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> In a message dated 8/2/2000 6:33:19 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

> rosemarylocklear@c... writes:

>

> >

> > Hi,

> > My name is Rosemary Locklear, I had the miniGastric Bypass on 7-

24-

> > 00. I am home and I think I'm doing fine but I'm having

terrible

> > food withdrawals. My husband thinks I'm crazy. Why would I

want to

> > eat if I'm not hungry! I don't know but I just do. I keep

going to

> > the chat room for support but nobody is ever there.

Better than I did -- I kept going to the refrigerator and nothing and

nobody was there . . . lol!

Sounds like you are a food-for-comfort eater like I was/am. The

next 3 weeks will be a big adjustment for you. There is nothing to

do to make it better. It is *very* similar to quitting smoking. You

just have to wait it out, but with one really great benefit -- the

MGB will *make* you survive the head hunger problems, even when you

have those spurts where you go back to a " diet " mentality. I would

get frustrated and say, " Oh the hell with it, I'm going to eat a

(whatever) right now! " and go get it. I'd feel defiant and also like

I was " blowing my diet " at the same time. You know the feeling. But

the difference was that the food would *not* provide any satisfaction

when I did this. Food stopped being its own reward. That was a

really difficult thing to realize for me.

Another part of the problem is getting out of the mindset that there

are foods you " shouldn't " eat and beating yourself up for eating

them. Once you get where you can have solid foods, add a new food a

day or so -- whatever strikes your fancy that day. You'll soon start

discovering that *nothing* really gives you any satisfaction.

The food comfort factor is *gone.* That is a big adjustment to make

and it just takes time. It *will* get better, it will.

I'm at 2.5 months (not that long, though it seems like it while you

are doing it) and *now* my brain has adjusted. No kidding. It is

AMAZING to me, but when I left on this trip, I had a lot of UNOPENED

snacks in my house. I had left overs in the fridge.

And food tastes good again and is comforting again, but in a

different way. I actually feel *very* hungry about every three to

four hours, and food satisfies that hunger. Before surgery, I

always ate because I wasn't full or I ate until the food was all

gone, not because I was " hungry " or " full. " Those words were not

relevant to how I ate. But now, I seem to have developed what can

only be described as a nearly normal relationship with food, where I

eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full, and I feel *fine* in

between. No head hunger. And I don't have to have a 32 oz. drink at

my side anymore, either. I used to *always* have a drink of some

sort around, and I was a big drinker during eating. After the MGB, I

kept water on hand constantly but that has tapered off all on its

own. I have not tried to not drink during meals or not have a drink

on hand, but on its own, the habit has gone away. I can be out and

about all day and hardly ever think about having a drink at all or

about eating -- until my stomach says " HUNGRY. " This is way cool.

Hang in there, sweetie. It *does* get better!!!

Hugs,

Help! Is

> > anybody else having this problem or am I the only person who

wants to

> > quit eating in my heart but my head has other ideas? I feel

guilty

> > because I ate the noodles out of some chicken noodle soup today!

> > Thanks for any response.

> > Rosemary

> >

> Rosemary...

> I think the chat room is rarely used..it seems the

emails (posts

> for you web readers) are used instead of chat. You will find all

the support

> you need right here in this group. Just post and people will

embrace

> you..you'll see! How long did you research and wait before you had

your MGB?

> I hear the first 2-4 weeks are the hardest for wanting to eat and

then you

> can! I am pre-op so I cannot offer any advice from being there

myself yet.

> Did you have any complications with your surgery or did you think

it was

> pretty easy? I have been asking everyone how they rate the pain on

a 1 to 10

> scale and some people say a 3 and some as high as 7. What did you

think?

> Easier or harder than you expected? I know all of us pre-ops are

so happy

> for you all on the other side...we just wish we were there too

already

> complication free!! ANyway..didn't mean to go on and on...but

welcome to

> this group and I know you will find lots of support here!

> Holly in Illinois

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In a message dated 8/3/2000 10:16:44 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

beachwalkers@... writes:

>

> Sounds like the food withdrawals will get better. The only food

> withdrawals I'm having are when my family eats a juicy steak or ice

> cream

couldn't we have ice cream during liquid months? Sugar free?

Holly

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Rosemary,

Hi, we're littermates! I also had the MGB on 7/24/00! What time was

your surgery? I've been looking for our littermates. There was

another lady named Donna Lineback? also done on 7/24, she stopped by

my room on 7/25 to say goodbye.

Sounds like the food withdrawals will get better. The only food

withdrawals I'm having are when my family eats a juicy steak or ice

cream. Other than that, I'm doing fine in that area. I'm having a

tough time remembering to drink enough fluids. I am way too dry.

Today I go to my PCP to get the staples out.

Hang in there, like you said, there's no turning back. Keep the

positives in your mind, like go into your closet and look at those

smaller clothes that are going to fit soon!

If you want to e-mail privately, my address is beachwalkers @ home.

com.

Sincerely,

Bernardine

248/236

> > > In a message dated 8/2/2000 6:33:19 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

> > > rosemarylocklear@c... writes:

> > >

> > > >

> > > > Hi,

> > > > My name is Rosemary Locklear, I had the miniGastric Bypass

on 7-

> > 24-

> > > > 00. I am home and I think I'm doing fine but I'm having

> > terrible

> > > > food withdrawals. My husband thinks I'm crazy. Why would I

> > want to

> > > > eat if I'm not hungry! I don't know but I just do. I keep

> > going to

> > > > the chat room for support but nobody is ever there.

> >

> > Better than I did -- I kept going to the refrigerator and nothing

and

> > nobody was there . . . lol!

> >

> > Sounds like you are a food-for-comfort eater like I was/am. The

> > next 3 weeks will be a big adjustment for you. There is nothing

to

> > do to make it better. It is *very* similar to quitting smoking.

You

> > just have to wait it out, but with one really great benefit -- the

> > MGB will *make* you survive the head hunger problems, even when

you

> > have those spurts where you go back to a " diet " mentality. I

would

> > get frustrated and say, " Oh the hell with it, I'm going to eat a

> > (whatever) right now! " and go get it. I'd feel defiant and also

like

> > I was " blowing my diet " at the same time. You know the feeling.

But

> > the difference was that the food would *not* provide any

satisfaction

> > when I did this. Food stopped being its own reward. That was a

> > really difficult thing to realize for me.

> >

> > Another part of the problem is getting out of the mindset that

there

> > are foods you " shouldn't " eat and beating yourself up for eating

> > them. Once you get where you can have solid foods, add a new

food a

> > day or so -- whatever strikes your fancy that day. You'll soon

start

> > discovering that *nothing* really gives you any satisfaction.

> >

> > The food comfort factor is *gone.* That is a big adjustment to

make

> > and it just takes time. It *will* get better, it will.

> >

> > I'm at 2.5 months (not that long, though it seems like it while

you

> > are doing it) and *now* my brain has adjusted. No kidding. It is

> > AMAZING to me, but when I left on this trip, I had a lot of

UNOPENED

> > snacks in my house. I had left overs in the fridge.

> >

> > And food tastes good again and is comforting again, but in a

> > different way. I actually feel *very* hungry about every three to

> > four hours, and food satisfies that hunger. Before surgery, I

> > always ate because I wasn't full or I ate until the food was all

> > gone, not because I was " hungry " or " full. " Those words were not

> > relevant to how I ate. But now, I seem to have developed what can

> > only be described as a nearly normal relationship with food,

where I

> > eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full, and I feel *fine* in

> > between. No head hunger. And I don't have to have a 32 oz.

drink at

> > my side anymore, either. I used to *always* have a drink of some

> > sort around, and I was a big drinker during eating. After the

MGB, I

> > kept water on hand constantly but that has tapered off all on its

> > own. I have not tried to not drink during meals or not have a

drink

> > on hand, but on its own, the habit has gone away. I can be out

and

> > about all day and hardly ever think about having a drink at all or

> > about eating -- until my stomach says " HUNGRY. " This is way cool.

> >

> > Hang in there, sweetie. It *does* get better!!!

> >

> > Hugs,

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Help! Is

> > > > anybody else having this problem or am I the only person who

> > wants to

> > > > quit eating in my heart but my head has other ideas? I feel

> > guilty

> > > > because I ate the noodles out of some chicken noodle soup

today!

> > > > Thanks for any response.

> > > > Rosemary

> > > >

> > > Rosemary...

> > > I think the chat room is rarely used..it seems the

> > emails (posts

> > > for you web readers) are used instead of chat. You will find

all

> > the support

> > > you need right here in this group. Just post and people will

> > embrace

> > > you..you'll see! How long did you research and wait before you

had

> > your MGB?

> > > I hear the first 2-4 weeks are the hardest for wanting to eat

and

> > then you

> > > can! I am pre-op so I cannot offer any advice from being there

> > myself yet.

> > > Did you have any complications with your surgery or did you

think

> > it was

> > > pretty easy? I have been asking everyone how they rate the

pain on

> > a 1 to 10

> > > scale and some people say a 3 and some as high as 7. What did

you

> > think?

> > > Easier or harder than you expected? I know all of us pre-ops

are

> > so happy

> > > for you all on the other side...we just wish we were there too

> > already

> > > complication free!! ANyway..didn't mean to go on and on...but

> > welcome to

> > > this group and I know you will find lots of support here!

> > > Holly in Illinois

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at

Onelist.com

> > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

> > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm

> >

> > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to:

> MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com

> >

> >

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Thanks ,

I'm hanging in cause like I told Dr R there is NO TURNING BACK! But you

definitely know what I'm going through! I'm sad, I feel like I lost my best

friend (really enemy) it's strange to realize that food had that big of a

pull on me! I never really realize it controlled me so! So if I don't

throw up the noodles it's ok????????

Rosemary

Re: lonely - ROSEMARY

>

> > In a message dated 8/2/2000 6:33:19 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

> > rosemarylocklear@c... writes:

> >

> > >

> > > Hi,

> > > My name is Rosemary Locklear, I had the miniGastric Bypass on 7-

> 24-

> > > 00. I am home and I think I'm doing fine but I'm having

> terrible

> > > food withdrawals. My husband thinks I'm crazy. Why would I

> want to

> > > eat if I'm not hungry! I don't know but I just do. I keep

> going to

> > > the chat room for support but nobody is ever there.

>

> Better than I did -- I kept going to the refrigerator and nothing and

> nobody was there . . . lol!

>

> Sounds like you are a food-for-comfort eater like I was/am. The

> next 3 weeks will be a big adjustment for you. There is nothing to

> do to make it better. It is *very* similar to quitting smoking. You

> just have to wait it out, but with one really great benefit -- the

> MGB will *make* you survive the head hunger problems, even when you

> have those spurts where you go back to a " diet " mentality. I would

> get frustrated and say, " Oh the hell with it, I'm going to eat a

> (whatever) right now! " and go get it. I'd feel defiant and also like

> I was " blowing my diet " at the same time. You know the feeling. But

> the difference was that the food would *not* provide any satisfaction

> when I did this. Food stopped being its own reward. That was a

> really difficult thing to realize for me.

>

> Another part of the problem is getting out of the mindset that there

> are foods you " shouldn't " eat and beating yourself up for eating

> them. Once you get where you can have solid foods, add a new food a

> day or so -- whatever strikes your fancy that day. You'll soon start

> discovering that *nothing* really gives you any satisfaction.

>

> The food comfort factor is *gone.* That is a big adjustment to make

> and it just takes time. It *will* get better, it will.

>

> I'm at 2.5 months (not that long, though it seems like it while you

> are doing it) and *now* my brain has adjusted. No kidding. It is

> AMAZING to me, but when I left on this trip, I had a lot of UNOPENED

> snacks in my house. I had left overs in the fridge.

>

> And food tastes good again and is comforting again, but in a

> different way. I actually feel *very* hungry about every three to

> four hours, and food satisfies that hunger. Before surgery, I

> always ate because I wasn't full or I ate until the food was all

> gone, not because I was " hungry " or " full. " Those words were not

> relevant to how I ate. But now, I seem to have developed what can

> only be described as a nearly normal relationship with food, where I

> eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full, and I feel *fine* in

> between. No head hunger. And I don't have to have a 32 oz. drink at

> my side anymore, either. I used to *always* have a drink of some

> sort around, and I was a big drinker during eating. After the MGB, I

> kept water on hand constantly but that has tapered off all on its

> own. I have not tried to not drink during meals or not have a drink

> on hand, but on its own, the habit has gone away. I can be out and

> about all day and hardly ever think about having a drink at all or

> about eating -- until my stomach says " HUNGRY. " This is way cool.

>

> Hang in there, sweetie. It *does* get better!!!

>

> Hugs,

>

>

>

>

> Help! Is

> > > anybody else having this problem or am I the only person who

> wants to

> > > quit eating in my heart but my head has other ideas? I feel

> guilty

> > > because I ate the noodles out of some chicken noodle soup today!

> > > Thanks for any response.

> > > Rosemary

> > >

> > Rosemary...

> > I think the chat room is rarely used..it seems the

> emails (posts

> > for you web readers) are used instead of chat. You will find all

> the support

> > you need right here in this group. Just post and people will

> embrace

> > you..you'll see! How long did you research and wait before you had

> your MGB?

> > I hear the first 2-4 weeks are the hardest for wanting to eat and

> then you

> > can! I am pre-op so I cannot offer any advice from being there

> myself yet.

> > Did you have any complications with your surgery or did you think

> it was

> > pretty easy? I have been asking everyone how they rate the pain on

> a 1 to 10

> > scale and some people say a 3 and some as high as 7. What did you

> think?

> > Easier or harder than you expected? I know all of us pre-ops are

> so happy

> > for you all on the other side...we just wish we were there too

> already

> > complication free!! ANyway..didn't mean to go on and on...but

> welcome to

> > this group and I know you will find lots of support here!

> > Holly in Illinois

>

>

>

>

> This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

> Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

> Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm

>

> To Unsubscribe Send and Email to:

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Hi,

Finally a litter mate! I thought I was alone! I was on 4th floor. I was

the only one on the floor so the nurses said. I was Dr R first one that

day, my surgery was for 7:30 but he was calling for me before I even was

signed in!! He must really enjoy getting inside of us to be early huh? lol

I was on my way to surgery well before 7:30!!

Taking the staples out was a cinch. I went back to Durham and let Dr R do

it. The two top ports stung a little, but just a second. Of course he is a

pro! Will e-mail you soon!

Rosemary

MGB 7/24/00

Re: lonely - ROSEMARY

> Rosemary,

> Hi, we're littermates! I also had the MGB on 7/24/00! What time was

> your surgery? I've been looking for our littermates. There was

> another lady named Donna Lineback? also done on 7/24, she stopped by

> my room on 7/25 to say goodbye.

>

> Sounds like the food withdrawals will get better. The only food

> withdrawals I'm having are when my family eats a juicy steak or ice

> cream. Other than that, I'm doing fine in that area. I'm having a

> tough time remembering to drink enough fluids. I am way too dry.

> Today I go to my PCP to get the staples out.

>

> Hang in there, like you said, there's no turning back. Keep the

> positives in your mind, like go into your closet and look at those

> smaller clothes that are going to fit soon!

>

> If you want to e-mail privately, my address is beachwalkers @ home.

> com.

>

> Sincerely,

> Bernardine

> 248/236

>

>

>

> > > > In a message dated 8/2/2000 6:33:19 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

> > > > rosemarylocklear@c... writes:

> > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > Hi,

> > > > > My name is Rosemary Locklear, I had the miniGastric Bypass

> on 7-

> > > 24-

> > > > > 00. I am home and I think I'm doing fine but I'm having

> > > terrible

> > > > > food withdrawals. My husband thinks I'm crazy. Why would I

> > > want to

> > > > > eat if I'm not hungry! I don't know but I just do. I keep

> > > going to

> > > > > the chat room for support but nobody is ever there.

> > >

> > > Better than I did -- I kept going to the refrigerator and nothing

> and

> > > nobody was there . . . lol!

> > >

> > > Sounds like you are a food-for-comfort eater like I was/am. The

> > > next 3 weeks will be a big adjustment for you. There is nothing

> to

> > > do to make it better. It is *very* similar to quitting smoking.

> You

> > > just have to wait it out, but with one really great benefit -- the

> > > MGB will *make* you survive the head hunger problems, even when

> you

> > > have those spurts where you go back to a " diet " mentality. I

> would

> > > get frustrated and say, " Oh the hell with it, I'm going to eat a

> > > (whatever) right now! " and go get it. I'd feel defiant and also

> like

> > > I was " blowing my diet " at the same time. You know the feeling.

> But

> > > the difference was that the food would *not* provide any

> satisfaction

> > > when I did this. Food stopped being its own reward. That was a

> > > really difficult thing to realize for me.

> > >

> > > Another part of the problem is getting out of the mindset that

> there

> > > are foods you " shouldn't " eat and beating yourself up for eating

> > > them. Once you get where you can have solid foods, add a new

> food a

> > > day or so -- whatever strikes your fancy that day. You'll soon

> start

> > > discovering that *nothing* really gives you any satisfaction.

> > >

> > > The food comfort factor is *gone.* That is a big adjustment to

> make

> > > and it just takes time. It *will* get better, it will.

> > >

> > > I'm at 2.5 months (not that long, though it seems like it while

> you

> > > are doing it) and *now* my brain has adjusted. No kidding. It is

> > > AMAZING to me, but when I left on this trip, I had a lot of

> UNOPENED

> > > snacks in my house. I had left overs in the fridge.

> > >

> > > And food tastes good again and is comforting again, but in a

> > > different way. I actually feel *very* hungry about every three to

> > > four hours, and food satisfies that hunger. Before surgery, I

> > > always ate because I wasn't full or I ate until the food was all

> > > gone, not because I was " hungry " or " full. " Those words were not

> > > relevant to how I ate. But now, I seem to have developed what can

> > > only be described as a nearly normal relationship with food,

> where I

> > > eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full, and I feel *fine* in

> > > between. No head hunger. And I don't have to have a 32 oz.

> drink at

> > > my side anymore, either. I used to *always* have a drink of some

> > > sort around, and I was a big drinker during eating. After the

> MGB, I

> > > kept water on hand constantly but that has tapered off all on its

> > > own. I have not tried to not drink during meals or not have a

> drink

> > > on hand, but on its own, the habit has gone away. I can be out

> and

> > > about all day and hardly ever think about having a drink at all or

> > > about eating -- until my stomach says " HUNGRY. " This is way cool.

> > >

> > > Hang in there, sweetie. It *does* get better!!!

> > >

> > > Hugs,

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Help! Is

> > > > > anybody else having this problem or am I the only person who

> > > wants to

> > > > > quit eating in my heart but my head has other ideas? I feel

> > > guilty

> > > > > because I ate the noodles out of some chicken noodle soup

> today!

> > > > > Thanks for any response.

> > > > > Rosemary

> > > > >

> > > > Rosemary...

> > > > I think the chat room is rarely used..it seems the

> > > emails (posts

> > > > for you web readers) are used instead of chat. You will find

> all

> > > the support

> > > > you need right here in this group. Just post and people will

> > > embrace

> > > > you..you'll see! How long did you research and wait before you

> had

> > > your MGB?

> > > > I hear the first 2-4 weeks are the hardest for wanting to eat

> and

> > > then you

> > > > can! I am pre-op so I cannot offer any advice from being there

> > > myself yet.

> > > > Did you have any complications with your surgery or did you

> think

> > > it was

> > > > pretty easy? I have been asking everyone how they rate the

> pain on

> > > a 1 to 10

> > > > scale and some people say a 3 and some as high as 7. What did

> you

> > > think?

> > > > Easier or harder than you expected? I know all of us pre-ops

> are

> > > so happy

> > > > for you all on the other side...we just wish we were there too

> > > already

> > > > complication free!! ANyway..didn't mean to go on and on...but

> > > welcome to

> > > > this group and I know you will find lots of support here!

> > > > Holly in Illinois

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at

> Onelist.com

> > > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

> > > Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm

> > >

> > > To Unsubscribe Send and Email to:

> > MiniGastricBypass-unsubscribe (AT) egroups (DOT) com

> > >

> > >

>

>

>

>

> This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

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Hi Holly--

I've had some sugar free ice cream (I'm two weeks post-op)--it's

great

in the blender with a banana & strawberries!

--a in CT

> In a message dated 8/3/2000 10:16:44 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

> beachwalkers@h... writes:

>

> >

> > Sounds like the food withdrawals will get better. The only food

> > withdrawals I'm having are when my family eats a juicy steak or

ice

> > cream

> couldn't we have ice cream during liquid months? Sugar free?

> Holly

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