Re: Question about Sex Drive

[Guest guest]

Im sorry you are going through this. I really dont have any advice

as I have not experienced this...in fact upon losing my weight, my

sex drive has gone through the roof....hubby thinks Im trying to

kill him. LOL Now after I have surgery who knows, I will still have

all my " plumbing " but may face a hysterectomy in a few years if this

doesnt work. Find a good gyn...mine is fantastic and has really been

working with me on my PMS and bleeding issues. Keep switching til

you find the right one. Try some of the new KY brand lubricants,

they warm up and come in nice new scents.

Huggles

>

> Has anyone else had this problem?? I had a full hysterectomy in

1999. I

> was 39 yrs old. I have no plumbing left. My doctor put me on HRT

and i

> took them for a year. (then all the contraversy about the cancer

scare

> came about and that scared me to!!) I also developed micro

> calcifications of the breast and really thought it to be wise to

> discontinue taking the HRT that was prescribed). They also were

too

> expensive so i went to a over the counter brand called New Phase.

They

> seemed to work well( or it was all in my head i really dont know)

and

> didnt cost near what the prescription cost. Well i quit taking

them

> when i had this surgery. I have absolutely NO sex drive of any

kind.

> There is no natural lubrication either. YIKES. Thats not very

pleasant.

> I feel sorry for my hubby. He tries so hard (to please me) and it

just

> really doesnt end up very satisifying if you know what i mean. I

bought

> this stuff off the internet called Estrivil. Its supposed to help

those

> who have no desires anymore. well I have taken it for about 3

weeks and

> really cant see any improvement. I hope someone out there has some

> suggestions!!

>

[Guest guest]

Hi. I have my PH.D in sexology. Have you tried to use a vibrator? If you can not

have an orgasm after using this, then I would go to the doctor. If you can, then

you need to try some new tricks with your husbqand, including using the

vibrator. Get yourself some books about sex with pictures and work on it with

your husband. Laugh a lot. I did my dissertation on sex for large women and I

can tell you that they are having a great time as long as they communicate their

fantasies, accept their bodies to some extent and have confidence in their

partner's acceptance of them at whatever size they are. Do not use KY jelly,

use Replens. KY is not good for the vagina.

> >

> > Has anyone else had this problem?? I had a full hysterectomy in

> 1999. I

> > was 39 yrs old. I have no plumbing left. My doctor put me on HRT

> and i

> > took them for a year. (then all the contraversy about the cancer

> scare

> > came about and that scared me to!!) I also developed micro

> > calcifications of the breast and really thought it to be wise to

> > discontinue taking the HRT that was prescribed). They also were

> too

> > expensive so i went to a over the counter brand called New Phase.

> They

> > seemed to work well( or it was all in my head i really dont know)

> and

> > didnt cost near what the prescription cost. Well i quit taking

> them

> > when i had this surgery. I have absolutely NO sex drive of any

> kind.

> > There is no natural lubrication either. YIKES. Thats not very

> pleasant.

> > I feel sorry for my hubby. He tries so hard (to please me) and it

> just

> > really doesnt end up very satisifying if you know what i mean. I

> bought

> > this stuff off the internet called Estrivil. Its supposed to help

> those

> > who have no desires anymore. well I have taken it for about 3

> weeks and

> > really cant see any improvement. I hope someone out there has some

> > suggestions!!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

There is a cream over the counter called Replense, it has a little estrogen in it. It's safe and it's a lubricant. When I started through perio-menopause, I wasn't making the natural lubricate, I was on Hormones. I was taken off due to the scare. This is what the doctor had me use, it may help along with the Estrivil. It's worth a try. If not talk to your GYN doctor. Donnacuddles_1960 wrote: Has anyone else had this problem?? I had a full hysterectomy in 1999. I was 39 yrs old. I have no plumbing left. My doctor put me on HRT and i took them for a year. (then all the contraversy about the cancer scare came about and that scared me to!!) I also developed micro calcifications of the breast and really thought it to be wise to discontinue taking the HRT that was prescribed). They also were too expensive so i went to a over the counter brand called New Phase. They seemed to work well( or it was all in my head i really dont know) and didnt cost near what the prescription cost. Well i quit taking them when i had this surgery. I have absolutely NO sex drive of any kind. There is no natural lubrication either. YIKES. Thats not very pleasant. I feel sorry for my hubby. He tries so hard (to please me) and it just really

doesnt end up very satisifying if you know what i mean. I bought this stuff off the internet called Estrivil. Its supposed to help those who have no desires anymore. well I have taken it for about 3 weeks and really cant see any improvement. I hope someone out there has some suggestions!! Donna JordonDSJordon@...

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[Guest guest]

Hi,

Sex and libido are so tricky, and people can be so quick to offer

advice before a thoughtful and careful history and physical assessment

are done. No one can really give you advice over this list. There's a

lot of questions here that need to be answered before anyone should

make any recommendations to you. For one thing, the whole hormone

thing is complicated. Lack of libido in post-meno women is often due

to low Testosterone. Women normally have T. in their systems; a small

dose post-meno can help. And yes, low estrogen leads to lack of

lubrication. Estrogen cream (applied to the vagina) can help, and and

many types of artificial lube are terrific. But then there are other

factors. Are you feeling blue? Feeling old? Depressed? Over-worked?

Frazzled? Unattractive? Or maybe you're not attracted to your hub...

He's started farting out loud, the parts don't fit together so well

anymore, etc.? All these factors can play into the libido. And of

course, lots of web sites make wild claims, want to sell you lots

expensive things that may or may not work and can be harmful. Herbal

companies are just as greedy as drug companies and Chinese herbs often

contain drugs that aren't listed (viagra, etc.), so you have to be

careful. Sounds to me like you need to see your ob-gyn. If you don't

have one who is concerned with sexual satisfaction, get a diff. doctor.

Later...Martha, RN, MS, PB (pitbull)!

[Guest guest]

You are absolutely right Martha, which is why I too told her to keep

looking for a good gyn. There is no one answer and too often like you

said its a symptom of something physical that needs medical attention.

Huggles

>

> Hi,

> Sex and libido are so tricky, and people can be so quick to offer

> advice before a thoughtful and careful history and physical

assessment

> are done. No one can really give you advice over this list. There's

a

> lot of questions here that need to be answered before anyone should

> make any recommendations to you. For one thing, the whole hormone

> thing is complicated. Lack of libido in post-meno women is often due

> to low Testosterone. Women normally have T. in their systems; a

small

> dose post-meno can help. And yes, low estrogen leads to lack of

> lubrication. Estrogen cream (applied to the vagina) can help, and

and

> many types of artificial lube are terrific. But then there are other

> factors. Are you feeling blue? Feeling old? Depressed? Over-worked?

> Frazzled? Unattractive? Or maybe you're not attracted to your hub...

> He's started farting out loud, the parts don't fit together so well

> anymore, etc.? All these factors can play into the libido. And of

> course, lots of web sites make wild claims, want to sell you lots

> expensive things that may or may not work and can be harmful. Herbal

> companies are just as greedy as drug companies and Chinese herbs

often

> contain drugs that aren't listed (viagra, etc.), so you have to be

> careful. Sounds to me like you need to see your ob-gyn. If you don't

> have one who is concerned with sexual satisfaction, get a diff.

doctor.

> Later...Martha, RN, MS, PB (pitbull)!

>

[Guest guest]

The same goes for the guys! If the hubster isn't in synch with your

libido, it's probably not a lack of desirability on your part, and

it's definitely not something he's going to be anxious to talk

about. (The male ego is a fragile thing!) He may say it's stess,

overwork, the kids might hear, yada, yada . . . Gently encourage him

to see his PCP or a urologist, to rule out organic causes of

diminished libido. Discuss the meds he (and you) take. Many

(especially antidepressants) have undesireable libido-killing side

effects. If you suspect that's the culprit, see if there are

alternatives. Aging and menopause do not have to be barriers to the

best sex of your life. Especially post-WLS, which makes simple

access easier and endurance better!

Party on!

Tim

>

> Hi,

> Sex and libido are so tricky, and people can be so quick to offer

> advice before a thoughtful and careful history and physical

assessment

> are done. No one can really give you advice over this list.

There's a

> lot of questions here that need to be answered before anyone should

> make any recommendations to you. For one thing, the whole hormone

> thing is complicated. Lack of libido in post-meno women is often

due

> to low Testosterone. Women normally have T. in their systems; a

small

> dose post-meno can help. And yes, low estrogen leads to lack of

> lubrication. Estrogen cream (applied to the vagina) can help, and

and

> many types of artificial lube are terrific. But then there are

other

> factors. Are you feeling blue? Feeling old? Depressed? Over-worked?

> Frazzled? Unattractive? Or maybe you're not attracted to your

hub...

> He's started farting out loud, the parts don't fit together so well

> anymore, etc.? All these factors can play into the libido. And of

> course, lots of web sites make wild claims, want to sell you lots

> expensive things that may or may not work and can be harmful.

Herbal

> companies are just as greedy as drug companies and Chinese herbs

often

> contain drugs that aren't listed (viagra, etc.), so you have to be

> careful. Sounds to me like you need to see your ob-gyn. If you

don't

> have one who is concerned with sexual satisfaction, get a diff.

doctor.

> Later...Martha, RN, MS, PB (pitbull)!

>

[Guest guest]

Checking meds is a good idea. So many meds given for cholesterol,

high blood pressure, diabetis, etc etc all list dsyfunction as a

side effect. I know when hubby and I were experiencing difficulties

I went online and check out all his meds. Unfortunately, due to his

heart problems, there arent many alternatives and viagra almost

killed him(seriously, we had to go to the ER). But a little

creativity, patience, ego stroking, assurance etc...things are

definitely looking UP (pun intended LOL).

Huggles

> >

> > Hi,

> > Sex and libido are so tricky, and people can be so quick to offer

> > advice before a thoughtful and careful history and physical

> assessment

> > are done. No one can really give you advice over this list.

> There's a

> > lot of questions here that need to be answered before anyone

should

> > make any recommendations to you. For one thing, the whole hormone

> > thing is complicated. Lack of libido in post-meno women is often

> due

> > to low Testosterone. Women normally have T. in their systems; a

> small

> > dose post-meno can help. And yes, low estrogen leads to lack of

> > lubrication. Estrogen cream (applied to the vagina) can help,

and

> and

> > many types of artificial lube are terrific. But then there are

> other

> > factors. Are you feeling blue? Feeling old? Depressed? Over-

worked?

> > Frazzled? Unattractive? Or maybe you're not attracted to your

> hub...

> > He's started farting out loud, the parts don't fit together so

well

> > anymore, etc.? All these factors can play into the libido. And of

> > course, lots of web sites make wild claims, want to sell you lots

> > expensive things that may or may not work and can be harmful.

> Herbal

> > companies are just as greedy as drug companies and Chinese herbs

> often

> > contain drugs that aren't listed (viagra, etc.), so you have to

be

> > careful. Sounds to me like you need to see your ob-gyn. If you

> don't

> > have one who is concerned with sexual satisfaction, get a diff.

> doctor.

> > Later...Martha, RN, MS, PB (pitbull)!

> >

>