I need some support - OT

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In a message dated 5/19/2004 9:37:29 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

nowhiners@... writes:

So now I am left with the option of going through the legal hoops again of

going against my husbands wishes....which will cause great problems........Not

that I'm big on obeying my husband but I do like peace in our house. He also

wants to make sure that if needed the new baby will also not receive any blood

products.

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Well... now this is coming from a NJ girl with attitude

IF that was my husband ... I would tell him point blank that I will not only

ACCEPT blood products but because he can't be trusted with respecting MY

wishes.. I will have it done all legal.

While I am sure you love your husband... I take great issue with the fact he

would let you die on the OR table rather then save your life.

As a former cult member myself.. not Jehovahs... but an equally destructive

group ...

I will NEVER let anyone make any decisions for me.

Would he let one of your children die as well???

I couldn't and wouldn't stay married to someone who is willing to let me

die... for some stupid religious belief.. which btw has NO Biblical merit.

I would file for SOLE custody and he can have visitation rights.. but

absolutely NO rights to make any medical decisions.

Oh.. and big old Child support payments too!

I love my husband.. but I love my children more.. and thier safety and my

safety override ANYTHING I may feel for my husband.

A Marriage is a partnership... but when one partner is willing to let the

other die....I don't see a partnership.

- Mommy to:

Noah - 10/14/02 - 31 weeker - 3lbs 11 oz

edd November 18th

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I do NOT agree with the Jehovahs Witness either when it comes to this blood

issue. You are NOT a Witness therefore your husband should NOT expect you to

NOT receive blood if you should ever need any. That is just plain ridiculous. My

Moms best friedns daughter was in the hospital in need of blood or she was

going to die, she was NOT a BAPTISED witnes yet, just studying, and she refused

blood, this was like 35-40 years ago. her friend was devestated that her

daughter would rather die but my Mom, being a mouth like me, put up such a fuss

at

the hospital , saved her friends daughters life cause they gave her the blood

even though she did not want it. Today the girl is a middle age woman and

happy to be alive, she was never mad at my Mother for making them give her the

blood cause she was NOT BAPTISED but she is now and would be devestated. I think

if they want to NOT have blood that is their choice but should not deny it to

their spouses or children who cannot stand for their own rights. You are not

witness and you should tell him so, that is his beliefs and his idiot Mothers,

not yours and tell him you are not dying for that reason. Make sure your doc

knows how you feel and put it tin your chart. good Luck with them, i'm 100

percent on your side.

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

Age- 41

EDD- July 27th, 2004

IT'S A BOY!!!!!!

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 8 years),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

It's a BOY!!!!!

Emerson Roger

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Chrystal,

First let me say I am sorry you are going through this. I can't

imagine ANY parent willing to let their children die rather than let

them recieve something as simple as blood. Yes, there are instances

where disease have been spread through whole blood, but the benefits

far outweigh the risks. I'm sure thousands of pints of blood are

administered a day in this country alone to save lives. With all the

screening, its a relatively safe procedure. If that is his belief

and the belief of his family, then so be it. But you do not share

those beliefs, and you have the upper hand. You have the hospital on

your side, and the state as well. I have heard of that group

refusing whole blood before, relying on " prayer " to heal the

ailements. Well, in my opinion, you can pray until doomsday, but the

illness is still there, and it needs to be treated. You love your

husband, yes, but frankly, he's a nutcase if he'd rather see his

wife or child die than to recieve blood. As for the mother in law,

tell her flat out that they are YOUR children, not hers, she has no

power over you or them. You know what's best for you and them, the

decision is yours. I hope I didn't offend, but simple minded people

like that just burn my butt. I wish you all the best.

Pam

RNY Nov 12, 2002

296/165/170ish

EDD Nov 12, 2004

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" He also wants to make sure that if needed the new baby will also not receive

any blood products. "

My second daughter was born critical and we almost lost her more times than I

want to count. She is three and has had 3 blood transfusions and 12 surgeries.

I think God for her everyday and can not imagine what you must be going through.

Would it satisfy your husband if you donated your own blood incase you or the

baby needed it? Assuming of course, you would be a match for the baby, but you

could atleast donate blood in your name. A member of my local bypass group

recently had her plastic surgery done and she did this just incase. They ended

up using all she donated and more, but she was very thankful the majority of it

was hers. I do hope you come to some type of agreement soon.

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I will put my two cents in on this topic...as a husband I think I have a SAY in

what happens to my wife. But as far as a demand into what happens...NO...she is

her own person...and I respect ANY decision she makes about the well being of

herself...Now if it comes down to the baby inside of her...that is a different

subject...I feel I do have a say and demand as to what she does while she is

carring OUR child...But gennerally I respect any decisions she makes...because

she is a pretty level headed woman. And I really don't think I would never let

my religious beliefs dictate my life to where I would do such a thing to my

wife...especially if we come from two totally different religious

backgrounds...but what do I know im just a husband and have no sayso in here!!!

HAHAHAHAHAHA Just joking...I had to put that in...good luck on your situation

and just remember...

" That which does not kill us, makes us stronger "

Adam & e Gaspard

RNY 04.07.03

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Adam 394/258

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Adam,

Can we clone you? Please? Or better yet can you give classes about being a

good husband to others? That might be more practical and do-able.

Ferguson Rasley

mailto:dferguson@...

Re: Re: I need some support - OT

> I will put my two cents in on this topic...as a husband I think I have a

SAY in what happens to my wife. But as far as a demand into what

happens...NO...she is her own person...and I respect ANY decision she makes

about the well being of herself...Now if it comes down to the baby inside of

her...that is a different subject...I feel I do have a say and demand as to

what she does while she is carring OUR child...But gennerally I respect any

decisions she makes...because she is a pretty level headed woman. And I

really don't think I would never let my religious beliefs dictate my life to

where I would do such a thing to my wife...especially if we come from two

totally different religious backgrounds...but what do I know im just a

husband and have no sayso in here!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA Just joking...I had to put

that in...good luck on your situation and just remember...

> " That which does not kill us, makes us stronger "

>

> Adam & e Gaspard

> RNY 04.07.03

> e 370/245

> Adam 394/258

> EDD #1 08.31.04