Had 1st Dr Appt - Need Advice please

June 8, 2004

Alright it has been 10 years since I did this. My first child was

born disabled - alot of complications and very high risk. Anyhow,

after my weight loss surgery and years of worry, we decided again to

try and low and behold I am pregnant. Found out about 1 month ago.

I made an appt with a local OB/GYN on my insurance. I told the girl

at his office I had spot bleeding and still the first available was

3 weeks later, which was today. Lucky the bleeding stopped. I also

told her about the first pregnancy and Weight loss surgery.

Alright what should I expect at a 1st appt? I left today feeling so

unsatisfied. The office staff was very cold and methocial. When I

finally got in - the nurse said " So why are you here? " I said well I

am pregnant, she goes oh, we have you down for a consult. So I

preceded to explain it all again, well she totally blew me off. I

even stopped talking and said I will just explain to the doctor.

Well he came in and I don't know it was so bizare, he just asked

whats happening and I explained over again everything, and he goes

into some speel about pre-natal care and taking vitamins and about

all the tests that are available to determine if my new child has

any problems like my prior son ( in case its hereditary etc.) Would

we like to have these tests done. I said I would have to speak with

my husband. He rambled some more, I finally said can we check and

make sure I am pregnant, or listen for the heartbeat, he said - " you

have taken 3 pregnancy tests - your probably pregnant " and its too

soon to hear a heartbeat, I swear I have read and seen others print

that you can do it (or at least try) around 8 weeks. I wanted to

leave knowing from a Dr I was pregnant, I wanted to hear it, I felt

so disappointed, am I just being hormanal. I almost felt like it

was a waste of my time. What should have happened, I got a terrible

feeling from him and his staff, not a warm comforting feeling, I am

so depressed, should I go back next week (he scheduled a sonogram)

and give it one more try or find someone else. I think I am moody!

Thanks

Sherry in Florida

41 years old

WLS 1/2/03

8 weeks pregnant

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