behavior issues

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I need help and I need it now! My son is 3 1/2 and I DREAD taking him

anywhere! He whines and cries and begs to be held (he weighs 40lbs and also has

a brother I need to keep track of too) from the time I stop the van until we

head home again. I understand he has a fear of public places, new things etc.,

but what can I do? I can't leave him with a sitter because he goes balistic.

Besides, some of these " outings " are doctor apts. for him, so he really ought to

be there for them... I let him bring whatever toys, stuffed animals etc. that

he wants, I pack special treats, I give him advance warning and let him know

exactly where we're going. Any advise would be MUCH appreciated. Thanks so

much!

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need help and I need it now! My son is 3 1/2 and I DREAD taking

him anywhere! He whines and cries and begs to be held (he weighs 40lbs

and also has a brother I need to keep track of too) from the time I stop

the van until we head home again. I understand he has a fear of public

places, new things etc., but what can I do? I can't leave him with a

sitter because he goes balistic. Besides, some of these " outings " are

doctor apts. for him, so he really ought to be there for them... I let

him bring whatever toys, stuffed animals etc. that he wants, I pack

special treats, I give him advance warning and let him know exactly

where we're going. Any advise would be MUCH appreciated. Thanks so

much!

Hey :

Do you have a stroller for him? My daughter is also 3 1/2 and I find that

being in a stroller, and strapped in, is calming for her. That way at least

I know where she is and don't have to worry about her running off, too. I

know there was talk on the list about the larger strollers available for

special needs kids and believe that they were similar to the jogging

strollers that you see out and about. Someone on the list might be able to

help you find one if that is something you think might help?

Tamara, mom to Ebony-3 yrs old, autistic

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> need help and I need it now! My son is 3 1/2 and I DREAD taking

> him anywhere! He whines and cries and begs to be held (he weighs

40lbs

> and also has a brother I need to keep track of too) from the time I

stop

> the van until we head home again. I understand he has a fear of

public

> places, new things etc., but what can I do? I can't leave him with

a

> sitter because he goes balistic. Besides, some of these " outings "

are

> doctor apts. for him, so he really ought to be there for them... I

let

> him bring whatever toys, stuffed animals etc. that he wants, I pack

> special treats, I give him advance warning and let him know exactly

> where we're going. Any advise would be MUCH appreciated. Thanks

so

> much!

>

>

>

> Hey :

>

> Do you have a stroller for him? My daughter is also 3 1/2 and I

find that

> being in a stroller, and strapped in, is calming for her. That way

at least

> I know where she is and don't have to worry about her running off,

too. I

> know there was talk on the list about the larger strollers

available for

> special needs kids and believe that they were similar to the

jogging

> strollers that you see out and about. Someone on the list might be

able to

> help you find one if that is something you think might help?

>

>

> Tamara, mom to Ebony-3 yrs old, autistic

>

> _,

> When I need to take my 7 yr. old out I make sure I have things to

stimulate him, one of those battery operated sucker twirly things

(dum-dum suckers are gfcf) or headphones with soft music playing

(music that I know he likes)The sucker works best for my son, I think

the constant motion in his mouth give him something to focus on

besides all of the noise, and lights, and people. I also try to take

him alone. The constant talking of my two younger children really

bothers him in public especially with everything else that he has to

absord.

Good luck Deb

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