Re: newby here...NEVER thought this would happen!!! : )

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Welcome, Vicki!

I can't say much about your situation except I am terribly sorry that if you

are bringing a new wonderful baby into this world that it will not have two

parents..........BUT, that being said, one WONDERFUL mommie is PLENTY. Love

is the most important thing you can give a child and all they really need to

be happy.

I'm sure you'll find much support in this group and look for other support

where you need it elsewhere. You can do this if you choose to and you'll come

through with flying colors. Just do what you feel is right for you and your

personal situation!!! The rest will all take care of itself the way it's

intended.

Congrats on your awesome weight loss. I'm about the same amount postop as

you (had surgery 09/02) and I was 316 at surgery, 186 when I got pregnant (2

weeks after gallbladder surgery BTW). Now I'm about 207-208 give or take the

time of day at 32 weeks. Do I enjoy the weight gain?? Absolutely not! Will

I live through it? Sure I will and will take it off afterwards, especially

with the help of breast-feeding!

As far as your low self-esteem.....I can TOTALLY relate to that one. It's

not a bad idea to sort through that with some counseling as you surely do not

want to pass that on to your child. Security is contagious, as is

insecurity.

Anyway, BEST OF LUCK!! Feel free to use the group as a sounding board, or

even E-mail me privately. Your story touches me and I can feel both your

excitement and your trepidation and I wish you the peace of mind to deal with

and

accept your situation in whatever way works for you!

Take care,

Mandi in Concord, NC

Postop Distal RNY 09/23/02

Mom of 3 boys - 10, Chad 7 and 4!

32 weeks pregnant with #4 !

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Vicki,

Welcome to the group. I wish I had found this group BEFORE I became

pregnant for the 2nd time at age 37. I commiserate with you about your

situation, but I know God knows all things and everything happens for

a reason. After my heartbreaking bout with secondary infertility, I

know how precious the miracle of life is. It is the closest to God

that we'll ever be until the day comes that we finally get to meet

Him. That baby is inside of YOU for a reason, even though you don't

know what the reason is at the time. There are so many people who

would love to have your baby if indeed you did decide to place him/her

up for adoption. Abortion is not the answer that your " boyfriend "

seems to think. If you aren't totally certain about what you want to

do, please call someone/anyone about your options before considering

termination of the pregnancy. Have you been able to see or hear the

heartbeat yet? It's a total miracle. Just wait til you FEEL he/she

move/flutter and kick for the first time (and every time thereafter).

It's so precious. You say you are a " Great Aunt " so I'm most certain

you'll be an even more wonderful " Mommy " because there's nothing like

having your own children.

congratulations and best wishes, we can't wait to follow your

pregnancy with you!

as far as vitamins, everyone has different regimens they do. I am now

taking 3 Flintstones a day (without iron), IV iron infusions, 3 500mg

calcium Citracals a day, 5,000mcg sublingual B12 and a folic acid.

Sheila