Re: OT: School system put my son in danger!

[Guest guest]

My GOODNESS what school disticy was that!

You are absolutly right, you must visit the school as often as you can.

I am a working mom I have a NT son 10yrs and a son with PDD. Both my boys are

extremly passive (I have no idea who they came out like) I make it a point

to visit there schools as often as possible for that reason children can be

mean sometimes.

My older son has an assignment pad, and if I can't visit I right in his

assignment and I make sure I get a response. That also goes for my 3yr old.

You have to always be involved especially when it comes to your childs ed.

You should of went to the board of ed to make a complaint on the

Principle,and those others who were involved in your childs education. GOOD

LUCK with your child.

Best wishes

Rebekha

West.N.Y

[Guest guest]

Thank you for sharing your story with the group. This is important to hear

and has strengthened my position to homeschool my children.

I hope and pray that your son and family recover from those incidents. I pray

that the teacher and the school district are punished for knowingly placing

your child at risk.

It could have turned out far worse.

Keep us posted on his progress, if you like e-mail me privately.

Sharon

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 4/28/01 2:14:56 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

feistygal@... writes:

> I hope your children are in better situations than mine was. Please,

> Please, Please visit the classroom and stay in contact with your

> children's teacher. My son could have been severely hurt by the two

> violent boys in the class. His learning suffered, that much I know.

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Kim! My heart goes out to you and my prayers are with you. Thanks for

sharing your story as my child is 3 and just entering this system. I will be

vigilant and remember what you have said.

Debbie

[Guest guest]

My heart breaks to think of your son in that

situation, and to wonder how many other children are

suffering in the special education ghetto that most

school systems create. My son, as a very small four

year old, was placed in a school primarily for kids

with violent behavioral disorders. I had been assured

that the teacher was wonderful and the class had a lot

going for it, and that my son wouldn't be safe in a

more advanced class because he would be able to run

out of the classroom. So I allowed him to be placed

there. He went for almost four days, Monday through

Thursday, being taken and picked up by my husband and

mother as I settled into a new job. I'd been

wondering where he learned to flap his hands, as he'd

never done it before, but it wasn't too huge a

concern. On Thursday I went in the middle of the day

to pick him up for private therapy. Alarm bells

started to go off when the secretary at the front

office didn't want to allow me to go to his classroom

without an escort. When I started walking there on my

own, she followed me, twittering about how the school

counselor should be there to explain to me what I was

seeing. And what I saw was one teacher trying to

control two separate classroom areas. Some students

were sitting at desks in one area, but my son was

among the kids sitting in the other room, watching a

video. The teacher spent her time going from one

child to another, stopping their self injurious self

stims, each in turn. This is the point at which I

stalked into the classroom, grabbed my son and his

things and announced that he was never setting foot in

that classroom again. One of the ladies who had done

his IEP (the one who insisted he come to this school)

appeared at my side and insisted I had it all wrong

and I was going to be in trouble if my son didn't go

to school - after all, it'd be truancy. By this time

I was so furious, so all encompassingly angry, that I

couldn't even swear. I very calmly told her that if

that was the case I'd see her in court. I followed it

with the suggestion that if the public schools

couldn't come up with a placement that was acceptable

to me, they were going to pay for him to get an

education privately. Lo and behold, he was in the

best program offered by the county within a week.

Why do I tell this story? Because I want as many

people as possible to realize that they have power.

The school system would much rather spend money on

nice tables for the Board of Education office than for

special ed. The only way to get what you want is to

be the squeaking wheel. No one else is going to fight

for your child to get what he/she is entitled to under

the law, and most parents don't realize that they CAN

fight, and that they DO have alternatives. The staff

at my son's school and at the Board of Ed downtown

don't much care for me, but they respect me.

--Sharlene

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[Guest guest]

Kim,

You should immediately sue the school for due process. They have a

responsibility to provide your child with a free and appropriate education.

The teacher and the psychologist have admitted that they have not provided

that. They must then find an environment that is appropriate for your child.

Don't let this go.

Good luck,

[Guest guest]

Kim,

I'm so sorry that has experienced such a thing! Good for you for

taking him out of that situation. Homeschooling is not a walk in the

park but it is effective. More so than anything else available through

the public school system IMO. You can learn quite easily (without

formal testing that may or may not be accurate) what is capable

of. Is he getting ABA?

If you want help with idea's about homeschooling please feel free to

e-mail me privately. I have a lot of information about resources and

depending on where you live you may be able to get federal dollars for

your home school supplies.

Let me know if I can help.

Jeannie

[Guest guest]

I agree! Letting this go, would be a great injustice, not just for you, but

future families. What kind of Principal runs this school anyway? Where was

he/she in this ordeal?

a

> Kim,

> You should immediately sue the school for due process. They have a

> responsibility to provide your child with a free and appropriate

education.

> The teacher and the psychologist have admitted that they have not provided

> that. They must then find an environment that is appropriate for your

child.

> Don't let this go.

> Good luck,

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