Guest guest Posted July 18, 2000 Report Share Posted July 18, 2000 In a message dated 7/18/00 12:07:20 AM Eastern Daylight Time, MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes: << What should I do?? >> Dear - First, you might want to bring in , who would straighten them out instantaneously, which would be very satisfying. Then, you should look for a new job - I'm only half-kidding here. The central thing is to regain your own dignity, which your 300 lb. boss pretty well trashed - and can anyone guess why? Maybe the only thing you can do - for now - is say to her and your coworkers - " this topic is now officially closed. Thanks for your concern. " If they persist, leave the room. One of my friends - with whom I have a rollercoaster relationship anyway - did something similar at a party a couple of weeks ago, basically announcing to the assembled group what my plans were. Fortunately, it was a small group, made up of very good friends. I was very upset afterwards, and a friend and I sat and talked it through for several hours, until I felt better about it. I understand now that this tactless woman is threatened by this whole matter, because of her own issues with her (increasing) weight. I believe that there will be at least a couple of people who say tacky things to me about my surgery, and I'm determined to leave these encounters with my dignity and my temper intact. I've done so much research and investigation into WLS surgery by now, that I'm completely convinced that this is the right step for me. I don't have to convince them. As the saying goes, " the best revenge is living well " and that's exactly what I plan to do! " Living well " for me means working out, eating healthily, and having lots more energy! Not to mention a closetful of great new clothes!!! I've always felt the need to compensate for my most glaring error - being large - and am too afraid to confront tactless, unkind people - until they step so far out of bounds that I just explode, creating an even greater need to compensate. Vicious circle...I wonder what if I'll change that need to smooth things over after I've lost this extra weight? Anyway: I'm sorry that you've had this situation, and I hope that you'll find a way through it that restores your peace of mind. The most important thing is to find the people who DO support you in this, and to let them reinforce you. Good luck. Blair Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2000 Report Share Posted July 18, 2000 Dear Blair, I am sorry to hear that you too had to go thru a similar incident, I am just continuously amazed by the meaness out there... I find my comfort here. My husband and I have been together for a lonnnngg time and I know he's understanding and all...but does not TRULY understand... Take care, >From: BJenk23768@... >Reply-To: MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com >To: MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com >Subject: Betrayal - >Date: Tue, 18 Jul 2000 07:37:54 EDT > >In a message dated 7/18/00 12:07:20 AM Eastern Daylight Time, >MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes: > ><< What should I do?? >> > >Dear - > >First, you might want to bring in , who would straighten them >out instantaneously, which would be very satisfying. Then, you should look >for a new job - I'm only half-kidding here. > >The central thing is to regain your own dignity, which your 300 lb. boss >pretty well trashed - and can anyone guess why? Maybe the only thing you >can >do - for now - is say to her and your coworkers - " this topic is now >officially closed. Thanks for your concern. " If they persist, leave the >room. > >One of my friends - with whom I have a rollercoaster relationship anyway - >did something similar at a party a couple of weeks ago, basically >announcing >to the assembled group what my plans were. Fortunately, it was a small >group, made up of very good friends. I was very upset afterwards, and a >friend and I sat and talked it through for several hours, until I felt >better >about it. I understand now that this tactless woman is threatened by this >whole matter, because of her own issues with her (increasing) weight. > >I believe that there will be at least a couple of people who say tacky >things >to me about my surgery, and I'm determined to leave these encounters with >my >dignity and my temper intact. I've done so much research and investigation >into WLS surgery by now, that I'm completely convinced that this is the >right >step for me. I don't have to convince them. As the saying goes, " the best >revenge is living well " and that's exactly what I plan to do! " Living >well " >for me means working out, eating healthily, and having lots more energy! >Not >to mention a closetful of great new clothes!!! > >I've always felt the need to compensate for my most glaring error - being >large - and am too afraid to confront tactless, unkind people - until they >step so far out of bounds that I just explode, creating an even greater >need >to compensate. Vicious circle...I wonder what if I'll change that need to >smooth things over after I've lost this extra weight? > >Anyway: I'm sorry that you've had this situation, and I hope that you'll >find >a way through it that restores your peace of mind. The most important >thing >is to find the people who DO support you in this, and to let them reinforce >you. > >Good luck. > >Blair > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Wish you had something rad to add to your email? >We do at www.supersig.com. >http://click.egroups.com/1/6810/3/_/453517/_/963920279/ >------------------------------------------------------------------------ > >This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com >Please visit our web site at http://clos.net >Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm > >To Unsubscribe Send and Email to: >MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com > > ________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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