newby here...NEVER thought this would happen!!! : )

June 15, 2004

Vicki,

First of all, you need to forget about the father of your child. Start

thinking about you and the baby. Let him be that way. It takes two to tango and

if he is going to be immature about this, then he will have to deal with this

later in life. You cannot be stressed and worried, b/c if you stay this way,

then you can miscarry the baby. My cousin miscarried, due to wondering,

worrying and stessing.I am not trying to scare you, I am only trying to help

you.

You need to go to an OB doctor and get checked and put on prenatal vitamins

right away. You will gain some weight, but that is just part of pregnancy. You

WILL lose the gained weight after you give birth. We are all here for you and

you are not alone! Take care of yourself and your baby! May God guide you and

Bless you and your baby!

Paradise, TX

Lap Gastric Bypass: 4-18-03

Internal hernia repairs &

Gallbladder removal: 2-12-04

Dr. Kuhn

- 100 pounds!

Mother of 2 year old & just

found out I am pregnant with #2!

June 15, 2004

Hello group....

I finally found this group. I had a gastric bypass 7/31/02 and had a

pretty uneventful journey for the most part. No complications but a

little over a year post op, I had gallbladder problems. No stones,

just sludge, so had my gallbladder removed 9/2/03. Once again, no

problems and I've been doing pretty well since.

I stopped losing weight about a year or so post op and I know it's

due to my lack of will power and control!! I kept thinking I better

get this under control before I start gaining weight back.

I started at 311 pounds. When I got sick with my gallbladder stuff I

had gotten down to 194. At the time of my Gallbladder surgery I was

199. Now...I'm at 215.

So, what brings me here? Well...after losing weight, I finally

started dating. I was having a really great time. I met someone and

ended up getting pregnant. I NEVER though I'd ever become a mother.

I'm 36 years old, never been married and never been pregnant. I've

been sexually active since I was 15 and when I found the urine test

to be possitive I was shocked, to say the least. Especially since

the 'father'had a vasectomy a year ago last April! He has a redo

scheduled for early July now.

I had struggled with what to do about this unexpected pregnancy.

I've always wanted children and I'm the best Aunt. I love kids and I

seem to be a magnet to them. But...I'll be 37 in August and I'm

still single and scared to death about this! I'm still in denial and

cannot believe that there's a baby growing inside of my body.

I have decided to go ahead and have this baby. There must be a

reason that I became pregnant and, even though I don't understand it

right now, I'm sure everything will be fine. I'll adjust and manage,

right?

The 'father' does not want this child. He has two from a previous

marriage and says he doesn't have the time, energy, or money for

more. We talked and talked and talked, over and over, about our

options and he's decided that he's not going to be involved at all.

Of course I'm sad about this, but what can I do about it? There's

many women who do this on their own, right?

Here's the emotional part about all of this. I know I'm not the only

one in this group who's had a low self-esteem problem. I've

struggled with my weight all my life. I've heard it all: " You have

such a pretty face... " Blah, blah, blah. Even after I lost so much

weight, I still saw myself as I was. It was very difficult for me to

put myself out there and start dating. I never REALLY did it before

I lost weight. Then I met this guy. He was NOT my type at all.

He's very athletic. Only 5'7 " and 13% body fat. I'm 5'3 " and more

than 13% body fat! After we met (through speed dating....) and he

wanted to go out with me I told him that I was not his type and

didn't think we should. He responded that he didn't know if we were

each other's types but that he liked me when he met me and loved

talking on the phone and he'd still like to go out. So, I decided

that we'd go out 'as friends' only. Well...we had a great time and

then we had a GREAT TIME!!! And now I'm expecting a baby in January

2005. The saddest part about all of this is that after we went out,

we had decided to be 'just friends' and then I found out I was

pregnant. And now, because he's so stressed about our situation, he

doesn't want to even talk to me. He said, " I can't eat, sleep and

I'm so grouchy around my kids and at work that this is just too much

for me to deal with. I'm not going to call you and I don't want you

to call me unless you're ready to have an abortion. Please don't

call to tell me what the sex of the baby is, when it's born or what

you decide to name it. "

I'm sorry that I'm going on about all of the drama about this, but I

guess I'm hoping that there's someone else out there that's gone

through this or can relate.

So...now that I'm pregnant, what do I do?

I find that if I eat every couple hours, I'm okay. I haven't had any

morning sickness that I KNOW of. I guess I feel like I'm just

nauseated or 'dumping' due to my WLS. Who knows? Has anyone else

experienced this?

What about prenatal vitamins? Are they enough with our system?

Should I be eating every couple hours? I don't want to gain a whole

lot of weight with this. That's my BIGGEST concern. I know I'll

gain a little, but I know I don't HAVE to. I've heard of overweight

women losing during pregnancy. Anyone have any advice for me?

Thanks for any thoughts or advice you all can give me in advance.

Vicki

Post op 7/31/02 Rou-en-y

Drs. Waldrep and Suh

California

311/194/215

due date 1/17/2005

Vickistown95660 @ yahoo.com

June 15, 2004

hi vicky big hugs to you i have never been in the situation youve been

placed in but i wanted to offer my congrats to you on the baby and to tell you

that im sorry for what your having to go through with the father of the baby. i

had a son at 23 in 1993, turnd 24 two months later and tried and tried for years

to have another with no luck. i was 33 and aprox 16 months post op, when very

surprisingly got preggo! i was in shock! never thought id be blessed with

becoming a mommy again. well, god had other plans for us! i worried about my age

a bit, how would everyone adjust? how would we handle it financially etc etc

etc? then i went back to " god had other plans " im very spiritual and i feel that

we choose the person and family we want to be born to and i also strongly feel,

as another poster mentioned " if god brings you to it, he will get you through

it " believe it !and know that your baby chose you, especially you to be his or

her mommy, to care and bestow all your love upon he

or she. im an older mommy this time around and i wondered how i would be, i am

actually better! more patient, more knowledgable, more energy (even being older

hehe!) i think the wls has helped with me having more energy for sure!! we are

thinking of trying for a third maybe when kerigan is about 1 and a half or two,

and the lord willing, if i have another, that will make me even older! there

are programs out there to help you if finances are an issue, WIC being a really

good one, while preggo, you may be able to get food to assure proper nutrition

for you while your carrying baby and after baby is born, if you choose to

breastfeed, they will continue with food for you and give a breastpump to you,

if you choose to formula feed, youd be given monthy formula coupons and then

eventually cereal and juice and baby food coupons to help out as well.there may

be other programs out there even, i just know wic for sure since my friend has

gotten wic with her pregnancy. good luck to you

with everything and there are many friendly people on this group to offer

support and friendship to you! hugs to you , carrie

Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3

June 15, 2004

Hi Vicky!

just wanted to welcome you to the group! Congrats on the weight

loss - and your pregnancy. Yes, things happen for a reason and I am

really proud of you for deciding to continue with the pregnancy.

Abortion is not an easy quick fix like so many have thought. I have

a couple friends who elected to have them and they have suffered for

years with their decision.

I am taking a prescription Prenatal vitamin, a B-12 injection, and

folic acid.. but that's it. You will find that everyone is on

something different.. but that's ok! We're all here to support and

educate to the best of our abilities.

I just now have started to gain weight - and I am 18 weeks, 3 days

along.. I have gained 3 pounds total. A lot of women have actually

lost weight in their pregnancies.. and that can happen too! So it

runs the gamet- just how your body responds.

I find that I have to eat every couple hours.. Otherwise, I just

don't get in all the food I need.. I will have a bowl of cereal for

breakfast, then a snack - then lunch, afternoon snack, dinner- late

night snack (usually whatever I lack through the day - I try to

sneak in here..if I am low on dairy - ICE CREAM!! YUM!!)

Hope that helps.. and welcome!

Trish

> Hello group....

> I finally found this group. I had a gastric bypass 7/31/02 and

had a

> pretty uneventful journey for the most part. No complications but

a

> little over a year post op, I had gallbladder problems. No

stones,

> just sludge, so had my gallbladder removed 9/2/03. Once again, no

> problems and I've been doing pretty well since.

> I stopped losing weight about a year or so post op and I know it's

> due to my lack of will power and control!! I kept thinking I

better

> get this under control before I start gaining weight back.

> I started at 311 pounds. When I got sick with my gallbladder

stuff I

> had gotten down to 194. At the time of my Gallbladder surgery I

was

> 199. Now...I'm at 215.

> So, what brings me here? Well...after losing weight, I finally

> started dating. I was having a really great time. I met someone

and

> ended up getting pregnant. I NEVER though I'd ever become a

mother.

> I'm 36 years old, never been married and never been pregnant.

I've

> been sexually active since I was 15 and when I found the urine

test

> to be possitive I was shocked, to say the least. Especially since

> the 'father'had a vasectomy a year ago last April! He has a redo

> scheduled for early July now.

> I had struggled with what to do about this unexpected pregnancy.

> I've always wanted children and I'm the best Aunt. I love kids

and I

> seem to be a magnet to them. But...I'll be 37 in August and I'm

> still single and scared to death about this! I'm still in denial

and

> cannot believe that there's a baby growing inside of my body.

> I have decided to go ahead and have this baby. There must be a

> reason that I became pregnant and, even though I don't understand

it

> right now, I'm sure everything will be fine. I'll adjust and

manage,

> right?

> The 'father' does not want this child. He has two from a previous

> marriage and says he doesn't have the time, energy, or money for

> more. We talked and talked and talked, over and over, about our

> options and he's decided that he's not going to be involved at

all.

> Of course I'm sad about this, but what can I do about it? There's

> many women who do this on their own, right?

> Here's the emotional part about all of this. I know I'm not the

only

> one in this group who's had a low self-esteem problem. I've

> struggled with my weight all my life. I've heard it all: " You

have

> such a pretty face... " Blah, blah, blah. Even after I lost so

much

> weight, I still saw myself as I was. It was very difficult for me

to

> put myself out there and start dating. I never REALLY did it

before

> I lost weight. Then I met this guy. He was NOT my type at all.

> He's very athletic. Only 5'7 " and 13% body fat. I'm 5'3 " and

more

> than 13% body fat! After we met (through speed dating....) and he

> wanted to go out with me I told him that I was not his type and

> didn't think we should. He responded that he didn't know if we

were

> each other's types but that he liked me when he met me and loved

> talking on the phone and he'd still like to go out. So, I decided

> that we'd go out 'as friends' only. Well...we had a great time

and

> then we had a GREAT TIME!!! And now I'm expecting a baby in

January

> 2005. The saddest part about all of this is that after we went

out,

> we had decided to be 'just friends' and then I found out I was

> pregnant. And now, because he's so stressed about our situation,

he

> doesn't want to even talk to me. He said, " I can't eat, sleep and

> I'm so grouchy around my kids and at work that this is just too

much

> for me to deal with. I'm not going to call you and I don't want

you

> to call me unless you're ready to have an abortion. Please don't

> call to tell me what the sex of the baby is, when it's born or

what

> you decide to name it. "

> I'm sorry that I'm going on about all of the drama about this, but

I

> guess I'm hoping that there's someone else out there that's gone

> through this or can relate.

> So...now that I'm pregnant, what do I do?

> I find that if I eat every couple hours, I'm okay. I haven't had

any

> morning sickness that I KNOW of. I guess I feel like I'm just

> nauseated or 'dumping' due to my WLS. Who knows? Has anyone else

> experienced this?

> What about prenatal vitamins? Are they enough with our system?

> Should I be eating every couple hours? I don't want to gain a

whole

> lot of weight with this. That's my BIGGEST concern. I know I'll

> gain a little, but I know I don't HAVE to. I've heard of

overweight

> women losing during pregnancy. Anyone have any advice for me?

> Thanks for any thoughts or advice you all can give me in advance.

>

> Vicki

> Post op 7/31/02 Rou-en-y

> Drs. Waldrep and Suh

> California

> 311/194/215

> due date 1/17/2005

> Vickistown95660 @ yahoo.com

June 15, 2004

Hi Vickie. I applaud you, 1st of all. Your words convey wisdom &

endurance. Your baby is fortunate to have a loving mom like you.

& about the dad, the song " I'm gonna wash that man right outta my hair

& send him on his way " comes to mind. Too bad about his

blackheartedness.

As a 1st timer, I can tell you just how miraculous & transcendental

mommyhood is. 2 wks ago @ the heartbeat appt, i felt pure pure joy &

elation.

There's a link on the homepage re supplementation.

Wishing you serenity,

WlsMomma

13 weeks 1 day

> Hello group....

> So, what brings me here? Well...after losing weight, I finally

> started dating. I was having a really great time. I met someone and

> ended up getting pregnant. I NEVER though I'd ever become a mother.

> I'm 36 years old, never been married and never been pregnant. I've

> been sexually active since I was 15 and when I found the urine test

> to be possitive I was shocked, to say the least. Especially since

> the 'father'had a vasectomy a year ago last April! He has a redo

> scheduled for early July now.

> I had struggled with what to do about this unexpected pregnancy.

> I've always wanted children and I'm the best Aunt. I love kids and I

> seem to be a magnet to them. But...I'll be 37 in August and I'm

> still single and scared to death about this! I'm still in denial and

> cannot believe that there's a baby growing inside of my body.

> I have decided to go ahead and have this baby. There must be a

> reason that I became pregnant and, even though I don't understand it

> right now, I'm sure everything will be fine. I'll adjust and manage,

> right?

> The 'father' does not want this child. He has two from a previous

> marriage and says he doesn't have the time, energy, or money for

> more. We talked and talked and talked, over and over, about our

> options and he's decided that he's not going to be involved at all.

> Of course I'm sad about this, but what can I do about it? There's

> many women who do this on their own, right?

> Here's the emotional part about all of this. I know I'm not the only

> one in this group who's had a low self-esteem problem. I've

> struggled with my weight all my life. I've heard it all: " You have

> such a pretty face... " Blah, blah, blah. Even after I lost so much

> weight, I still saw myself as I was. It was very difficult for me to

> put myself out there and start dating. I never REALLY did it before

> I lost weight. Then I met this guy. He was NOT my type at all.

> He's very athletic. Only 5'7 " and 13% body fat. I'm 5'3 " and more

> than 13% body fat! After we met (through speed dating....) and he

> wanted to go out with me I told him that I was not his type and

> didn't think we should. He responded that he didn't know if we were

> each other's types but that he liked me when he met me and loved

> talking on the phone and he'd still like to go out. So, I decided

> that we'd go out 'as friends' only. Well...we had a great time and

> then we had a GREAT TIME!!! And now I'm expecting a baby in January

> 2005. The saddest part about all of this is that after we went out,

> we had decided to be 'just friends' and then I found out I was

> pregnant. And now, because he's so stressed about our situation, he

> doesn't want to even talk to me. He said, " I can't eat, sleep and

> I'm so grouchy around my kids and at work that this is just too much

> for me to deal with. I'm not going to call you and I don't want you

> to call me unless you're ready to have an abortion. Please don't

> call to tell me what the sex of the baby is, when it's born or what

> you decide to name it. "

> I'm sorry that I'm going on about all of the drama about this, but I

> guess I'm hoping that there's someone else out there that's gone

> through this or can relate.

> So...now that I'm pregnant, what do I do?

> I find that if I eat every couple hours, I'm okay. I haven't had any

> morning sickness that I KNOW of. I guess I feel like I'm just

> nauseated or 'dumping' due to my WLS. Who knows? Has anyone else

> experienced this?

> What about prenatal vitamins? Are they enough with our system?

> Should I be eating every couple hours? I don't want to gain a whole

> lot of weight with this. That's my BIGGEST concern. I know I'll

> gain a little, but I know I don't HAVE to. I've heard of overweight

> women losing during pregnancy. Anyone have any advice for me?

> Thanks for any thoughts or advice you all can give me in advance.

>

> Vicki

> Post op 7/31/02 Rou-en-y

> Drs. Waldrep and Suh

> California

> 311/194/215

> due date 1/17/2005

> Vickistown95660 @ yahoo.com

June 15, 2004

Sheila, Mandi, Donna, , , Trish and everyone....

Thanks so much for the warm welcome and good wishes. I know I'm not

alone in this and I know everything will work out.

Just so you know, I will keep the baby. Abortion is NOT an option

for me and I know that if I carry this baby for 9 months and deliver

it, I couldn't let it go. Ever!!!

I always wanted a baby. It was just recently that I had decided that

I'm too old and too settled in my life to have one. Guess the Man

upstairs had different plans, right?

I just NEVER thought I'd be a Mom! That's the biggest shock here.

Like I mentioned in my first post, I'm glad I found this group. I

have to thank someone from another WLS group that I belong to for

giving me this information.

Anyway, I just wanted to thank you all for your advice. I have seen

an OB already. I am taking Prenatal Vitamins. I'm TRYING to eat

healthy so I don't gain too much weight. My OB said she'd allow me

to lose 10 pounds if I could, but that's it. Suggested Weight

Watchers. But said I HAD to inform them I was pregnant. Plus, I'm

sure it's important for them to know I had WLS, right? I'm still

considering joining.

Guess I'm so worried about gaining too much weight because I want to

have an easy delivery and don't want to look so bad after having my

baby. Plus, I'm sure the 'daddy' will see me after the baby is born

and I don't want him to get grossed out. That's bad of me, I know,

but I can't help it. Like I said, he's 13% body fat, I'm not.

I do have an appointment to get counseling. First available was

later in the month. I'll go and try and get mentally healthy.

I have a great family support system. My friends and coworkers are

thrilled that I'm going to have a baby. It's just me that's scared.

On my first OB appointment, I told my doctor I'd rather have a

puppy! She laughed, but I was serious!!! I also asked if she could

deliver my baby on December 30th so I could have a tax deduction! Oh

well....at least I've still got my sense of humor. That's what I'll

need to get through this.

Thanks again to you all and I look forward to getting to know you and

hearing your stories and stuff.

Vicki

Lap RNY 7/31/02

Drs. Waldrep and Suh

311/193/215

baby due 1/17/2005

Vickistown95660 @ yahoo.com

June 15, 2004

HI Vicki,

First I have to Say YOU CAN DO THIS !! Even with out this Man ! My Last

pregnancy I was totally alone, I didn't even know I was pregnant when I left my

EX after putting up with years of Physical abuse i left him and wanted to stay

gone for good I found out I was pregnant a week later. I stayed Gone !! My

Choice to keep the child and I am glad that I did. He Never has anything to do

with Her and barely pays child support. ( I live in Missouri and had to file for

Medicaid for Gabby when she was born because I could not afford the medical so

MO went after him for child support). She has only seen him about 4 times in

the 5 years of her life and that is fine with me he is not the type of person

she needs to be around. As for this Man well you didn't get pregnant on your

own but you can't make someone be a father when he has no want to harsh reality

I know. Life has many blessings in Disguise. I have to admit It was hard to go

through pregnancy alone, but I did it every step of the

way just remember what beautiful thing is growing inside of you and the rewards

you will have in the end.

After years of being alone I finally met a wonderful guy , who loves my girls

like they were his own and treats me the way I have always deserved to be

treated. albeit we did get pregnant unexpectedly we are both happy for the baby

and he takes good care of us as a Family. So Maybe your Mister right out there

can't have kids and you will have a lovely little one he will treasure as his

own. You never know what is in the cards.

I am sure everyone has already let you know to take the extra vitamins See an

OB and all of that so i will not go into that. Just to say You can do this think

about how wonderful life will be with your child and as hard as it is to do

forget about this man and remember you are worth more than that.

Jenni

Mom to:

Michelea 7-17-95

One Little Angel 1-25-97

la 2-14-99

baby #3 EDD 1-7-05

WLS 9-15-03 299/184/172pg/150goal

__________________________________________________

June 15, 2004

Wow Vicki, what a story. I don't have much time to post anymore as I have

" graduated to the other side " and am a mom to little Miss Hannah who will be 9

weeks tomorrow, and if you read previous post I have my own drama going on. I

did just want to take a second while Hannah is sleeping to congratulate you on

your pregnancy and encourage you to hang in there, take things day by day and

know that you can do this. Like others have said, you don't get more on your

plate than you can handle and I'm glad you found us, I'm sure we will all help

with encouraging words when things get tough.

Axelrod