I need some support - OT

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As I write this I just feel this massive anxiety in my chest like I cannot

breath.

A little background. My husband was raised a Jehovahs Witness and his whole

family are a part of this cult and we don't really have anything to do with them

mainly because they do not like me because I am not one and because I helped

Jace out of the cult. And yes it is a cult..........a very destructive cult.

The main issue besides all the biblical stuff that they believe (which is

totally wrong) is the blood issue. Most people know the Jehovahs Witnesses

don't celebrate holidays or take blood or blood products in any form.

I am a trained paramedic and I also teach for the American Red Cross. The blood

issue has never been an issue for me. I know that Dr.'s take seriously the

responsibility of giving blood products and that when there is a failure in the

system its usually not because of the Dr's but the facility that collected the

blood.

4.5 years ago when we had our son my husband stated that he would rather I die

on the operating table than take blood products and go against God. This was

extremely hurtful to me. Luckily I had a OB who was very careful and when I had

my c-section there was never any need for blood. At the time I was newly

married and didn't know much about the Jehovahs Witnesses........I just knew I

wanted to make my husband happy. So I didn't put up much of a fight about his

wants. I definately wasn't as strong or informed as I am today...!

Now this was also an issue when I had my gastric bypass surgery. At the time I

told my Dr. do not listen to my husband and had my wishes put legally on paper

and notarized and had my parents (My dad is an R.N.) there in case there was any

problem to support my wishes.

My husband told me a few nights ago that he thinks we should talk to my Dr.

about the blood issue. Ever since the Red Cross messed up with some blood a few

weeks ago he has been freaking out. He does not want me to take blood at all

and said he would rather I die from not having blood than die later from

hepatitis or aids. His devout Jehovahs Witness mother has not been helping the

situation!!!!! I really despise her....

So now I am left with the option of going through the legal hoops again of going

against my husbands wishes....which will cause great problems........Not that

I'm big on obeying my husband but I do like peace in our house. He also wants

to make sure that if needed the new baby will also not receive any blood

products.

There is a chance my parents will not be here when the baby is born or won't be

able to get here on time......babies don't seem to come on schedule. So I can't

know I will have their support to protect me if I am unconcious and can't

protect myself.

I at least know that if I can't speak for the baby that the hospital will go to

court and give the baby what is necessary - there is a big history of hospitals

in our area going against the Jehovahs Witnesses and Christian Scientists in

court for the sake of childrens health.

I just feel really sad that this is coming up again. I thought I was done with

this....It wouldn't be such a big issue if I wasn't on blood thinners and Jace

knows that if there is an emergency these medications complicate things and

could make the need for blood products a real possibility.

I feel really sad and I feel like I should be happy because I'm almost at the

end of the journey to have this baby.

Any advice, thoughts, prayers are most welcome.

And if anyone is offended but what I wrote about Jehovahs Witnesses I'm

sorry....but if you had been what I had been through with this group you would

understand.

Chrystal

Wife to Jace - together 6 Years!

Happy Mommy to - 4 Years Old!

New Baby Boy Swenson Due July 28, 2004!

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