family get togethers and gfcf diet rant

[Guest guest]

I certainly can understand how frustrated you were, to go to that much work

that you went to for this party. It would have been nice if they could have

let you know about any changes ahead of time. I can't even make Gf / CF

lasagna. Noticing the diet helping was all very gradual. The change the

diet brings. are not always obvious, like some miraculous event that they

are autistic one day and not the next. I know cause I wondered does the diet

work. Is he any better? Why isn't he showing improvement? The only way to

gauge it for me was by using the ATEC scoring. He went down every few

months. I posted yesterday and I was really, really surprised how much cause

I didn't even realize it. He is down another 20 points or so. Gradual is

the key word. Take care.

[Guest guest]

Sometimes we have to forget other peoples feelings and tell them how we

really feel, otherwise it will fester and fester. You have enough on your

mind financial issues, medical issues, etc. I know first hand about those

issues.

Your sister changed her mind twice and left you with a food bill you didn't

need to occur. To prevent this from happening again, I would let her know

that this diet is expensive and worth the work but not extra work. Maybe

next time she will be more appreciative and not pull one of those stunts.

I have been there many times and finally after I told my in-laws and friends

how I felt and the position they put me into they realized that this is

important to my child and it never happened again. My in-laws even asked if

they could bake his special bread.

I don't want to cause a family squable but if you handle it after you calm

down then maybe, just maybe next time it won't happen.

Thanks for sharing with the group, this one is touchy for alot of people and

sometimes we just don't know how to handle it. Even though my in-laws don't

fully understand the situation, they don't pressure me or ask stupid

questions anymore.

You are a great parent for sticking with the diet and handling the situation

without confrontation.

Lot's of Luck

[Guest guest]

I am so afraid of just this thing with my in-laws. They tend to change

their minds so often and I am anticipating going through this. So I've

decided I'll make up the meal (going with whatever my kids want, with my

in-laws present menu in mind), take plenty of acceptable snacking foods and

hope for the best. If they end up having a different meal, then we'll have

to accept it. My real concern would be the other grand kids, if they

decide what I've brought looks better than what they have (you know how

kids can be). I'll be finding out this Easter. AGH.

Lolita

>So tons of work and money spent for special

>meals we never even have!

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 4/10/01 12:13:58 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

alwaysaway1@... writes:

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> , I decided once I realized how beneficial this diet is for my son

> that rather then play food police or listen to others say " Well I think

> ...... " , that all my holidays are at my house where all there is is

> GFCF, so if anyone wants to spend some holiday time with LJ and I, it is

> here with my rules, my food. After LJ goes to bed at 8 or 8;15, well

> then I maybe will take out a goooy ooooy cake, but all day till then it

> is GFCF food, drinks and snacks. LJ and I can have a good party time

> together that I really don't care if anyone wants to come or not.

>

You go girl!! This past Christmas when I tried to discuss the menu ahead of

time with my mother in law so that we could accommodate , she just

told me that I should " stick him in a high chair at the end of the table and

bring him some of HIS food... " Like he wouldn't notice that he was being

isolated and that everyone else was eating his former favorites while he

couldn't have them. Right. So and I stayed home and my m-i-l got to

have her food her way with her son and the two normal grandchildren. Ho ho

ho.

Can't wait for Easter...at my house...GFCF...my turf my rules...hahaha

I will never understand families that can't support their own.

M

[Guest guest]

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On Mon, 09 Apr 2001 20:56:02 -0700 Brad Bellendir BjmcBell@...>

writes:

> involvement in family activity, and problem solving. I hate to ruin

> Easter

> for the kids but I do not want to compromise this diet, either. We

> are going

> and I'm praying for the best.

>

> Frustrated with family already,

> , mom of Colby 3, Madison 5, and (on the way in June)

, I decided once I realized how beneficial this diet is for my son

that rather then play food police or listen to others say " Well I think

....... " , that all my holidays are at my house where all there is is

GFCF, so if anyone wants to spend some holiday time with LJ and I, it is

here with my rules, my food. After LJ goes to bed at 8 or 8;15, well

then I maybe will take out a goooy ooooy cake, but all day till then it

is GFCF food, drinks and snacks. LJ and I can have a good party time

together that I really don't care if anyone wants to come or not.

on Long Islnd New York

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