Re: New here and in need some encouraging advice(long)

[Guest guest]

I am no e xpert by far adn i too was petrified of gaining weight but knew I

had too. I am 6 months and have gained 24 pounds and was freaked by it but I

know I have the will power to lose it after the baby is born. it sounds like you

do too and you will lose whatever you gain from pregnancy fast. I am on

another group also and there have been women on there and here that have stated

that they lost almost all the pregnancy weight in a matter of a few weeks which

seemed superfast to me. So I am hoping it works that well for me too. I never

made it to goal yet so i am really scared that I missed my opportuntiy but I

sure will try hard later, I know what I went thru to lose 140 pounds and I want

to finish what i started. In the beginning of pregnancy we do want many, many

foods and it is really hard to control but i found that by keeping the junk

out of my house and filling it with lots of bananas apples, cut up watermelon,

ect, it was there when I felt hungry again adn it was a good snack for me and

baby. I would keep well stocked in snacks like that and go ahead and eat them

when you feel hungry. i don't think witht he determination and self control you

have gained in the past year that you are going to fail with your weight

loss. You sound super strong silled and I bet you only gain the minimum weight,

probably not over 35-40 pounds and you will probably be one of the ones who lose

it in 3 weeks If you stioll have problems dealing witht his in your

pregnancy and it doesn't go away I would talk toa weight counselor, they can

be

very helpful. Good Luck,

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

EDD- July 27th, 2004

IT'S A BOY!!!!!!

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 7 1/2),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

[Guest guest]

Hi,

I can relate to your worries about weight gain and its good that you are trying

to keep things in perspective. I know it may be surprising to think that even

though you are only 8 weeks pregnant, that little baby inside of you is already

effecting your appetite and need to increase your calories, but it is! LOL!

Your body is putting out major energy making this baby though it may not feel

like it. Since you have worked so hard training yourself to listen to your body

cues and eat correctly, do not lose faith in what your body is telling you now

that you are pregnant! From what many women here have said they have noticed

that they find themselves needing to eat a little something every couple of

hours. What is the struggle for most of us is making sure to snack on the right

stuff, which you already seem to have a good hold on. The only other thing that

I can suggest is that when you do feel that hunger try drinking first and see if

that helps, if it doesn't then you body is definitely telling you that you need

to eat something, so do it. I'm glad that you found our group and look forward

to hearing from you.

Axelrod

New here and in need some encouraging advice(long)

I think I may have posted once before, but I'm fairly new here. I'm

having some real mental and possible unhealthy issues about weight

gain. I read through all the recent posts about weight gain, but I'm

still so incrediably worried about gaining weight and not being able

to loose it after the baby comes and I feel like you ladies are the

only ones who can truly understand where I'm coming from and the only

ones who can offer any advice.

I had an U/S on Monday and right now I'm 8 weeks pregnant. (After a

long 6 years of trying! YIPEE!!!) BUT I'm already watching the scale

like a hawk. So much so that I feel like I'm becoming obsessed to the

point that it's not healthy for me or the baby and to the point where

I haven't really been able to enjoy this pregnancy so far. Next month

I'll be 1 yr. post op and have lost a total of 120lbs. For the past

month, I've leveled off and haven't lost anything...Just hovered

between 140lbs & 145lbs. I'm very happy at my current weight of

145lbs. So far in this pregnancy...I haven't gained anything, so it

seems so totally unreasonable for me to be reacting the way that I

am, but I'm freaking out!

For the past year, I've worked hard at training myself on what to

eat, when to eat and most importantly when to STOP eating. I've

gotten used to the discomforts of over eating and when my tummy pains

after a meal I know why...too much this or too much that. I finally

lost that relationship that I once had with food. I began to eat

because I knew I needed to, not because something looked good and was

calling my name. I ate 3 meals a day because I had to. Not because I

was hungry or craved food. Now that I've finally figured out my new

body...it changed! I thought I was ready for pregnancy, but now I'm

not so sure! It feels like my body is turned upside down! It seems

like my tummy aches ALL the time now. Like I'm constantly starving!

I'll eat something and feel fine for a little bit and then a little

while later....like an hour or so... I feel like I need to eat again,

but I keep thinking " I can't possibly be hungry...I just ate! " and

I'll let myself feel sick and be miserable for a few hours because I

don't want to overeat and feel sick or worse yet...overeat and GAIN!!

(Ugh...that's a 4-letter word!) Does that make sense?

Like any expectant mom, I'm worried about my baby and it's overall

health. I want to do what's right to ensure a healthy pregnancy and

baby. We have 3 other children (1 of which is my biological) and I

was overweight to start and then gained 60 lbs with him! I don't want

to repeat that! I know in my mind that I will gain...that I need to

gain, but I'm afraid that I will sabatoge myself and not eat enough

for my baby to gain what he needs to for fear of the amount of weight

I'll gain....I know...very selfish reasons. How can I break through

this mental wall of weight gain and relax and enjoy this pregnancy

without trying to starve myself and my baby?

Any advice please!

[Guest guest]

Thanks ...

I'm feeling a little bit better today and not fighting the urges to

eat like I have been for the last couple of weeks. Just kinda going

along with it today....Although it's really hard, but you're right,

I've got to realize that my body is expending alot of energy right

now...although I don't feel it...so it needs more food to keep going.

I've given the scale to DH and asked him to hide it away somewhere so

I won't obsess and try to enjoy.

I'm really glad that I found this group and I look forward to getting

to know all of you!

Lap RNY 5/9/03

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EDD with #4 Nov. 15th