Betrayed....

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Hi Everyone !

I came home from work today to find 209 emails in my box...like a new

present everyday...my three favorite words..YOU'VE GOT

MAIL...hehee..sorry..i'm a huge Meg and Tom Hanks fan ! Ok..so

as I was reading I found comfort in the post titled " TO TELL OR NOT

TO TELL " ...I wanted to share something with you that has really hurt

my feelings, and left me angry, among other feelings.

I had begun researching this MGB surgery about six months ago. At

that time I had confided in my husband, my mom (who is like my best

friend) and my good friend/co-worker Jody, all of whom support my

decision completely !

I work in a very small office (only 6 of us total) and they are all

extremly nosey. I am a pretty private person, I dont believe that

personal business should ever mix with professional business. My

boss (who is about 300 lbs herself) is a very back stabbing person,

and I have learned the hard way to never tell her anything I didnt

want everyone to know.

When I received the call from Cigna that I was approved, (while at

work of course) I was soooo excited, that another one of the girls

over heard me. She then asked me what was going on, and I found it

difficult to not say anything, because I didnt want to hurt her

feelings, it was obvious I was really excited. She was at first a

bit surprised and unsure, but has since really been pretty

supportive. Because of all the Doctors visits, blood test, pap and

all that, not to mention the fact that I need to take off a week and

a half for the surgery (becuase we're driving from FL) I felt I owed

it to my boss to let her know what is going on.

I went in to talk to her, and she was a bit surprised, but told me

that obviously I made a decision, and it sounded well thought out,

blah blah blah...I then SPECIFICALLY asked her NOT to tell anyone,

and VERY VERY SPECIFICALLY not to say anything to the old biddie I

have to share space with...she is a very negative, set in her way , I

know EVERYTHING type of person. I dont want to hear anyone trying to

talk me out of this, I have made up my mind, and I dont have time to

listen to nay sayers, particularly those who know absolutely nothing

about this, but think they know everything about this..(can ya'll

relate?) sooo...The next day she called me into her office and told

me that she thinks I'm making a big mistake, and she talked to her

sister who is a Nurse, and she said I will become sick and end up

dead..blah blah blah..

I said look...I am a mature, intelligent adult and I KNOW what is

best for ME. I have not made this decision overnight, and I have

thought this out very carefully. I told her I did not feel that I

needed to explain myself nor the decision I had made. She smiled

and said, well...I hope you know what you're doing. Every day since

she starts the day off with, ...so ..have you changed your mind

yet? I smile nicely and say no ..I have not.

Well..now this is where I am getting upset...

I left at noon on Friday for my Physical Exam, and received a call

from my friend Jody on Sunday night telling me that after I left on

Friday, (my boss) went straight to Sharon (the old biddie) and

started telling her everything about the surgery I was having. She

then proceeded to tell her son (who sometimes works with us when he

feels like it) and his wife, along with her two sisters....All of

these people I see everyday. All of them approached Jody later

Friday asking her why I would purposely try to ruin my life with

this...and did I have a Death wish? I am soooo upset by this...but

have to be there 9 hours a day !!!

I am soooooooo sorry for this very long post...but no one understands

my frustrations like those of you here !!!

What should I do??

Sincerely,