Re: Digest Number 2902

[Guest guest]

You're right, of course. But it is sooooo hard for me to take this in a

good light. So many people think everything that's wrong is a discipline

problem. My children not sleeping is another example. And yet when it

happens that one of theirs ends up being a non-sleeper, well, that's a

different story. After all, they've done everything right and their kid

still won't sleep. Haha.

It's so good that you have a friend who loves your son so much that she

doesn't see his problems (wouldn't be good as a parent, but someone outside

of raising him can see him that way). I'm afraid I don't have anyone like

that for the one who needs it most. But I guess the few who do love him

must authentically love him, it's not always so easy.

And you're right about this list, here there is understanding.

Lolita

>I'm sure in their narrow little minds, it was well-meaning. My girlfriend

>still says this to me. Any time I complain about any problems we are having,

>she'll say, " Well, that is why you should just drop him off with me. " In her

>case, she just means that she will keep him to give us a break, but I have a

>hard time taking it that way. She is extremely disorganized and her house is

>always an absolute wreck--even worse than mine. So when she says this I

>think, " There is NO way I would leave him over there. " Of course, she is one

>of my friends who loves my son so much that she just doesn't see any thing

>wrong with him. When I told her about his smeering poop on walls, etc again,

>she asked why he was doing that. I said, " Duh, because he is autistic! " Oh

>well. We should just let it roll of our backs and remember that we have

>understanding here on this list!

[Guest guest]

I took my son to the eye Dr. last week. Dominic wasn't very cooperative, so

the Dr. suggested that, at home, I cover one of his eyes and roll a tiny

marble or pellet in the opposite direction of him to see if he can track it.

I looked at him incredulously and said, " He can't even find his blanket when

he's holding it! " He looked at me dumbfounded and said, " Why not? " I guess

one day I'll just learn to keep my mouth shut.

Re: Digest Number 2902

> You're right, of course. But it is sooooo hard for me to take this in a

> good light. So many people think everything that's wrong is a discipline

> problem. My children not sleeping is another example. And yet when it

> happens that one of theirs ends up being a non-sleeper, well, that's a

> different story. After all, they've done everything right and their kid

> still won't sleep. Haha.

>

> It's so good that you have a friend who loves your son so much that she

> doesn't see his problems (wouldn't be good as a parent, but someone

outside

> of raising him can see him that way). I'm afraid I don't have anyone like

> that for the one who needs it most. But I guess the few who do love him

> must authentically love him, it's not always so easy.

>

> And you're right about this list, here there is understanding.

>

> Lolita

>

>

>

> >I'm sure in their narrow little minds, it was well-meaning. My

girlfriend

> >still says this to me. Any time I complain about any problems we are

having,

> >she'll say, " Well, that is why you should just drop him off with me. " In

her

> >case, she just means that she will keep him to give us a break, but I

have a

> >hard time taking it that way. She is extremely disorganized and her

house is

> >always an absolute wreck--even worse than mine. So when she says this I

> >think, " There is NO way I would leave him over there. " Of course, she is

one

> >of my friends who loves my son so much that she just doesn't see any

thing

> >wrong with him. When I told her about his smeering poop on walls, etc

again,

> >she asked why he was doing that. I said, " Duh, because he is autistic! "

Oh

> >well. We should just let it roll of our backs and remember that we have

> >understanding here on this list!

>

>

>