Re: Had 1st Dr Appt - Need Advice please

June 8, 2004

I recommend you change your ob/gyn. I didn't feel very great about my

first ob/gyn either, so I made an appointment with another ob/gyn.

I'm really glad I did, my new ob/gyn is a lot friendlier... the

office and staff are a lot nicer! If you are not sure about ditching

the first dr. then keep going to those appointments until you can get

in to see the new dr.

As for the pregnancy test, my first ob/gyn did not due any kind of

confirmation either. She said that with the home pregnancy test and

the missed period that I was pregnant... I would have felt better if

she had done a blood test or something...

> Alright it has been 10 years since I did this. My first child was

> born disabled - alot of complications and very high risk. Anyhow,

> after my weight loss surgery and years of worry, we decided again

to

> try and low and behold I am pregnant. Found out about 1 month

ago.

> I made an appt with a local OB/GYN on my insurance. I told the

girl

> at his office I had spot bleeding and still the first available was

> 3 weeks later, which was today. Lucky the bleeding stopped. I

also

> told her about the first pregnancy and Weight loss surgery.

>

> Alright what should I expect at a 1st appt? I left today feeling

so

> unsatisfied. The office staff was very cold and methocial. When I

> finally got in - the nurse said " So why are you here? " I said well

I

> am pregnant, she goes oh, we have you down for a consult. So I

> preceded to explain it all again, well she totally blew me off. I

> even stopped talking and said I will just explain to the doctor.

> Well he came in and I don't know it was so bizare, he just asked

> whats happening and I explained over again everything, and he goes

> into some speel about pre-natal care and taking vitamins and about

> all the tests that are available to determine if my new child has

> any problems like my prior son ( in case its hereditary etc.) Would

> we like to have these tests done. I said I would have to speak

with

> my husband. He rambled some more, I finally said can we check and

> make sure I am pregnant, or listen for the heartbeat, he said - " you

> have taken 3 pregnancy tests - your probably pregnant " and its too

> soon to hear a heartbeat, I swear I have read and seen others

print

> that you can do it (or at least try) around 8 weeks. I wanted to

> leave knowing from a Dr I was pregnant, I wanted to hear it, I felt

> so disappointed, am I just being hormanal. I almost felt like it

> was a waste of my time. What should have happened, I got a

terrible

> feeling from him and his staff, not a warm comforting feeling, I am

> so depressed, should I go back next week (he scheduled a sonogram)

> and give it one more try or find someone else. I think I am moody!

>

> Thanks

> Sherry in Florida

> 41 years old

> WLS 1/2/03

> 8 weeks pregnant

June 8, 2004

Sherry,

I am sorry you had such a bad time. I may have missed it your original email,

but how did you pick this particular doctor? If you don't feel comfortable with

this doctor find a new one (even if you go to the sonogram)...Unfortunately

sometimes office staff can be a little rude. The doctor may not even know it. It

is helpful to the doctor to hear of your experience with the office staff. I

went today for my first visit and it was great...but, I work with this doctor at

my hospital (I am an L&D nurse). He has been my doctor for the last 5+ yrs. He

knows my history (of my many miscarriages the past three have occurred under his

care).

Anyway, I hope you get it all worked out. Your pregnancy (including the drs

visits) should be a happy memory.

Good Luck

AZ

June 8, 2004

sherry,

externally, its hard to hear a FHB (fetal heart beat) at 8 weeks.

With an internal US, it is usually possible at 8 weeks. Next week at

the sonogram you will be able (most likely) to see and hear the FHB.

But with that being said, if you aren't comfortable with this

practice, find someone else now. Many don't want the responsibility

later in the pregnancy.

Since the OB docs and nurses see pregnancy all the time, it is

routine to them. Since we aren't pregnant and as familiar with

pregnancy as often as they are, IT IS SPECIAL TO US even if it isn't

to them. I wouldn't tolerate it one second. Find someone else,

preferably someone who comes highly recommended!

Sheila L&D RN

June 8, 2004

Yeah.. I would find another doctor.. I can't stand to be treated

like a moron.. and don't tolerate it at all!

As far as the baby goes.. they can hear the heartbeat on ultrasound

as early as 6 weeks.. but doppler.. my doctor wouldn't even try

before 10 weeks.. I don't think you are being particular at all..

This is your BABY you're talking about.. and nothing less than

caring, considerate doctors should do!

I had this happen to me last month:

I have asthma.. and as a result, I get bronchitis VERY easily. 2

months ago, I had asked my doctor about meds for allergies to help

control my asthma.. she suggested Claritin.. fine.. went on

claritin.

then, last month, 2 days before my checkup, I developed bronchitis..

all kinds of yucky green stuff.. Went to the doctor.. sick,

coughing, feeling completely AWFUL and you know what she did?? She

came in, asked if I was having any problems.. I, through my cough,

told her about the bronchitis, and she had the GALL to say " You

need to schedule an appointment with your family doctor " .

HELLO??!!!! I thought I was under the care of my OB while I was

pregnant!! I was (am) furious.. I went to an after-hour clinic.. and

sure enough, had bronchitis and was running a fever.. this was less

than 2 hours after leaving her office.. I called the nurse the next

morning and demanded to change doctors..

Trish

> Alright it has been 10 years since I did this. My first child was

> born disabled - alot of complications and very high risk. Anyhow,

> after my weight loss surgery and years of worry, we decided again

to

> try and low and behold I am pregnant. Found out about 1 month

ago.

> I made an appt with a local OB/GYN on my insurance. I told the

girl

> at his office I had spot bleeding and still the first available

was

> 3 weeks later, which was today. Lucky the bleeding stopped. I

also

> told her about the first pregnancy and Weight loss surgery.

>

> Alright what should I expect at a 1st appt? I left today feeling

so

> unsatisfied. The office staff was very cold and methocial. When

I

> finally got in - the nurse said " So why are you here? " I said well

I

> am pregnant, she goes oh, we have you down for a consult. So I

> preceded to explain it all again, well she totally blew me off. I

> even stopped talking and said I will just explain to the doctor.

> Well he came in and I don't know it was so bizare, he just asked

> whats happening and I explained over again everything, and he goes

> into some speel about pre-natal care and taking vitamins and

about

> all the tests that are available to determine if my new child has

> any problems like my prior son ( in case its hereditary etc.)

Would

> we like to have these tests done. I said I would have to speak

with

> my husband. He rambled some more, I finally said can we check and

> make sure I am pregnant, or listen for the heartbeat, he said -

" you

> have taken 3 pregnancy tests - your probably pregnant " and its too

> soon to hear a heartbeat, I swear I have read and seen others

print

> that you can do it (or at least try) around 8 weeks. I wanted to

> leave knowing from a Dr I was pregnant, I wanted to hear it, I

felt

> so disappointed, am I just being hormanal. I almost felt like it

> was a waste of my time. What should have happened, I got a

terrible

> feeling from him and his staff, not a warm comforting feeling, I

am

> so depressed, should I go back next week (he scheduled a sonogram)

> and give it one more try or find someone else. I think I am moody!

>

> Thanks

> Sherry in Florida

> 41 years old

> WLS 1/2/03

> 8 weeks pregnant

June 9, 2004

I know how you feel about those docs. I think they are so busy these days we

do not get the personal care we want or need anymore. I would say though that

your first appt sounds about right. Mine did not do anything either except a

pap smaear since I had not had one and a lab slip for alot of bloodwork. That

is standard around here. Other than that i felt like nothing was done for

awhile aafter that and they did not check for a heartbeat for awhile via the

doppler but they did see it on the sonogram. i would go for that appt if I were

you

and see how you feel after that. That way you can at least get the sonogram

and see how the baby is doing. I had bleeding for ALL my pregnancies and it is

quite common. Yours has stopped thank God so you are probably fine. I hope the

doc at least gave you some prenatal vitamins and told you to get some folic

acid. Make sure you take all you vitamins and eat as well as can be and you

should be fine. I am 41 years old too so i was quite worried this pregnancy

because of my age but things have been going well and I am now 33 weeks. Take

care

and if things are not better at your next appt then I would switch to someone

you feel more comfortable with...

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

Age- 41

EDD- July 27th, 2004

IT'S A BOY!!!!!!

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 8 years),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

It's a BOY!!!!!

Emerson Roger

June 9, 2004

In a message dated 6/8/2004 8:14:20 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

Avonnow@... writes:

What should have happened, I got a terrible

feeling from him and his staff, not a warm comforting feeling, I am

so depressed, should I go back next week (he scheduled a sonogram)

and give it one more try or find someone else. I think I am moody!

Thanks

Sherry in Florida

41 years old

WLS 1/2/03

8 weeks pregnant

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Hmmm.. sounds like Holy Cross Medical OBGYN group in Ft Lauderdale..

Not ALL drs and practices are like that... but some are.

With my first.. HCM group was HORRIBLE.... you get better care at a free

clinic...

See what the U/S holds.. if you still don't like 'em... find another

practice... maybe one with a midwife? Lots of practices down here in Florida

have

midwives..

- Mommy to:

Noah - 10/14/02 - 31 weeker - 3lbs 11 oz

Deanna Marie or Jonah due November 18th - 2004

http://www.love-my-kids.com

June 9, 2004

I don't think you are moody I think you should find another doctor.

If you have these feelings from your first appointment form the

entire staff you need to find sombody that makes you feel important

and welcomed with 100% trust between you and the doctor. I would find

another and at the moment I'm not feeling perticularly moody. I think

I would still show up for the US because it might be awhile styill

before sombody else can take you as a new patient and the US will put

your mind at ease but definately LOOK for another doc. - Diane