Re: [[autism-awareness-action] THANKS to everyone who responded]

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Hi Trina,

You need to 1.)find an advocate for you and your son. Is there any local

support group in you area ? Maybe autism society

2.) Do you have any home tutoring going on ? Tape him.

3.) Stay mad, but control yourself. You are fighting for your child.

The above are only suggestions, but it worked for me. Danny has been all over

the place for school. He is now in an intensive discrite trial program. They

said he is not to old(8yr) an they can work with him.

I wouldnt let them tape him, unless they had been doing it for a while, to

compare. I have tapes of my son that are four years old. My advocate has

copies as well. The school does not know about these tapes. Good Luck

Bev in No Cal

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Hey again,

I was the one who said that the school district was wanting to video tape my

son at school. I appreciate everyone's opinions and advice. One person

suggested we just stall them and give them something they had to do. Well, we

told them we wanted, in writing, why they were doing it, what they were

wanting to accomplish, what guidelines were they " grading " it by , etc. Well,

we haven't heard from them about it anymore. To answer our questions would

mean that they would actually have to sit down, think, collaborate, and

address each of my concerns. What are the chances that they will just say,

" never mind " ?

The lady who was requesting to do the video is actually the " lead special ed.

teacher " , or whatever. She called me on the phone and, while trying to use a

calm tone of voice the whole time, began to make criticisms about my son's

progress, his ABA trained aide, etc. She has been to observe him one time all

year, and that was last week. She was making broad sweeping statements about

his lack of social interactions with his peers because he did not talk to

anyone at lunch. That was what she was basing her judgement on. I, also

trying to maintain a calm voice, layed into her and pointed out that she had

only been one time, ..... Needless to say, my " calm voice " did not last very

long. If she said it once, she said it ten times, that I had offended her

(especially when I accused her of not having even read my son's IEP). Then,

at the end of our hour long conversation/disagreement, she told me that I was

a very hard person to talk to!!!! What a titty baby. If she thought that was

being hard to get along with, just wait till the IEP meeting. She hasn't seen

anything yet. I am totally capable of being civil and calm, but when the

situation warrants it, and it usually always does (because they just simply

have their heads stuck up their butts), I turn into the lioness protecting my

cub. These people are evil.

Anyway, I do appreciate everyone's comments. Wish me luck.

Trina