Re: Working Versus Staying At Home

[Guest guest]

Dear WENDY,

I understand your delima.have you checked out any smaller Local day care

centers??

The rules around here is that if your child has sniffles/cough/fever/or

any signs of being ill. You can NOT bring them in there. Also, if they

start once there, parents are called & they must come & pick them

up-while waiting, ill child is kept away from others.

Many do this very strict-others are a bit leiant, it would mean you

would have to check them out & raise those concerns to them before you

enrolled your Peyton.

Many, many folks have found this to be fine & feel their wee ones are

watched closely .These are also inspected as it is a business & must be

under control . I know it FL there is a program , that does set rules

for caregivers & the facilities.ie. No walking around babies with

bottles. ** all foods eating in controlled & administered area. **No

carpeting , only washable floors..**Same crib /bed for each child , for

as long as they attend there.-no one can use in their absence

either---you can bring your own " blanket " ** These are for centers that

take mothers who are also subsidized thru a program called " 4

C " .Community Care of the Child. Balanced meals .snacks, drinks (oh, Same

bottle/glass with their names on them.....They pay for a % of fee if

they qualify in salary range .There is a huge waiting list too. BUT. it

is open to those who pay for their child also.. " 4 C " is a wonderful

non-profit agency. My youngest daughter is the COO of it & has been with

this org. even as an Intern as she was getting her SW degree -on thru

her Masters, etc. I have helped volunteer for fund raisers, so I know

them & I am sure they do just as the rules day too . ANYWAY.you can use

some of those things as guide lines to check your areas facilities

out...Then have your mom as back-up if you or Peyton are ill.-You can

take control then.........

I am so sorry this is so long, BUT , you can see I am very much

interested & involved in these programs .YOU CAN " T BE TOO CAREFUL.

Best wishes in this.

LOVE & HUGS,

GABBY GRANDMOMBEV :)

Working Versus Staying At Home

Here's my situation. I am a mother of a 3 year old with CF. My

husband and I both work outside the home. I currently take my

daughter to an in home sitter, who is also my best friends mother.

The level of attention and care that she receives there is

outstanding, however there are many other children there as well,

which leads to many flu bugs and germs. It seems that there is

always someone at the sitter with a running nose or cough. It may

not be a big deal for that particular child, but when my daughter

catches it, it usually turns into a fairly serious sickness, causing

several doctor's appointment as well as several missing work days for

me. This happens about 1 a month during the cold and flu season. I

missed 4 days last week because she had pneumonia. It seems

unrealistic for me to expect the other parents to keep their children

at home because of any little sneeze or cough. It is a financial

neccesity for me to work, staying home is just not an option right

now. I have recruited my mother, who is now watching Peyton two days

a week, which does help out. And I know the cold and flu season

should be about over, knock on wood. I am curious how other parents

handle this. I know that I am not able to protect her from every

little germ and bug, and in 2 years she will be starting school and

that will make matters worse.

Thanks for letting me fret.

~Wendi

mom to Peyton 3wcf

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[Guest guest]

I am a working mother of 2. is 6 years in kindergarten, is

19months in a private sitter with four other kids. Each year starting around

October, the germs start flying.

Last year was in hospital twice first with broncilitis, then a month

later with RSV. February this year, was in hospital for sever sinus

infection. A month later was put in for phenomena,(first year in school

and first time with pneumonia. she had more digestive problems then lung until

now.)

I also have to work because me and my husband both carry insurance coverage on

these girls, in doing that we pay a minimum of nothing on claims just weekly

premiums of $40.00 each policy. The coverage is great. That is the only reason

I am still working.

I express deeply with the sitter about germs, and she is constantly cleaning and

bleaching and sterilizing all toys, she has put all small toys away, the one

they can pick up put in mouth and drop then next child come picks up and puts in

mouth.

I would love to stay at home with my girls, that is my dream, but it pays for me

to work at this time.

Tracey Oldham

Georgia

Working Versus Staying At Home

Here's my situation. I am a mother of a 3 year old with CF. My

husband and I both work outside the home. I currently take my

daughter to an in home sitter, who is also my best friends mother.

The level of attention and care that she receives there is

outstanding, however there are many other children there as well,

which leads to many flu bugs and germs. It seems that there is

always someone at the sitter with a running nose or cough. It may

not be a big deal for that particular child, but when my daughter

catches it, it usually turns into a fairly serious sickness, causing

several doctor's appointment as well as several missing work days for

me. This happens about 1 a month during the cold and flu season. I

missed 4 days last week because she had pneumonia. It seems

unrealistic for me to expect the other parents to keep their children

at home because of any little sneeze or cough. It is a financial

neccesity for me to work, staying home is just not an option right

now. I have recruited my mother, who is now watching Peyton two days

a week, which does help out. And I know the cold and flu season

should be about over, knock on wood. I am curious how other parents

handle this. I know that I am not able to protect her from every

little germ and bug, and in 2 years she will be starting school and

that will make matters worse.

Thanks for letting me fret.

~Wendi

mom to Peyton 3wcf

[Guest guest]

Wendi,

Do the parents of the other kids know that by bringing their kids to the sitter

when they are sick that they are possibly causing your child to end up in the

hospital?

Is there a way that your sitter could enforce a no sick kids rule? I know that

this may be a pain in the butt for her but other than this, I would have to say

I would look elsewhere for a caregiver.

I stay home with our daughter but I realize that this is not a realistic thing

for everyone. I choose to stay home, even though we sometimes just have to do

without things we would like to have, because It benefits my child.

My daughter is four and she is in a parochial school for 2 half days a week.

They do not let sick kids stay. The parents of the other kids in 's class

are also very conscientious about not spreading their family's nasty bugs to

other people.

I know that it may be hard but if your little one is getting sick this often it

sounds like a change may be in order.

I hope all goes well

Working Versus Staying At Home

Here's my situation. I am a mother of a 3 year old with CF. My

husband and I both work outside the home. I currently take my

daughter to an in home sitter, who is also my best friends mother.

The level of attention and care that she receives there is

outstanding, however there are many other children there as well,

which leads to many flu bugs and germs. It seems that there is

always someone at the sitter with a running nose or cough. It may

not be a big deal for that particular child, but when my daughter

catches it, it usually turns into a fairly serious sickness, causing

several doctor's appointment as well as several missing work days for

me. This happens about 1 a month during the cold and flu season. I

missed 4 days last week because she had pneumonia. It seems

unrealistic for me to expect the other parents to keep their children

at home because of any little sneeze or cough. It is a financial

neccesity for me to work, staying home is just not an option right

now. I have recruited my mother, who is now watching Peyton two days

a week, which does help out. And I know the cold and flu season

should be about over, knock on wood. I am curious how other parents

handle this. I know that I am not able to protect her from every

little germ and bug, and in 2 years she will be starting school and

that will make matters worse.

Thanks for letting me fret.

~Wendi

mom to Peyton 3wcf

[Guest guest]

One side of the coinis that your child is being exposed to all the junk now,

before school, and hopefully will build up an immunity to most of it before

starting school. This should help decrease the number of days missed from

school. Have you spoken with your caretaker, and asked exactly what her

policy is on sick children? Does she have set rules that disallow a child to

be dropped off if they are running a fever? Does she teach the children in

her care to cover their mouths when they cough or sneeze, and always wash

their hands after, as well as prior to eating? Does she clean all the toys

in her house every night once all the children are gone? Perhaps if you

spoke with her, and suggested these things, she would be willing to

incorporate them into her daily routine. These are all simple suggestions

that can go a long way towards keeping your child, as well as the others and

the caregiver, as healthy as possible.

If she is unwilling to make this effort, perhaps you should find another

caregiver who is more flexible and health conscious.

Amber

Nick's mom