Re: Need Some advice and help

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry this jerk is putting you thru this. I would call Socail Services

and see what they can do townrd pitching in for child care. Some can get free

childcare being a single Mom and having to work. Best of Luck. Hand in there.

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

Age- 41

EDD- July 27th, 2004

IT'S A BOY!!!!!!

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 8 years),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

It's a BOY!!!!!

Emerson Roger

[Guest guest]

At 10:44 AM 5/1/2004, you wrote:

> But

>I know day care is expensive and it will eat up alot of my paycheck

>so I could use some help if anyone who live in the New Jersey area

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If you are single and not married and lower income in NJ.. you may qualify

for subsidized child care.

However... since you know who the father is.. you can go down to the court

house and get all the paperwork to fill out

for child support and daycare costs.

In the state of NJ.. child support is mandatory as well as HALF the daycare

costs and in some cases

the father would be required to carry heath insurance OR pay for coverage.

It gets better...

In NJ the paychecks are GARNISHED for child support and failure to pay

child support is a trip to county jail..

Bail is the back pay.

Now.. if you lived in Florida.. child support is an automatic 25% of the

guy's paycheck..LOL

K in Ft Lauderdale

Open RNY w/choly 12/2/03

55 lbs gone... slowly.. very slowly..

Mommy to Noah - 10/14/02

Jonah or Rebecka due to arrive early November!!

http://www.love-my-kids.com

[Guest guest]

My sister in law went through this and more recently our niece. Contact the

state agencies...they will attatch his wages so that you can get some help and

the agencies will also help you while you cannot work. You could maybe get Wic

or some medical assistance.

I'm sorry you are going through this!

Chrystal

Wife to Jace - together 6 Years!

Happy Mommy to - 4 Years Old!

New Baby Boy Swenson Due July 28, 2004!

Zookeeper for 2 big dogs and 5 cats who let me feed them!

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http://members.ebay.com/aboutme/seeswensonauctions/

[Guest guest]

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Walk down to the court and file for child support and help with maternity

expenses. UNDER LAW -- and this is NOT LEGAL ADVICE! -- the father has to

contribute to the costs of raising the baby as well as medical costs and

such. AGAIN NOT LEGAL ADVICE! Anyway, they will automatically deduct child

support from the father's check when you have a custody order. You might

have to wait until the baby is born. You also might be able to get palimony

to support you for a certian amount of time after the baby is born. Palimony

is equivalent to alimony but for non-married couples. That at least would

give you some time after having the baby before you have to go back to work.

Also apply for the following: WIC, food stamps, and after the baby is born

and needs day care -- day care help which I believe is under Title IX. YOu

can also apply for other help such as utility help (phone, heat, water).

Don't give up. Things will work out.

mailto: dferguson@...

BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98

Need Some advice and help

> Its becoming more apparent that I am going to be doing this baby

> thing alone. The so called father its not lookin like he is gonna

> contribute a whole lot financially. All we do is argue about him

> makin more money and he is just lying about what he is making or this

> week it was his check got sent somewhere else when I found his check

> stub and it looks like its already gone. I was hopin i only had to

> go back to work 2 maybe 3 days a week 5-6 hours a day but it looks

> like I will need to put the baby in day care and work full time. But

> I know day care is expensive and it will eat up alot of my paycheck

> so I could use some help if anyone who live in the New Jersey area or

> anyone had gone thru a similiar situation can tell me how they

> handled it or that has gotten help with daycare or any advice I can

> get. I feel like such a fool thinking he would wanna get a better

> paying job so his son would want for nothing and he wouldnt have to

> be put in daycare but obviously not and I am not gonna argue with

> someone on a daily basis I'm just tired of the whole thing. Im not

> due til July 14, 15 or 17th depending on what doctor you talk to.

> Were not married we were suposed to get married but I am not gonna

> marry a person who lies to me. I dont know if im just panicing for

> nothing. I know I will be fine as long as I can get good daycare.

> My mind is realing right now and know I am babbling but I didnt think

> I would have to do this alone. And this site has been so helpful I

> thought someone here could help so I can figure out what I need to

> do. So for the long post

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