidosis Subject: ...a sudden deathDate: Sat, 5 May 2007 20:21:36 -0700 (PDT)

On May 1st, one of my best friends(of 21 years) died. She was 55, had just had some tests and was fine. But she had recently been taking some vitamins with shellfish in them(chitosan is ground-up shellfish and absorbs fats). Her husband told me that they discovered what was making her swell up and she discontinued taking them. He said she snored louder than usual that night but it didn't occur to him that anything was wrong until he went to wake her up at 7 a.m. to get up for work. He couldn't wake her up. She snored before but never that bad and with the allergic reaction...it probably just closed her throat right up. I have been in shock all week. We had joked that if anyone would die first it would be me with all my health problems. She was always so full of life, joking and laughing. I am in denial at times and then at other times just break out crying again. It's been a rough week. She has two boys, late twenties, married . She didn't even get to hold a grandchild yet. I can't but help thinking that if she had a c-pap machine it would have saved her life. I am definately going to make sure my husband wears his every night and finally get in for a sleep study myself. The night before she died I had written a letter to her about getting together for a visit. damn. death is a mysterious visitor isn't it. hugs and take care of yourselves S.

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Now you can see trouble…before he arrives

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I am

so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend, life is short, sometimes shorter

then we think, we just received news today that a good friend of my son, and

his mother and I are friends, just had lunch last week. He son practically

lives at my house since his parents divorced a couple years ago, and he and my

son have been friends since 2nd grade, they will graduate High

school this week, so I got a call from his mom looking for him that his grandpa

collapsed and was on the way to the hospital, but he didn’t make it, feel

so bad, this family has had a lot of things happen, but I think he was close to

his grandpa and I believe my friend the Mom is devastated she was a Daddy’s

girl, and was just going to get remarried this next Aug, so that too will be

hard. We really don’t know what tomorrow will bring? I am sorry for

you, and your friend’s family. May God bless you all through this

difficult time.

Marla

" Faith

sees the invisible, believes the incredible and receives the impossible "

From: Neurosarcoidosis [mailto:Neurosarcoidosis ] On Behalf Of Solberg

Sent: Saturday, May 05, 2007 9:22

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Subject: ...a

sudden death

On May 1st, one of my best

friends(of 21 years) died. She was 55, had just had some tests and

was fine. But she had recently been taking some vitamins with

shellfish in them(chitosan is ground-up shellfish and absorbs fats). Her

husband told me that they discovered what was making her swell up and she discontinued

taking them. He said she snored louder than usual that night but it

didn't occur to him that anything was wrong until he went to wake her up at 7

a.m. to get up for work. He couldn't wake her up. She snored before

but never that bad and with the allergic reaction...it probably just closed her

throat right up. I have been in shock all week. We had joked that

if anyone would die first it would be me with all my health problems. She

was always so full of life, joking and laughing. I am in denial at times

and then at other times just break out crying again. It's been a rough

week. She has two boys, late twenties, married . She didn't even

get to hold a grandchild yet. I can't but help thinking that if she had a

c-pap machine it would have saved her life. I am definately going to make

sure my husband wears his every night and finally get in for a sleep study

myself. The night before she died I had written a letter to her about

getting together for a visit. damn. death is a

mysterious visitor isn't it. hugs and take care of

yourselves S.

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Check out new

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