Re: Agression and Biting Help...

[Guest guest]

Toma,

I hate to sound like a broken record here, but I think that diaries can

help here. If you don't keep a food diary, I recommend starting one. If

you do, refer back to it when the incidents occur and look for common

denominators. Also keep a journal of events and look for common

denominators there. Classify each biting episode. Was it malicious?

Mischievous? Something else? Try to figure out what is motivating the

bites. Focus on what occurred before the bite, and not so much on your

reaction to it. (Of course 'though there needs to be some immediate action,

whatever you choose, but as you said, traditional disciplinary action is

ineffective.) Get proactive instead of reactive. Maybe he just needs some

theratubing or something similar to get his oral stim.

Hope this helps,

Pat in Ohio

[Guest guest]

Hi Toma,

I know how hard the aggression can be to deal with, I have the

same problem with my eight year old daughter and I can say with

certainty that nothing I did to reward or punish her has ever

helped. Her therapiststs tried and tried too. So far, I have been

able to discover dietary reasons for her aggression - these have

been the culprits so far - dyes, sugar, and soy. When her system

is clear of these things she is sweet, when she gets something

accidentally, even the smallest amount, we have problems that

just can't be controlled. Yeast is the next issue we'll tackle.

Good luck with your son.

Kathy

[Guest guest]

He also bites others

> though and we CAN NOT figure out the function. It's always someone

he

> likes.

My son did something similar, and we finally figured out that he

thought he was kissing. The way we solved it was kinda unorthodox,

but it worked. We started biting him back.

Yeah, we're horrible, but we only had to do it once or twice. Once

he made the connection that biting hurts, he stopped. He even gives

real kisses now, although we're trying to steer him towards the cheek

instead of the lips.

--Sharlene

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 4/15/01 11:10:22 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

lorrielucas@... writes:

> It's always someone he

> > likes. Even with Chelsea it's hard to imagine since she is just wonderful

> > with him, she always has time for him, always plays with him and always

> has

> > so much patience with him. He enjoys playing with her.

>

I know this might sound a little crazy, but did you ever consider that biting

might be one way that Ben shows affection...It's so much like kissing and

possibly the emotions he experiences when someone is nice to him are just too

much for him to process and since he tends towards aggression anyway...well

bites happen!

Out NT daughter did this when she was about 3... luckily it was easier for

her to understand that it wasn't OK...

Good luck with this

Cherri

[Guest guest]

I had an OT tell me that biting human flesh is very calming. The closest thing

to human flesh to bite is tubing. Many OT catalogs sell a rubber like tubing or

refrigeration tubing, which is clear. You can make a necklace of it and the

child can bite that as long as they like.

My higher functiong son has a real need to bite but doesn't bite people. But,

he chews on paper, gum, (he'll even bite the corners of the walls), toilet paper

tubes, etc.

Maureen

[Guest guest]

Weaver wrote:

> Maureen,

> just a quickie...some common household items have gluten in them in the

> form of paste...( I had a chewer too til I realized she was chewing for

> gluten).

This one doesn't have a GFCF problem.

Maureen