Re: Back again!

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In a message dated 7/10/2004 6:26:06 PM Eastern Standard Time,

ebay_mom_fla@... writes:

http://www.love-my-kids.com/Noah.htm

Noah is tooo cute

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

Age- 41

EDD- July 27th, 2004

IT'S A BOY!!!!!!

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 8 years),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

It's a BOY!!!!!

Emerson Roger

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Welcome back a. So sorry about the passing of your 1st child.

Surgery is a way personal decision. Personally, I'm eternally

grateful for getting rid of the excess weight. & think my doc would

agree that the 113 lbs has made me healthier.

At the risk of sounding preachy, please look into improving your

anemia, if/when you're a post-op, it's something to be really

vigilant about.

Best wishes.

WlsMomma

> Hi everyone! My name is a and I just rejoined this group.

> I am already anemic. We lost our first child at 23.5 weeks pg and

> that is why we are scared to try again after the surgery. I am

> supposed to start the clomid today, but I want this surgery SOOOOO

> badly. I am so torn because I know my family isn't complete, but

I

> think if I get pg now, I probably will never have the surgery.

> Whew!! I am just hoping you guys can let me know how your pgs are

> going and if you would recommend getting pg first or waiting until

> after the surgery. I know it doesn't matter, because it will

happen

> when it happens, but I am scared to death to see that negative

this

> month. I was so sure I would get pg on my first month of clomid

and

> was absolutely devastated. If I get pg this month, the baby will

be

> due the day after my first child passed away. So, this is

obviously

> an emotional decision, but your stories and experiences would help

> me greatly!! Thanks sooo much:)

>

> Love,

> a

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wlsmomma,

Thanks! That has been a bit of a concern to me, being

anemic even before having the surgery. I think the iron

levels are from 33-200 and mine was 20. I did go through a

period of time in the last 3 months that I bled non-stop, so

that may have caused it. I was told to take an iron

supplement, which I think is just now starting to make me

feel less tired. I am also on a prenatal, so I think that

helps pre-surgery too. I think the doctor will either test

me this month or in August to see where my levels are now.

Thank God the bleeding has stopped to normal periods, so I

hope it has improved!!

a

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Moderator note:

My Serum Iron level after delivery was 8 (yes, a mere eight!)

Can you imagine how I felt! lol

I don't have the results back of the most recent labs yet. I just finished my

11th IV iron infusion!! YAY FOR ME!!!

lol

Sheila L&D RN,

Moderator on the side...lol

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a, I understand your position. It was not until after hubby and I

gave up on having a baby after 18 years of marriage and 2 1/2 years

of fertility treatmeantas, that I decided to have WLS. Had I known

what WLS was going to do to me I would'nt even have gone through the

stress of the fertility stuff.(I have PCOS pretty bad) I started out

5'2 " and 270( the last 35 of that I KNOW came from all the fertility

stuff I was going through) 1 year ago on July 14th I had WLS and

everything went so smoothly for me. My recovery was amazingly quick

and even though I was a slower looser than many in December I had

lost 70 lbs. We were warned that I may become fertile after WLS and

to use birth control. On December 23 we had 1 spontaneous unprotected

night. Afterward I said " you know that we need to be careful so I

don't get pregnant before 1 year after surgery " He said " you don't

think you got pregnant tonight do you? " Of course with my history I

said NO but we have to be careful. Well here I am pregnant from that

1 night! I am now 31 weeks and doing great even though I did not

finish loosing weight as planned. WLS did for me what 18 years of

unprotected marriage and fretility treatments could not do, and we

were not even trying. I was diabetic pre op on 2 oral meds and 2

insulines and now I don't even have gestational diabetes. Yeah I

still have a lot of weight to loose but had I known how much more

healthy and fertile my body would be after WLS I would have done this

10 years ago. Good luck on getting approval for your surgery and

although I know that you will still be TTC for another month I

personally hope you get the WLS first and give your baby a healthy

body to start out in. Either way wheather you get WLS or become

pregnant you have an amazing journey ahead of you. - Diane

> K,

> I completely understand what you mean about not wanting

> to be the " Fat Mom " because I always dreamed of being the

> mom who helped out at school, etc. Right now, I weigh

> 250lbs and I am 5'2 " . I am small boned, so I cannot blame

> any of the weight on that. I have recently gotten to the

> point that the weight is just too much. I talked to hubby

> tonight and we decided together to try one more month and

> then we are going to focus 100% on the surgery. In the

> meantime, I am going to have my doctor submit my claim to

> the insurance to get that done. We have been trying for 2

> years now, so I am not too optimistic about getting pg this

> month, but I don't want to live wondering " what if? " So, I

> guess in 27 days, I will know exactly which direction I am

> going in. Hopefully, my insurance will accept me without

> problems and I can have the surgery in September. What a

> great b-day and anniversary present!! Of course, a baby

> would get wonderful too:) Just have to count myself blessed

> regardless of which way this goes!! Thanks for your honest

> opinion. I am glad you are doing well during your pg and

> your little Noah is soooo adorable!!

>

> a

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Diane,

I started my clomid this afternoon, 150mgs. I am so

stressed already about getting pg this month. I want

another baby, but really want the surgery, but am SUPER

afraid to try after the surgery is done. There are so many

factors that I am afraid to deal with and since we lost our

first, I would be so afraid to try getting pg after the

surgery, since I have heard there are a lot of m/c's and

other issues. Actually reading all of your posts, I am able

to see what it would be like and if dh and I can handle

going through it. I am so very happy for you and glad you

are having a good pregnancy. I had toxemia and gest.

diabetes with my last pg and gest. diabetes with my first

and he was delivered too early to know if I would have

developed toxemia with him. Believe me, I do not WANT to be

pg again at this weight. I guess I have to take the meds

and then give it over to God. I was going to have my doctor

submit my claim for the surgery to insurance this week, but

I think I will wait another few weeks. I think I would be a

little upset if I find out I am pg and then a few days later

find out I was approved for the surgery!! So, I should find

out by the end of the first week in August if the clomid

worked and will meet with the surgeon immediately following

if I didn't get pg. How long did it take everyone's

insurance to accept your surgery request? I have Deere

insurance and hear they are okay, but each case is

different. I have to go through two more doctors visits

before I have completed my requirements. I want the surgeon

to send off the request early so I have an approval with

only the final contingencies. I don't want to have the

psyche evaluation and get fitted for a diaphram/IUD (surgeon

will not do the surgery if I am on bcp's because of possible

blood clots) until I know for sure the surgery has been

approved. This is going to be a LONG month, I believe!! I

cannot wait to know what path God has chosen for me!!

a

Re: Back again!

Date: Sun, 11 Jul 2004 14:20:38 -0000

> a, I understand your position. It was not until after

> hubby and I gave up on having a baby after 18 years of

> marriage and 2 1/2 years of fertility treatmeantas, that

> I decided to have WLS. Had I known what WLS was going to

> do to me I would'nt even have gone through the stress of

> the fertility stuff.(I have PCOS pretty bad) I started out

> 5'2 " and 270( the last 35 of that I KNOW came from

> all the fertility stuff I was going through) 1 year ago

> on July 14th I had WLS and everything went so smoothly

> for me. My recovery was amazingly quick and even though

> I was a slower looser than many in December I had lost

> 70 lbs. We were warned that I may become fertile after WLS

> and to use birth control. On December 23 we had 1

> spontaneous unprotected night. Afterward I said "

> ;you know that we need to be careful so I don't get

> pregnant before 1 year after surgery " He said "

> ;you don't think you got pregnant tonight do you? "

> Of course with my history I said NO but we have to be

> careful. Well here I am pregnant from that 1 night! I am

> now 31 weeks and doing great even though I did not

> finish loosing weight as planned. WLS did for me what 18

> years of unprotected marriage and fretility treatments

> could not do, and we were not even trying. I was

> diabetic pre op on 2 oral meds and 2 insulines and now I

> don't even have gestational diabetes. Yeah I still have

> a lot of weight to loose but had I known how much more

> healthy and fertile my body would be after WLS I would

> have done this 10 years ago. Good luck on getting

> approval for your surgery and although I know that you

> will still be TTC for another month I personally hope

> you get the WLS first and give your baby a healthy body

> to start out in. Either way wheather you get WLS or become

> pregnant you have an amazing journey ahead of you. -

> Diane

>

> > K,

> > I completely understand what you mean about not

> > wanting to be the " Fat Mom " because I always

> > dreamed of being the mom who helped out at school, etc.

> > Right now, I weigh 250lbs and I am 5'2 " . I am

> > small boned, so I cannot blame any of the weight on

> > that. I have recently gotten to the point that the

> > weight is just too much. I talked to hubby tonight and

> > we decided together to try one more month and then we

> > are going to focus 100% on the surgery. In the

> > meantime, I am going to have my doctor submit my claim

> to the insurance to get that done. We have been trying

> > for 2 years now, so I am not too optimistic about

> > getting pg this month, but I don't want to live

> > wondering " what if? " So, I guess in 27 days,

> > I will know exactly which direction I am going in.

> > Hopefully, my insurance will accept me without problems

> > and I can have the surgery in September. What a great

> > b-day and anniversary present!! Of course, a baby

> would get wonderful too:) Just have to count myself

> > blessed regardless of which way this goes!! Thanks for

> > your honest opinion. I am glad you are doing well

> > during your pg and your little Noah is soooo adorable!!

> >

> > a

>

> Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm

> 127:3

>

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a, If you should become pregnant before surgery is scheduled

most insurence companies keep the approval for a year I think so you

could just schedule it for after the birth. I knew a lady on another

group that actuallu had that happen by accident and then scheduled

surgery for when her son was 3 months old. That gave her some time

with him first and time for pregnancy recovery and was still with in

the time limits for approval with her insurence. As far as pregnancy

after WLS yes there are some MC's but there are MC's for people not

having surgery. Once you read along here awhile you will find that

the majority of post ops have very healthy pregnancys and to me the

% of complications and MC's seem to be about the same out there in

the world with out surgery. Pre op I had 3 miscarriages all in the

80's - my body was not hormonally stable enough to maintain a

pregnancy. After the 80's I couldn't even concieve with maximum doses

of Clomid and ovarian surgery. I know the environment this little

girl is growing in is now so much healthier than it would have been

before surgery.(and back in the 80's I weighed 160 or less and was

not diabetic yet- so it is much more than the amount I weighed) I do

understand your concerns about getting pregnant post op- that is why

I didn't even think of WLS until after I gave up on having a baby. I

was terrified at first but found that those concerns although

legitimate were not as bad as I was making them. As far as

thenutrition thing post op the baby will always get what it needs

first and even post op we get much higher nutrition than many women

in third world countries who have many babies. Know which ever

direction this turns for you we will be here the ease your concerns

and a good doc will take care of you to make sure everything goes

well. Good Luck. - Diane

> > > K,

> > > I completely understand what you mean about not

> > > wanting to be the " Fat Mom " because I always

> > > dreamed of being the mom who helped out at school, etc.

> > > Right now, I weigh 250lbs and I am 5'2 " . I am

> > > small boned, so I cannot blame any of the weight on

> > > that. I have recently gotten to the point that the

> > > weight is just too much. I talked to hubby tonight and

> > > we decided together to try one more month and then we

> > > are going to focus 100% on the surgery. In the

> > > meantime, I am going to have my doctor submit my claim

> > to the insurance to get that done. We have been trying

> > > for 2 years now, so I am not too optimistic about

> > > getting pg this month, but I don't want to live

> > > wondering " what if? " So, I guess in 27 days,

> > > I will know exactly which direction I am going in.

> > > Hopefully, my insurance will accept me without problems

> > > and I can have the surgery in September. What a great

> > > b-day and anniversary present!! Of course, a baby

> > would get wonderful too:) Just have to count myself

> > > blessed regardless of which way this goes!! Thanks for

> > > your honest opinion. I am glad you are doing well

> > > during your pg and your little Noah is soooo adorable!!

> > >

> > > a

> >

> > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm

> > 127:3

> >

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Diane,

I was wondering about that. I definitely want and NEED

the surgery, so I was a little concerned if I got approved

what would happen. Glad to know that they have an approval

time frame. I will have to find out what happens at the end

of the month. How long did it take everyone to get

approved? Today was the second day of clomid, so only 3

more days to go. I have a follicle scan in two weeks and

should know from that what our chances are. I am excited

for both things to happen, but I think I am 70/30 for the

surgery first. I told my hubby that the surgery is for ME

and wanting another baby is for our US. We'll just have to

wait to find out how God decides to unveil his plans for us.

I have to admit, this month is going to go by soooo slow, I

can tell. My hubby is great, though. He totally wants the

surgery for my health, but is very concerned of getting pg

after it. I know if I hang around here a little more, we

will both start feeling a little better about it, if we

don't get pg this month. I am not sure what to cross my

fingers and toes for this month. This is the first time ttc

that I have actually kind of hoped it won't work!! But if

we do get pg, I know I will be on cloud 9 anyway and will

have to plan for the surgery later on. Just seems the

longer I wait, the less likely it is to happen, you know?

Anyway, thanks for the info. It definitely helps me feel

better knowing I will probably have an approval period to

have the surgery. Thanks soooo much!!

a