Leigh

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In a message dated 7/20/00 2:18:04 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

<< I know all of this anger is not healthy and that I have to let

all go - but can anyone tell me how to do that? >>

Leigh, I don't know if this helps,but I always have to put my anger into

action. I will scrub walls,pull weeds,beat rugs...hard! My roommate used to

come home to a spotless house and say " Geez,what did I do?! " LOL!

A friend of mine is a psychologist said Gestalt(sp?) therapy is when you

place a chair(preferably one you don't like) in the middle of the room. When

you're all alone in the house. Scream at the chair as if it were that

person,say all those things you're afraid to say to him as if he were sitting

there,cry,yell,get it out. Anger should be shared. I add give the chair a

good kick,too! Someone just said the best revenge is living well....and I

liked that. You're post-op so seeking a counselor might help you channel the

anger,and leave you with some furniture. I for one like to smash

things...then clean. The least he could do is stay away right now!

GRRRRRRRRRRRR. call me if you need to talk(I'm in Cincinnati,if you need a

place to retreat to)

Osler

Mgb 2/21/00

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In a message dated 7/21/00 7:37:19 AM Pacific Daylight Time, Boingy300@...

writes:

<< A friend of mine is a psychologist said Gestalt(sp?) therapy is when you

place a chair(preferably one you don't like) in the middle of the room. When

you're all alone in the house. Scream at the chair as if it were that

person,say all those things you're afraid to say to him as if he were

sitting

there,cry,yell,get it out. Anger should be shared.>>

This reminds me of what I used to do with my daughter Chris. When some mean

boy had called her names she and I would later sit on her bed and talk about

all the bad things that we wished would happen to him, or what we'd like to

do to him. It was a challenge to come up with non-brutal ways to make him

" pay. " A sample conversation would sound like this:

Wouldn't if be awful if he lost his baggy pants on the way to the lunchroom?

Yeah, and his Winnie the Pooh underoos were exposed?

And he tripped over the wad of pants on his shoes as he ran to the bathroom?

And when he had pulled himself together and went to spray his hair with that

huge can of hairspray, it was replaced with black spray paint?

Which then oozed down around his eyes and into the corners of his mouth?

Turning his teeth black for a month!

And the principal walked into the bathroom, saw the black mess everywhere and

kicked him out of school for ruining school property?

But first he was told he had to address the school on " Why I will never turn

the bathroom sinks black again?

And you were asked to get up and speak on his behalf in front of the whole

school?

And I said, " Please don't kick him out? He said he loves me and I know he

will be so lost without my kisses every day! "

By then we would be laughing really hard and once we'd regained composure one

of us would invariably say something like, " Don't mean people suck? " And

that would be the end of it until the next time.....

Regards,

Debbie in IL

Daughter MGB 8/9 Cigna (3rd appeal)--BMI 45

Counting on Cigna for Debbie (BMI 40) ins letter re-re-sent 7/21

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In a message dated 7/21/00 7:37:19 AM Pacific Daylight Time, Boingy300@...

writes:

<< A friend of mine is a psychologist said Gestalt(sp?) therapy is when you

place a chair(preferably one you don't like) in the middle of the room. When

you're all alone in the house. Scream at the chair as if it were that

person,say all those things you're afraid to say to him as if he were

sitting

there,cry,yell,get it out. Anger should be shared.>>

This reminds me of what I used to do with my daughter Chris. When some mean

boy had called her names she and I would later sit on her bed and talk about

all the bad things that we wished would happen to him, or what we'd like to

do to him. It was a challenge to come up with non-brutal ways to make him

" pay. " A sample conversation would sound like this:

Wouldn't if be awful if he lost his baggy pants on the way to the lunchroom?

Yeah, and his Winnie the Pooh underoos were exposed?

And he tripped over the wad of pants on his shoes as he ran to the bathroom?

And when he had pulled himself together and went to spray his hair with that

huge can of hairspray, it was replaced with black spray paint?

Which then oozed down around his eyes and into the corners of his mouth?

Turning his teeth black for a month!

And the principal walked into the bathroom, saw the black mess everywhere and

kicked him out of school for ruining school property?

But first he was told he had to address the school on " Why I will never turn

the bathroom sinks black again?

And you were asked to get up and speak on his behalf in front of the whole

school?

And I said, " Please don't kick him out? He said he loves me and I know he

will be so lost without my kisses every day! "

By then we would be laughing really hard and once we'd regained composure one

of us would invariably say something like, " Don't mean people suck? " And

that would be the end of it until the next time.....

Regards,

Debbie in IL

Daughter MGB 8/9 Cigna (3rd appeal)--BMI 45

Counting on Cigna for Debbie (BMI 40) ins letter re-re-sent 7/21