Re: More bridesmaid horror.

[Guest guest]

Oh, , how awful for you.

I hope your insurance company approves you right away.

Hugs,

> Hi all.

>

> I went today and got " sized " for the wedding that I am supposed to

be in on

> January 6th. It was horrible. The lady took my measurements...I

wear about

> a 26-28 in normal clothes, and we all know how small things run in

formal

> stuff. Well, not to mention that they don't make many bridesmaid

dresses

> bigger than a 24 and that in REAL life means the size of an 18.

Well, this

> particular dress only went up to a size 22...and the lady at the

dress shop

> says in front of about 10 people, " I am sorry honey, it doesn't

look

like

> this dress comes in your large size. Is there any other duty that

the bride

> could have you do instead of being a bridesmaid? " I couldn't even

answer her

> I was so embarassed and ashamed. I turned to look at how many

people heard

> her and there were about 8-9 people that were standing in line

waiting to

> check out...I think it was a whole wedding party picking up their

dresses. I

> did all I could to keep my chin from trembling and asked her what

could I do?

> She said " well, I don't think that you can lose that kind of

weight

in 6

> months, so you decide. " I was so embarassed that I just told her

to

order

> the largest size they made and I would " try. " So, I paid my

deposit

and

> before she would let me sign the receipt she says " Honey, please be

sure and

> read this store policy on this receipt...we can not give you your

money bak

> under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, so when you come in to pick up this dress

and it is

> too small, I'm sorry. " I signed and said thank you and left. I

got

in the

> car and cried all the way home. I have never been so humiliated

from my

> weight as that moment. My measurements were 4 inches larger than

the dress

> is made in the hips. Everywhere else was fine. I might have to

duck tape

> them if I can't lose enough weight betweeen now and then. What I

would love

> to happen is to be approved for this surgery and go back in 5

months

and be

> at least 50 lbs. lighter and aske that same saleslady to help me

again. I

> know that it is wishful thinking to have the surgery so soon (as

far

along as

> I am in the process..I am still waiting on isurance approval).

Sorry this

> was so long...I just needed to vent some more on all this

bridesmaid

horror.

> Thanks for listening.

>

>

> Pre-Op

> Hoping, Praying, Wishing, Expecting to be on the other side soon.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

You hang in there and get this surgery as soon as possible!!!!!!!! I

will

be six weeks post-op tomorrow and I always measure on wednesdays. After I read

your post I went ahead and measured my hips and I have lost 3 1/2 inches from my

hips in 6 weeks!!!!!!!

You can do this.......don't let that rude sales clerk get the best of you. Get

the ball rolling and don't give up!!!!!!!! Start hounding that insurance company

tomorrow. You have six months to fit into that dress and have it altered when it

is too big on you!!!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!

Best Wishes,

Genz

HNBarnhill@... wrote:

> Hi all.

>

> I went today and got " sized " for the wedding that I am supposed to be in on

> January 6th. It was horrible. The lady took my measurements...I wear about

> a 26-28 in normal clothes, and we all know how small things run in formal

> stuff. Well, not to mention that they don't make many bridesmaid dresses

> bigger than a 24 and that in REAL life means the size of an 18. Well, this

> particular dress only went up to a size 22...and the lady at the dress shop

> says in front of about 10 people, " I am sorry honey, it doesn't look like

> this dress comes in your large size. Is there any other duty that the bride

> could have you do instead of being a bridesmaid? " I couldn't even answer her

> I was so embarassed and ashamed. I turned to look at how many people heard

> her and there were about 8-9 people that were standing in line waiting to

> check out...I think it was a whole wedding party picking up their dresses. I

> did all I could to keep my chin from trembling and asked her what could I do?

> She said " well, I don't think that you can lose that kind of weight in 6

> months, so you decide. " I was so embarassed that I just told her to order

> the largest size they made and I would " try. " So, I paid my deposit and

> before she would let me sign the receipt she says " Honey, please be sure and

> read this store policy on this receipt...we can not give you your money bak

> under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, so when you come in to pick up this dress and it is

> too small, I'm sorry. " I signed and said thank you and left. I got in the

> car and cried all the way home. I have never been so humiliated from my

> weight as that moment. My measurements were 4 inches larger than the dress

> is made in the hips. Everywhere else was fine. I might have to duck tape

> them if I can't lose enough weight betweeen now and then. What I would love

> to happen is to be approved for this surgery and go back in 5 months and be

> at least 50 lbs. lighter and aske that same saleslady to help me again. I

> know that it is wishful thinking to have the surgery so soon (as far along as

> I am in the process..I am still waiting on isurance approval). Sorry this

> was so long...I just needed to vent some more on all this bridesmaid horror.

> Thanks for listening.

>

>

> Pre-Op

> Hoping, Praying, Wishing, Expecting to be on the other side soon.

>

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> If not, check this site out.

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[Guest guest]

,

That is awful!! That saleswoman was downright mean and

insensitive!!!!!! I hope you hear something soon from you insurance company.

Tricia in IL

waiting, too, for insurance approval

HNBarnhill@... wrote:

>

> Hi all.

>

> I went today and got " sized " for the wedding that I am supposed to be

> in on

> January 6th. It was horrible. The lady took my measurements...I wear

> about

> a 26-28 in normal clothes, and we all know how small things run in

> formal

> stuff. Well, not to mention that they don't make many bridesmaid

> dresses

> bigger than a 24 and that in REAL life means the size of an 18. Well,

> this

> particular dress only went up to a size 22...and the lady at the dress

> shop

> says in front of about 10 people, " I am sorry honey, it doesn't look

> like

> this dress comes in your large size. Is there any other duty that the

> bride

> could have you do instead of being a bridesmaid? " I couldn't even

> answer her

> I was so embarassed and ashamed. I turned to look at how many people

> heard

> her and there were about 8-9 people that were standing in line waiting

> to

> check out...I think it was a whole wedding party picking up their

> dresses. I

> did all I could to keep my chin from trembling and asked her what

> could I do?

> She said " well, I don't think that you can lose that kind of weight in

> 6

> months, so you decide. " I was so embarassed that I just told her to

> order

> the largest size they made and I would " try. " So, I paid my deposit

> and

> before she would let me sign the receipt she says " Honey, please be

> sure and

> read this store policy on this receipt...we can not give you your

> money bak

> under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, so when you come in to pick up this dress and

> it is

> too small, I'm sorry. " I signed and said thank you and left. I got

> in the

> car and cried all the way home. I have never been so humiliated from

> my

> weight as that moment. My measurements were 4 inches larger than the

> dress

> is made in the hips. Everywhere else was fine. I might have to duck

> tape

> them if I can't lose enough weight betweeen now and then. What I

> would love

> to happen is to be approved for this surgery and go back in 5 months

> and be

> at least 50 lbs. lighter and aske that same saleslady to help me

> again. I

> know that it is wishful thinking to have the surgery so soon (as far

> along as

> I am in the process..I am still waiting on isurance approval). Sorry

> this

> was so long...I just needed to vent some more on all this bridesmaid

> horror.

> Thanks for listening.

>

>

> Pre-Op

> Hoping, Praying, Wishing, Expecting to be on the other side soon.

> ----------------------------------------------------------------------

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[Guest guest]

Ohhh ..

What a horrible insensitive woman she is ! I weighed 297lbs when I got

married and I bought my dress at 's Bridal, he makes a large size 24,

personally, I would have the dress altered somewhere else, I'm sure there is

an alteration shop that can accomodate you. I will say a prayer for you to

be approved and your surgery to happen before the wedding so she'll have to

spend the time altering the dress DOWN. People like that have no business

working among the public. I'm sorry you had to go thru that, weddings are

supposed to be a joyous happy occassion.

Just my two cents..

>From: HNBarnhill@...

>Reply-To: MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com

>To: MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com

>Subject: More bridesmaid horror.

>Date: Tue, 11 Jul 2000 21:09:56 EDT

>

>Hi all.

>

>I went today and got " sized " for the wedding that I am supposed to be in on

>January 6th. It was horrible. The lady took my measurements...I wear

>about

>a 26-28 in normal clothes, and we all know how small things run in formal

>stuff. Well, not to mention that they don't make many bridesmaid dresses

>bigger than a 24 and that in REAL life means the size of an 18. Well, this

>particular dress only went up to a size 22...and the lady at the dress shop

>says in front of about 10 people, " I am sorry honey, it doesn't look like

>this dress comes in your large size. Is there any other duty that the

>bride

>could have you do instead of being a bridesmaid? " I couldn't even answer

>her

>I was so embarassed and ashamed. I turned to look at how many people heard

>her and there were about 8-9 people that were standing in line waiting to

>check out...I think it was a whole wedding party picking up their dresses.

>I

>did all I could to keep my chin from trembling and asked her what could I

>do?

> She said " well, I don't think that you can lose that kind of weight in 6

>months, so you decide. " I was so embarassed that I just told her to order

>the largest size they made and I would " try. " So, I paid my deposit and

>before she would let me sign the receipt she says " Honey, please be sure

>and

>read this store policy on this receipt...we can not give you your money bak

>under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, so when you come in to pick up this dress and it is

>too small, I'm sorry. " I signed and said thank you and left. I got in the

>car and cried all the way home. I have never been so humiliated from my

>weight as that moment. My measurements were 4 inches larger than the dress

>is made in the hips. Everywhere else was fine. I might have to duck tape

>them if I can't lose enough weight betweeen now and then. What I would

>love

>to happen is to be approved for this surgery and go back in 5 months and be

>at least 50 lbs. lighter and aske that same saleslady to help me again. I

>know that it is wishful thinking to have the surgery so soon (as far along

>as

>I am in the process..I am still waiting on isurance approval). Sorry this

>was so long...I just needed to vent some more on all this bridesmaid

>horror.

>Thanks for listening.

>

>

>Pre-Op

>Hoping, Praying, Wishing, Expecting to be on the other side soon.

>

>------------------------------------------------------------------------

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>If not, check this site out.

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[Guest guest]

,

I am so sorry that you had this awful experience. It is amazing how insensitive

people can be. You were very brave. I don't think I could have made it to my

car before I would have cried.

I am also waiting for insurance approval, but hope to have all their

requirements for information in to them by the end of this week. I pray I won't

have to appeal!

I think sometimes some thin people forget that our worth as human beings has

nothing to do with our weight, or how we look. Everyone deserves to be treated

with kindness and respect (even mean skinny people, LOL).

Good luck to you! Have faith that everything will work out, and you will be

able to have the MGB soon, and then they'll have to take that dress in for

you!!!

Love,

Sara

HNBarnhill@... wrote:

> Hi all.

>

> I went today and got " sized " for the wedding that I am supposed to be in on

> January 6th. It was horrible. The lady took my measurements...I wear about

> a 26-28 in normal clothes, and we all know how small things run in formal

> stuff. Well, not to mention that they don't make many bridesmaid dresses

> bigger than a 24 and that in REAL life means the size of an 18. Well, this

> particular dress only went up to a size 22...and the lady at the dress shop

> says in front of about 10 people, " I am sorry honey, it doesn't look like

> this dress comes in your large size. Is there any other duty that the bride

> could have you do instead of being a bridesmaid? " I couldn't even answer her

> I was so embarassed and ashamed. I turned to look at how many people heard

> her and there were about 8-9 people that were standing in line waiting to

> check out...I think it was a whole wedding party picking up their dresses. I

> did all I could to keep my chin from trembling and asked her what could I do?

> She said " well, I don't think that you can lose that kind of weight in 6

> months, so you decide. " I was so embarassed that I just told her to order

> the largest size they made and I would " try. " So, I paid my deposit and

> before she would let me sign the receipt she says " Honey, please be sure and

> read this store policy on this receipt...we can not give you your money bak

> under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, so when you come in to pick up this dress and it is

> too small, I'm sorry. " I signed and said thank you and left. I got in the

> car and cried all the way home. I have never been so humiliated from my

> weight as that moment. My measurements were 4 inches larger than the dress

> is made in the hips. Everywhere else was fine. I might have to duck tape

> them if I can't lose enough weight betweeen now and then. What I would love

> to happen is to be approved for this surgery and go back in 5 months and be

> at least 50 lbs. lighter and aske that same saleslady to help me again. I

> know that it is wishful thinking to have the surgery so soon (as far along as

> I am in the process..I am still waiting on isurance approval). Sorry this

> was so long...I just needed to vent some more on all this bridesmaid horror.

> Thanks for listening.

>

>

> Pre-Op

> Hoping, Praying, Wishing, Expecting to be on the other side soon.

>

[Guest guest]

,

I have been a bridesmaid/maid of honor a total of 8 times. Any

bridal

shop worth its salt has a tailor/tailoress on staff. I used to order

the dress and about 2-3 yards of extra material of that dress

for the alterations. I would definitely return to that store,

complain to the manager as to how rude the sales clerk was, and

either get them to order the material and provide alterations or take

your business elsewhere. I had one clerk fired for having her tell

me

I was too fat to be in a wedding.

Good luck, hon.

-Ginny Ivanoff

mgb: 3/1/00

348/274.5 (digital scale)

> Hi all.

>

> I went today and got " sized " for the wedding that I am supposed to

be in on

> January 6th. It was horrible. The lady took my measurements...I

wear about

> a 26-28 in normal clothes, and we all know how small things run in

formal

> stuff. Well, not to mention that they don't make many bridesmaid

dresses

> bigger than a 24 and that in REAL life means the size of an 18.

Well, this

> particular dress only went up to a size 22...and the lady at the

dress shop

> says in front of about 10 people, " I am sorry honey, it doesn't

look

like

> this dress comes in your large size. Is there any other duty that

the bride

> could have you do instead of being a bridesmaid? " I couldn't even

answer her

> I was so embarassed and ashamed. I turned to look at how many

people heard

> her and there were about 8-9 people that were standing in line

waiting to

> check out...I think it was a whole wedding party picking up their

dresses. I

> did all I could to keep my chin from trembling and asked her what

could I do?

> She said " well, I don't think that you can lose that kind of

weight

in 6

> months, so you decide. " I was so embarassed that I just told her

to

order

> the largest size they made and I would " try. " So, I paid my

deposit

and

> before she would let me sign the receipt she says " Honey, please be

sure and

> read this store policy on this receipt...we can not give you your

money bak

> under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, so when you come in to pick up this dress

and it is

> too small, I'm sorry. " I signed and said thank you and left. I

got

in the

> car and cried all the way home. I have never been so humiliated

from my

> weight as that moment. My measurements were 4 inches larger than

the dress

> is made in the hips. Everywhere else was fine. I might have to

duck tape

> them if I can't lose enough weight betweeen now and then. What I

would love

> to happen is to be approved for this surgery and go back in 5

months

and be

> at least 50 lbs. lighter and aske that same saleslady to help me

again. I

> know that it is wishful thinking to have the surgery so soon (as

far

along as

> I am in the process..I am still waiting on isurance approval).

Sorry this

> was so long...I just needed to vent some more on all this

bridesmaid

horror.

> Thanks for listening.

>

>

> Pre-Op

> Hoping, Praying, Wishing, Expecting to be on the other side soon.

[Guest guest]

I hate people like that - cruel and insensitive people - I wish she could be fat

for a while and see what it is like!!!! Joanne in Ohio

HNBarnhill@... wrote:

> Hi all.

>

> I went today and got " sized " for the wedding that I am supposed to be in on

> January 6th. It was horrible. The lady took my measurements...I wear about

> a 26-28 in normal clothes, and we all know how small things run in formal

> stuff. Well, not to mention that they don't make many bridesmaid dresses

> bigger than a 24 and that in REAL life means the size of an 18. Well, this

> particular dress only went up to a size 22...and the lady at the dress shop

> says in front of about 10 people, " I am sorry honey, it doesn't look like

> this dress comes in your large size. Is there any other duty that the bride

> could have you do instead of being a bridesmaid? " I couldn't even answer her

> I was so embarassed and ashamed. I turned to look at how many people heard

> her and there were about 8-9 people that were standing in line waiting to

> check out...I think it was a whole wedding party picking up their dresses. I

> did all I could to keep my chin from trembling and asked her what could I do?

> She said " well, I don't think that you can lose that kind of weight in 6

> months, so you decide. " I was so embarassed that I just told her to order

> the largest size they made and I would " try. " So, I paid my deposit and

> before she would let me sign the receipt she says " Honey, please be sure and

> read this store policy on this receipt...we can not give you your money bak

> under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, so when you come in to pick up this dress and it is

> too small, I'm sorry. " I signed and said thank you and left. I got in the

> car and cried all the way home. I have never been so humiliated from my

> weight as that moment. My measurements were 4 inches larger than the dress

> is made in the hips. Everywhere else was fine. I might have to duck tape

> them if I can't lose enough weight betweeen now and then. What I would love

> to happen is to be approved for this surgery and go back in 5 months and be

> at least 50 lbs. lighter and aske that same saleslady to help me again. I

> know that it is wishful thinking to have the surgery so soon (as far along as

> I am in the process..I am still waiting on isurance approval). Sorry this

> was so long...I just needed to vent some more on all this bridesmaid horror.

> Thanks for listening.

>

>

> Pre-Op

> Hoping, Praying, Wishing, Expecting to be on the other side soon.

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> BTW: Did you buy that new car yet?

> If not, check this site out.

> They're called CarsDirect.com and it's a pretty sweet way to buy a car.

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[Guest guest]

Good for you, Ginny!!! Joanne in Ohio

Ginny wrote:

> ,

>

> I have been a bridesmaid/maid of honor a total of 8 times. Any

> bridal

> shop worth its salt has a tailor/tailoress on staff. I used to order

> the dress and about 2-3 yards of extra material of that dress

> for the alterations. I would definitely return to that store,

> complain to the manager as to how rude the sales clerk was, and

> either get them to order the material and provide alterations or take

> your business elsewhere. I had one clerk fired for having her tell

> me

> I was too fat to be in a wedding.

>

> Good luck, hon.

>

> -Ginny Ivanoff

> mgb: 3/1/00

> 348/274.5 (digital scale)

>

>

> > Hi all.

> >

> > I went today and got " sized " for the wedding that I am supposed to

> be in on

> > January 6th. It was horrible. The lady took my measurements...I

> wear about

> > a 26-28 in normal clothes, and we all know how small things run in

> formal

> > stuff. Well, not to mention that they don't make many bridesmaid

> dresses

> > bigger than a 24 and that in REAL life means the size of an 18.

> Well, this

> > particular dress only went up to a size 22...and the lady at the

> dress shop

> > says in front of about 10 people, " I am sorry honey, it doesn't

> look

> like

> > this dress comes in your large size. Is there any other duty that

> the bride

> > could have you do instead of being a bridesmaid? " I couldn't even

> answer her

> > I was so embarassed and ashamed. I turned to look at how many

> people heard

> > her and there were about 8-9 people that were standing in line

> waiting to

> > check out...I think it was a whole wedding party picking up their

> dresses. I

> > did all I could to keep my chin from trembling and asked her what

> could I do?

> > She said " well, I don't think that you can lose that kind of

> weight

> in 6

> > months, so you decide. " I was so embarassed that I just told her

> to

> order

> > the largest size they made and I would " try. " So, I paid my

> deposit

> and

> > before she would let me sign the receipt she says " Honey, please be

> sure and

> > read this store policy on this receipt...we can not give you your

> money bak

> > under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, so when you come in to pick up this dress

> and it is

> > too small, I'm sorry. " I signed and said thank you and left. I

> got

> in the

> > car and cried all the way home. I have never been so humiliated

> from my

> > weight as that moment. My measurements were 4 inches larger than

> the dress

> > is made in the hips. Everywhere else was fine. I might have to

> duck tape

> > them if I can't lose enough weight betweeen now and then. What I

> would love

> > to happen is to be approved for this surgery and go back in 5

> months

> and be

> > at least 50 lbs. lighter and aske that same saleslady to help me

> again. I

> > know that it is wishful thinking to have the surgery so soon (as

> far

> along as

> > I am in the process..I am still waiting on isurance approval).

> Sorry this

> > was so long...I just needed to vent some more on all this

> bridesmaid

> horror.

> > Thanks for listening.

> >

> >

> > Pre-Op

> > Hoping, Praying, Wishing, Expecting to be on the other side soon.

>

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[Guest guest]

,

What a horrible experience but at least you had us to tell it to. We all KNOW

how you felt. Don't give up your wish could come true. I do not know your

insurance situation but CALL, CALL, CALL That was what I was told and it worked

for me. I saw my PCP on May 1 sent in my PI that same day and things fell in

place quickly. My surgery was June 2. It can happen quickly. Best of luck and

we are all behind you.

Darlene

HNBarnhill@... wrote:

> Hi all.

>

> I went today and got " sized " for the wedding that I am supposed to be in on

> January 6th. It was horrible. The lady took my measurements...I wear about

> a 26-28 in normal clothes, and we all know how small things run in formal

> stuff. Well, not to mention that they don't make many bridesmaid dresses

> bigger than a 24 and that in REAL life means the size of an 18. Well, this

> particular dress only went up to a size 22...and the lady at the dress shop

> says in front of about 10 people, " I am sorry honey, it doesn't look like

> this dress comes in your large size. Is there any other duty that the bride

> could have you do instead of being a bridesmaid? " I couldn't even answer her

> I was so embarassed and ashamed. I turned to look at how many people heard

> her and there were about 8-9 people that were standing in line waiting to

> check out...I think it was a whole wedding party picking up their dresses. I

> did all I could to keep my chin from trembling and asked her what could I do?

> She said " well, I don't think that you can lose that kind of weight in 6

> months, so you decide. " I was so embarassed that I just told her to order

> the largest size they made and I would " try. " So, I paid my deposit and

> before she would let me sign the receipt she says " Honey, please be sure and

> read this store policy on this receipt...we can not give you your money bak

> under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, so when you come in to pick up this dress and it is

> too small, I'm sorry. " I signed and said thank you and left. I got in the

> car and cried all the way home. I have never been so humiliated from my

> weight as that moment. My measurements were 4 inches larger than the dress

> is made in the hips. Everywhere else was fine. I might have to duck tape

> them if I can't lose enough weight betweeen now and then. What I would love

> to happen is to be approved for this surgery and go back in 5 months and be

> at least 50 lbs. lighter and aske that same saleslady to help me again. I

> know that it is wishful thinking to have the surgery so soon (as far along as

> I am in the process..I am still waiting on isurance approval). Sorry this

> was so long...I just needed to vent some more on all this bridesmaid horror.

> Thanks for listening.

>

>

> Pre-Op

> Hoping, Praying, Wishing, Expecting to be on the other side soon.

>

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[Guest guest]

,

So many of us know exactly you feel. I have been a bride once and a

bridesmaid 5 times over 23 years and each time my size got bigger.

The last wedding I was in last year I wore the biggest size they made

size 24. Believe me it was a true size 24 hips and all! I feel for

you, keep your chin up and try to stay focused on the honor you have

been given by your friend or family member.

Like Darlene is saying below, keep calling and calling your insurance

company (once they get the letter from Debbie). It can happen really

fast - my approval took less than 8 hours!

Best of luck.

Sincerely,

Bernardine

, TX

MGB 7/24/00

>

> > Hi all.

> >

> > I went today and got " sized " for the wedding that I am supposed

to be in on

> > January 6th. It was horrible. The lady took my measurements...I

wear about

> > a 26-28 in normal clothes, and we all know how small things run

in formal

> > stuff. Well, not to mention that they don't make many bridesmaid

dresses

> > bigger than a 24 and that in REAL life means the size of an 18.

Well, this

> > particular dress only went up to a size 22...and the lady at the

dress shop

> > says in front of about 10 people, " I am sorry honey, it doesn't

look like

> > this dress comes in your large size. Is there any other duty

that the bride

> > could have you do instead of being a bridesmaid? " I couldn't

even answer her

> > I was so embarassed and ashamed. I turned to look at how many

people heard

> > her and there were about 8-9 people that were standing in line

waiting to

> > check out...I think it was a whole wedding party picking up their

dresses. I

> > did all I could to keep my chin from trembling and asked her what

could I do?

> > She said " well, I don't think that you can lose that kind of

weight in 6

> > months, so you decide. " I was so embarassed that I just told her

to order

> > the largest size they made and I would " try. " So, I paid my

deposit and

> > before she would let me sign the receipt she says " Honey, please

be sure and

> > read this store policy on this receipt...we can not give you your

money bak

> > under ANY CIRCUMSTANCE, so when you come in to pick up this dress

and it is

> > too small, I'm sorry. " I signed and said thank you and left. I

got in the

> > car and cried all the way home. I have never been so humiliated

from my

> > weight as that moment. My measurements were 4 inches larger than

the dress

> > is made in the hips. Everywhere else was fine. I might have to

duck tape

> > them if I can't lose enough weight betweeen now and then. What I

would love

> > to happen is to be approved for this surgery and go back in 5

months and be

> > at least 50 lbs. lighter and aske that same saleslady to help me

again. I

> > know that it is wishful thinking to have the surgery so soon (as

far along as

> > I am in the process..I am still waiting on isurance approval).

Sorry this

> > was so long...I just needed to vent some more on all this

bridesmaid horror.

> > Thanks for listening.

> >

> >

> > Pre-Op

> > Hoping, Praying, Wishing, Expecting to be on the other side soon.

> >

> >

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> > If not, check this site out.

> > They're called CarsDirect.com and it's a pretty sweet way to buy

a car.

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> >

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[Guest guest]

Maybe you could have a dress made by a seamstress that looks just the same as

the other dresses....that is what I did when I was in a wedding and 8 months

pregnant! I wouldn't be able to fit in a bridesmaids dress now either! That

lady was totally insensitive and I wish you had told her so. Maybe you could

just go egg her car or something..LOL!

Holly in Illinois