-Doula question and update on my situation

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Dang!!! I sure do wish I had known this before Hannah was born. If I had maybe

I would not have had all the drama with the hospital, with the nurses jumping to

conclusions about the meds I was on and then the stupid social worker calling

CPS and saying my kid tested positive for every drug on the planet! Turns out

the chic read the report wrong, saying things were positive when the report was

saying it was negative. Maybe if I had someone there being my eyes and ears all

this crap would have been avoided. Could a Doula have helped in this situation

? If thats the case when hubby and I try for our second child I will

definitely keep this in mind.

Today hubby and I are going to see a lawyer about all this because though I have

been totally cleared I will have a " report " on record with CPS for the next 4

years. Yesterday I got a " card " from the head nurse of the OB department saying

once again how sorry she was about all the crap that happened to Hannah and I,

and then she said " Have your next trip to Target on us. " , and enclosed a $50

gift card. Personally I am completely insulted by this gesture!!! I get the

feeling that she is just trying to CYA (if you know what I mean). Who knows,

maybe she is really being genuine, but I'm not buying it. Besides, I have a

record now for the next 4 years due to no fault of my own and I'm just supposed

to forgive that with a shopping trip to Target? I don't think so! It should be

interesting to see what the atty. has to say about all this tonight, I just pray

that Hannah cooperates! LOL!!! Just another wonderful thing to record in the

baby book eh?

Axelrod

Re:

> On another note, I noticed you're a

> doula? On another board I belong too one of the girls there asked if I

> had been offered one through special delivery services but I don't

> think the Military has that

That's an awesome thing for that girl to bring up..=)

Special Delivery isn't offered through the military...it's offered TO military

wives. It's a

group of doulas who have gathered together to offer their services free of

charge to

military wives....it's offered by the doulas, not by the military...and it's

free.

Here is where you can find out more about it..

http://www.operationspecialdelivery.com/

>anyways but I could be wrong however in

> researching on Doulas and explaining to Jerry what a Doula is and what

> they do he feels that he would be left out since she would be the one

> doing everything. Am I right on this or totally off? Thanks,

The doula is not the one doing everything...not at all. In fact we are there

as much

for the dad as we are for the mom...the doulas level of involvement depends

totally

on what the mom and dad want/need. We're there to help with the birth in

whatever

way we can...not to take it over.

Maybe you (and he) should talk to some people who have used doulas at their

births? I've hired two doulas for each of the times I've given birth...but

me, being

who I am, I'm a bit biased - so it would probably be good for you to hear from

someone unbiased. =)

Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you...

Soderblom CCCE CD(DONA) ICD CLD

Student Midwife

CAPPA Board of Directors - Advisor

Birth Doula/Childbirth Educator/Pregnancy-Birth Photography

Mesa, AZ

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Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3