sibling pickiness

[Guest guest]

Hi all!

We've been on the diet for 18 months. When we started, my autie son was the

picky child. Here's what I don't get. He now eats all protein and veggies,

still a little shy on fruits, with the exception of melons. Its all in all,

great! My eldest son is another story. This child is a bear to deal with,

when it comes to food. He eats; chicken (batter only), hot dogs, brats,

pizza, tacos, roast chicken, french fries, potatoes, bologna, salami, some

cereal, waffles, pancakes, toast, peanut butter and jelly, and that's about

it. Now, compared to an autistic child, this would be great, however, he

has no autism or other disorder. I can't even bargain with this child. My

3 year old daughter is an evem better eater compared to her brothers. I

can't use reverse psychology on my eldest. In fact, nothing seems to work.

What is really perplexing is that my autistic son can be easily bribed. For

instance, if we are having fries, (like tonight), I say, " You have to eat

your meatloaf and peas before you can have fries " . No problem, he wolfes it

down and proclaims, " Now I can have fries! " . His brother is another story.

I swear he has a food phobia. Anyone else dealt with a perplexing child who

appears to fear foods? If so, any suggestion would be great. He usually

chooses to go hungry. I've gotten over the fear of him starving, but I wish

I could show him that food can be fun, if you give it a chance.

a - Madison WI mom to Alec 6.8 (oh soooo picky), 4.11

(ASD/SID/Resolved apraxia, and now the doc is proclaiming not autistic!),

3.1

[Guest guest]

hahaha!!! Just had to say I relate. My parents used to try to force me

to eat certain foods. Peas, in particular, I STILL hate. They have the

most disgusting texture. You bite them and then they explode in a ball

of squishiness in your mouth. YEECH! I remember sitting for hours at the

dinner table, long into the night. For me, the issue is still the

texture, combined with the nasty taste. (I hate lima beans too, for

texture reasons as well.) It could be some kind of sensory sensitivity.

I clearly remember throwing up after eating things my parents forced me

to as well. (FWIW, I think I am mildly ADD.)

My advice would be to not turn it into a power struggle. Don't make

special meals to cater to the pickiness but don't deliberately engage

your son in a fight either.

Suzanne

Foland wrote:

>

> All I can say is I can relate, I once had a struggle with my oldest child

> over peas. Tried everything I could think of to bribe him, I finially

> insisted he at least put one pea in his mouth and he promptly threw up.He is

> my child with ADHD and we tried gf/cf for him too but he would not comply at

> school or at friends houses so we gave up. Wish you much luck F