Re: Re: NEED HELP PLEASE!!!!

[Guest guest]

Hi Everyone,

I need you to do me a HUGE favor. My mom lives in PA and I am in SC. She is

so worried about me having the surgery and she gets so sick when she worries.

I have tried and tried and tried to explain it to her as well as beg her to

come to Durham with me and she is too scared. Of course, everyone around home

has been telling her nightmare storeies of Other Weight Loss procedures. I

need Everyone that can possibly take the time to just write a note about

what it is like to live a Fat life and How you feel after the surgery, and

comparisons to other surgeries that She can understand. I am sending her the

manuel (which I already read to her) I just promised her I would send

letters from my friends on the list that have had the surgery. She knows

that it is not a quick answer, she understands that it will be hard, but she

is sooooooooo worried and I want to try to just reassure her that it is OK.

Please help me, I love her and I don't want her to be sick because of

something I decided to do. I guess I am not so great at explaining things.

LINDA you are EASY to understand. PLEASE!! I will owe you!! Thanks I love you

all really! Thanksssssssssssssssss in Advance?? xoxoxoxox Margie JULY26th!!!

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 7/17/2000 11:25:14 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

MCypher31@... writes:

> ne,

>

> I need you to do me a HUGE favor. My mom lives in PA and I am in SC. She

is

> so worried about me having the surgery and she gets so sick when she

worries.

>

> I have tried and tried and tried to explain it to her as well as beg her

to

> come to Durham with me and she is too scared. Of course, everyone around

> home

> has been telling her nightmare storeies of Other Weight Loss procedures. I

> need Everyone that can possibly take the time to just write a note about

> what it is like to live a Fat life and How you feel after the surgery, and

> comparisons to other surgeries that She can understand. I am sending her

the

>

> manuel (which I already read to her) I just promised her I would send

> letters from my friends on the list that have had the surgery. She knows

> that it is not a quick answer, she understands that it will be hard, but

> she

> is sooooooooo worried and I want to try to just reassure her that it is

OK.

> Please help me, I love her and I don't want her to be sick because of

> something I decided to do. I guess I am not so great at explaining

things.

> LINDA you are EASY to understand. PLEASE!! I will owe you!! Thanks I love

> you

> all really! Thanksssssssssssssssss in Advance?? xoxoxoxox Margie

JULY26th!!

> !

>

> -------------------

I am afraid my mom is going to be the same way and intend on educating her

next week as to what I want to do. I haven't talked to her much about it

yet, although she is my main support person since I am divorced, because I

wanted to wait til I felt really educated about it. So, Margie..if you get

any really good letters that could possibly help me out too..please forward

them to me if you don't mind. Thanks a million!

Holly in Illinois

a wannabe who is obsessing over this surgery

[Guest guest]

Margie, I haven't had the MGB yet, or I would be happy to write a letter to

your mom. This is the exact reason I decided not to tell my in-laws. My

father in law just had a minor stroke about a month or so ago, and my mother

in law is a big worrier. I took her to the doctor a couple of weeks ago, and

her blood pressure was up from worrying about him. I don't want to add to

that. My husband and I figure we will tell them after it's over. I told my

kids that I didn't want to tell them because I didn't want them to worry, and

so far they haven't spilled the beans. In fact, last week when I went to

Durham for clinic, my mother in law stopped by, and my 14 year old daughter

told her I had just gone to WalMart.. I couldn't believe she lied, but she

said she couldn't think of anything else to say. This has been a hard

decision, and I feel really bad about turning my kids into liars... but I

think in the long run this is best for my in laws. I understand that it

would be harder not to tell your own mother. I told mine, and my dad is very

worried about it. I feel bad, especially since he's not in great health

himself.. everytime I see him, he just keeps asking more about MGB and says,

" Are you sure you want to do this? " He says that he would rather have me fat

and healthy than thin and dead... but I don't think he realizes how unhealthy

I feel, or how miserable it is to be this heavy. Anyway, I am having my MGB

in 2 weeks, and I will have the chance to be thin and healthy! Good luck to

Margie and everyone else in line for MGB.. Hope to meet lots of you soon!

Deb in IL

[Guest guest]

Margie give us her number and will call her. My Mom was worried also but she

knows I do what I want and just prayed for me. If she had talked to real

MGBers I know she would have been more at ease.

Love,

from Fla

[Guest guest]

MCypher31@... wrote:

>

> Hi Everyone,

>

> I need you to do me a HUGE favor. My mom lives in PA and I am in SC. She is

> so worried about me having the surgery and she gets so sick when she worries.

> I have tried and tried and tried to explain it to her as well as beg her to

> come to Durham with me and she is too scared. Of course, everyone around home

> has been telling her nightmare storeies of Other Weight Loss procedures. I

> need Everyone that can possibly take the time to just write a note about

> what it is like to live a Fat life and How you feel after the surgery, and

> comparisons to other surgeries that She can understand. I am sending her the

> manuel (which I already read to her) I just promised her I would send

> letters from my friends on the list that have had the surgery. She knows

> that it is not a quick answer, she understands that it will be hard, but she

> is sooooooooo worried and I want to try to just reassure her that it is OK.

> Please help me, I love her and I don't want her to be sick because of

> something I decided to do. I guess I am not so great at explaining things.

> LINDA you are EASY to understand. PLEASE!! I will owe you!! Thanks I love you

> all really! Thanksssssssssssssssss in Advance?? xoxoxoxox Margie JULY26th!!!

>

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+Margie,

Here is my two cents worth. I am 52 years old and weigh 350 pounds. I

have not been under 250 for twenty years. My surgery was on the 12th of

July. I left the hospital on the 13th and drove home(1150 miles) on the

14th. The surgery went well. I had a little trouble breathing but that

was taken care of by giving me a little oxygen while in the hospital. I

am a bit weak, but if I had to go back to work I could. I am drinking

my juices, taking my medicines and all is well. I am not sorry. Aim

in no pain. Aim at peace that I finally took care of myself. To your

mother--The surgery was not exactly a piece of cake for me but I have no

complaints worth mentioning. This is abig step for you daughter. Try

not tomake it harder for her by dumping your concerns on her. She needs

your support. Give it to her. You will not be sorry.

Dena Lawton/MGB july12

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 7/17/00 12:22:29 PM Pacific Daylight Time, Hadjab@...

writes:

<< his is the exact reason I decided not to tell my in-laws. My

father in law just had a minor stroke about a month or so ago, and my mother

in law is a big worrier. I took her to the doctor a couple of weeks ago,

and

her blood pressure was up from worrying about him. I don't want to add to

that. >>

Hi Deb,

We are in the same boat. I am not telling anyone in my family (except my

husband and kids of course) because my daughter, feels very strongly

that she does not want anyone to know about her surgery and if I tell about

mine, then they will pretty much figure out that she had the same surgery! I

am thinking that she might change her mind, but until then I will not " out "

her. This is going to be hard, though, because I have a LARGE and loving

family and could use the support! LOL Oh, well, it will all work out as it

should--things always do!

Regards,

Debbie in IL

Daughter MGB 8/9 Cigna (3rd appeal)--BMI 45

Counting on Cigna for Debbie (BMI 40) ins letter sent 7/14

[Guest guest]

Dear MARGIE,

I think I can do you one better than a letter describing the daily

heartbreaks a fat person experiences. Your mother loves you and has seen the

pain you're in. My mother's name is Pamela Lee. Her phone number is

. She is worried too but she is accompanying me to NC. Just ask

your mom to leave a quick message about the fact that you are taking the same

step that I am and ask her to return the call. My mom screens so your mom

will probably need to leave a fairly explicit message and my mom will be glad

to share her hopes and fears. If you would like, contact me and we can set

something up. My 1st appointment is August 1st.

Laurel