The real Tobias is standing up

[Guest guest]

I want to encourage those of your who are new and maybe some of you

who are going through some difficult times right now.

It seems like each day that we continue with SCD the real Tobias

emerges a little more. When we first had Tobias and h come to

our home at 6 and 18 months my heart fell in love with them. I knew

that I was setting myself up for heart break as he and his sister

were foster children, native American and both parents still had

rights. Somehow I knew in my heart that they were ours.

They were such a joy, funny, alert, h had major problems

emotionally but was to be expected from what she had been through in

her young 18 months.

h came out of her depression and many of the issues she had.

Tobias seemed to go deeper as he grew and matured. Finally it got

to the point that at age 4 I could not handle him. We started

alternative methods to help(a neurodevelopemental program). This

help for a time and then his raging, aggression and oppositional

attitude came back with a vengence. We went for 3 month watching

him go back further than he had been. I was so frightened for him.

I didn't know where to turn nor what to do. I was determined that I

was not going to allow him to be put on the medication nightmare

unless we had gone down every other avenue, the problem was I didn't

know what other avenue to start down.

We were then adviced to look at SCD being told that we would know

within 3 wks if it was going to help. We knew within less then a

week that we were seeing change and deterimined that we would

continue.

Today, 3 months 1 1/2 weeks later, with some tweeking of certain

foods like the Saliccylates, we are living with the little boy that

I knew in my heart lived within Tobias. I had been given glimpses

of the knowledge that he had been as misserable as the rest of us

with his rages etc. He hated being the way he was.

He is now excited about life, fun, funny(he has such an awesome

sense of humar), helpful, teasing but in fun not being mean,

cooperative(most of the time), and has a good attitued most of the

time(unless he has gotten a food high in salicylates, we are still

finding ones that affect him. Most of them that are high that we

have tried do though.)

If you are just starting, keep going for several weeks, keep

reading, if this diet is the key for you it is worth it.

If you have been going for awhile, seen some improvements but have

not seen all that you wanted, keep reading and look at further

tweeking the diet. It is worth it.

I hope this helps someone out there in our list serve that is

struggling with discouragement. When we first started I did not see

how I could do it all as most of my time and energy was being spent

dealing with a 5 yr old that was totally out of control from 7 A.M.

to 9 P.M. Very soon that deminished, my stress level came down and

I was able to really enjoy the cooking for my family and my family.

Keep up the good work.

Sandy M.

Whole family SCD in support of 5 yr old who raged.

P.S. I know you know this but wanted to enforce, it is VERY

important that you follow the legal/illegal list very closely. I am

still weeding out possible things that could cause problems even if

I do not see a direct reaction such as I am going to not use

boughten juices any more. This is just something that I feel to do.