getting the rags off my son

[Guest guest]

Any suggestions how to get an eleven yo NLD child to wear new (or at least

better)clothes? He has his favorites, which have been his favorites for a

couple of years now and are severely worn. It's such an ordeal when we go

anywhere, trying to get him to wear something decent. He gets his feelings

hurt when told that these aren't acceptable, and when his siblings tease

and berate him, but insist that these clothes are still good. I allow him

to pick out his own clothes, (though he shows no real preference for

anything). He also has no idea how to match, but again gets upset when I

tell him he needs to change something in order to match. It does not seem

to be a tactile problem, not stubbornness (he is a very open, honest child).

He insist on doing everything his older siblings do (independence) but

isn't capable of judging situations (like going off in Wal-Mart to look at

toys). I am trying to deal with him as an individual (not expecting age

equivalence) but he doesn't deal with himself that way. This age and from

this point on, looks rough to me, so if any of you can give me any

suggestions I'd really appreciate it.

Thanks,

Lolita

[Guest guest]

I can't help with the wanting to wear old clothes, but re. the matching

problem,

why not get clothes that will match everything else. My favorite aunt would

base her clothes around say, black, red and white or bright (emerald) greed,

navy blue and white, so that whatever she wore would match.

Margaret