Really stressed, need support, long

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Though this isn't really ossg-pregnancy related I'm coming to you guys because I

feel like you guys have gone through my pregnancy with Hannah with me,

especially all the ups and downs I have had with my arthritis and fibromyalgia,

and my quest to find a doctor that would support me breastfeeding her. Well, it

looks like my fights aren't over now that little Hannah Banana is here, in fact

it looks like I had not even scratched the surface when it comes to fighting for

what's best for me and my daughter, and my whole family.

Last Friday my husband was rocking Hannah in her nursery while I finished up

taking a shower and getting dressed so we could go buy her a couple of outfits

that actually fit her, LOL! Poor little peanut is so tiny even the so called

" newborn " outfits she drowns in. I was in our basement bedroom when I heard the

doorbell ring but I ignored it since I knew that my husband would get it. I

honestly didn't think anything of it because we don't know anyone here in

Minnesota so I thought it was the fed ex guy or something like that. It ends up

that the people who came to the door were a CPS WORKER AND A COP!!! My husband

and my brains were literally swimming we were such in shock at what these people

were saying to us. Keep in mind that my husband is a Captain in the Army and I

hold a degree in education so we both kinda have certain public status in the

community. The CPS worker said that Hannah's mercomium (sp?) poop was sent for

testing while we were in the hospital and though he knows that I take

medications for pain control since I have arthritis so bad, that isn't what he

was there for, her test came back positive for all sorts of drugs including

cocaine, amphetamines, barbiturates, benzodiazapines, plus a bunch of other

drugs that none of us could pronounce or had heard of!!! At this point I'm

kinda freaking out but trying to keep it together telling these officials that I

am more than happy to show them the medications that I take and I am absolutely

willing to take any type of drug test they want me to because I don't have

anything to hide, but I certainly DID NOT take any illegal drugs ever, nor any

prescription drugs other than the ones that were prescribed to me. Though these

two legal officials can't say that they think there is a major mistake going on

here, they basically were saying that to my husband and I. They were really

nice to us, the CPS worker said he had already tracked down my OB and spoke to

him about what was going on and my OB said that something was seriously wrong

because they could not be talking about my husband and I or our child. In fact

the CPS worker said that everyone he contacted about my husband and I seemed to

say " Not these people " . The CPS worker asked me to take myself and the baby to

our doctor to do another drug test as soon as possible and gave me a card

showing what he wanted them to test us for. I told him that we were getting

ready to leave the house anyway so we would just go to the doc's office instead.

You can't exactly show up to show up to your local lab asking them to drug test

you, let alone a 9 day old baby!!! I ended up calling Hannah's pediatrician so

they could help us out and they were nice enough to ask the CPS worker if they

could give us a urine test instead of a blood test so they wouldn't have to

stick the baby, though the alternative didn't end up being much better in my

opinion as we had to tape bags to her little pee pee to catch her urine. The

first time she peed it wasn't enough so we had to tape another bag to her which

all that tape irritated her skin a bit. Thankfully her skin improved after I

put some desitin on it and all is well now.

My husband and I are upset on so many different levels its hard to focus on one

thing. We are first upset with my OB because we brought up this very issue with

him months before Hannah was born. We told him we were concerned that when

other people looked at my chart and saw I took methadone they would jump to the

conclusion that I was a drug addict, not knowing that the medication is also

used for pain control, as in my case. My OB said he would make sure that

everyone would know what was going so we wouldn't have anything to worry about,

but in hindsight it seems he didn't let enough people know. If I had a medical

condition that made me take any other medication my daughter would have not been

drug tested, therefore there would have not been a drug test to screw up. I

even saw in our chart where they ordered the drug test on her 20 minutes after

she was born and some nurse notated that I was a " narcotics addict " , making

those assumptions that we were so worried about. All this was going on while my

OB was right there an no one had the sense to ask him whether any of these tests

were necessary.

The CPS worker is very relaxed about the whole thing, assuring me that once

these other tests come back that he is going to close the case and he is our of

our lives. I had to explain to him that my test will still show positive for

opiods (sp?), though I'm not sure about Hannah anymore even though I am

breastfeeding her. He then assured me that he will call my OB and when my OB

tells him that its positive from my meds he is still closing the case and it

will be done. My husband and I are still freaking because we feel that since

they screwed up one drug test and got false positive's what is to stop them from

getting another false positive on stuff that has never been in my system nor my

daughter's. What makes this all worse is that my Mom and my twin sister were

both supposed to fly out here to be with me and meet my daughter, but my sister

had a major crisis in her family so she had to stay home and my mom had to go be

with here, so Glenn and I have been going through this all alone, without

friends or family here to help us get through all this. We feel like these

precious first weeks will be forever tainted with all this awful stuff though we

are doing our best to focus on the fact that we finally have a beautiful,

healthy, much wanted child to share our lives with and that we have many

blessings to be thankful for.

Any of you medical people in our group who have some advice for me, or can tell

me how all these tests could have been run on Hannah without my permission or a

doctor ordering them I would really appreciate the information. Also, both

Glenn and I, and of course little Hannah would greatly appreciate any prayers

and positive vibes for us that this nightmare is over for our family soon and

that it really goes away and not come up and haunt us time and time again in the

future. Though I have never had problems with CPS before, I know how stuff like

this never really goes away like they claim it does. My husband has security

clearances with the Army that this could effect and this could hinder me getting

certified to teach in public schools, so this inaccurate drug test could really

mess up our lives. Needless to say with all this crap going on I have not been

resting like I should after a c-section with complications, especially since my

family couldn't come help us and Glenn had to go back to work, plus we are

worried about Hannah getting sick since we have had to take her out so much at a

young age. Thanks in advance for all the prayers and positive vibes sent up in

our name, every little bit helps!

Axelrod