RE: Re: Need some advice

[Guest guest]

I have a 2 boys One " typical " he's 10 and one 21/2 with PDD(Gabe).

Gabe is getting all the services he needs and will be transitioning to pre

school in the fall. Gabe has come a long but still has a way to go. It has

been very hard for me and my family especially my 10 yr old. I never knew it

bothered him till I asked how he would feel if I had another baby. He just

started to cry. I asked him why he was so upset and he says " it so hard with

Gabe already and I don't want another baby if it's gonna be like Gabe " . That

hurt me and his dad a whole lot but that's how he feels. is involved

with a lot of activities, he is aware of what his baby bro has. It's not like

we don't make time for ken. I do understand how he feels because deep down

inside I feel the same way. I do want another child but I'm so afraid

something just might go wrong. Gabe has had genetic testing metobolic

testing mri eeg cat scan and everything has come up to be normal. I strongly

believe his pdd had to with the mmr vac- after the vacc he lost his speech

and everything else.

I have read that there was a strong possibilty that the next child can suffer

from the same thing. Is this true? Is there anyone out there who had a

" typical " child after an Autitic one? I don't mean to sound so shallow I love

my Gabe with all my heart and soul and will go to the ends of the earth for

him but it has been a hard road and I wouldn't like to go through this again.

Rebekha

NY

[Guest guest]

Thanks ,

I guess this is something I really have to think about. I was speaking to

my husband last night in regards to having another child,and how afraid I was

of the child being born with some sort of disability and of course he said "

no book or person is gonna give you the answers you need, just do what your

heart says. He may be right but he's not the one who has to deal with all

that comes with a disability. Gabe will be 3 on the 21 of May, I think i'm

gonna wait to see how he progresses then I'll make my decision. Thanks for

being so sincere.

Big hugs

Rebekha

Westchester N.Y.

[Guest guest]

Rebekha,

I was and am in the same boat you are in. I have a 9 year old son who is NT

and who is my 5 year old who was diagnosed a little over a year ago

but we knew there was something going on from age 2. Christian (my 9 year

old) is very caring and sweet. He loves babies but other peoples babies.

When we discussed having another child a few years ago it was totally out of

the question for him. He did not want to go through everything all over

again. At first I couldn't believe he could say such a thing but when I look

back now he had it pretty tough. There were alot of places and things we

just couldn't or didn't do because of . Not that I didn't want to do

anything but could just not handle it and I didn't feel it was fair

for him to go through that or for the family. I would have LOVED to have had

another child but I've given my heart and soul to and just like

said I am afraid of doing it again. I love both of my children to death and

Christian loves and understands now and defends his brother when he

needs to but it's been a very hard road. Maybe one day I will have one more

but for now everyday I try to repair what was broken before and not just with

but with Christian my husband and myself. I know it is so sad because

I think would love to have a little brother or sister but for now this

is what is good for us. Good luck in whatever you choose.

MA

[Guest guest]

THANK YOU

You are soooo right. Good Luck to you and your family.

Rebekha

west. N.Y.