Re: 5 weeks but scared....

May 19, 2004

Hi ! I just wanted to post to you, I feel like I'm in the same boat,

worrying about miscarriage. I am 7 weeks today, and go to the OB for the first

time next week. We are SO excited about the pregnancy, it's our first baby, so

we would take an ad in the paper or shout it from the rooftops!

I started telling people at 5 weeks (when I joined this group) because I am

EXCITED! However, in one day at school, I had 3 women chastize me about telling

people I'm pregnant so early, that there was a HUGE chance I would miscarry and

then what, etc....So, for a good week I was pretty down and depressed thinking I

would miscarry.

I mentioned this to my best girlfriend (who has 2 kids) and she about flipped,

yelled at me, told me to tell those women " bite me " , that it was horrible for

them to even mention such a thing, and be happy about my pregnancy, that if

something is going to happen, it will happen and theres nothing I can do about

it anyways, so just enjoy, and DON'T let anyone stress you out about

miscarriage, it's not something I need to worry about. Most pregnancies are

viable and go the distance, so be happy, enjoy, and if something does happen, it

was meant to be. That is how I'm trying to manage right now, thinking of the

positive.

On a personal opinion note, I would have NEVER mentioned miscarriage to a

pregnant women, EVER. Instead of getting Congratulations, we are so happy for

you, etc.......to hear " How can you tell people so early, there's a huge chance

for you to miscarry " ......that was devastating. People can be so rude.

C.

EDD 12/31/04

WLS 08/28/02

Subject: Re: I am 5 weeks!!!! but very scared about things....

Silver wrote: " I am just so nervous and terrified that I am

going to miscarry. At what point are you past the " miscarry stage " ? "

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