Need advice

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I am sure you have all probably gone through this but here goes.....I

am a 35 yr old married woman with two boys ages 3 and 5. I have been

married for 6yrs. I recently discovered that my husband has

been " chatting " a woman from Canada on line at night while I am

sleeping(or trying to sleep) I only found out because she thought it

was him online when she sent an IM. He says it is because I am sick

all the time and don't talk to him. I thought he was pretty

understanding about my CP and I thought I had his support in this but

I guess I was wrong. He says I am overreacting to his chatting but I

don't think I am. He stays up all night to chat with her and tells

me he just can't sleep. I asked him why he didn't tell me he needed

someone to talk to and he says he didn't think I would understand so

he went to extreme measures (deleting history files, ect.) to make

sure I wouldn't find out. I told him about this website and told

that this would be the place to go for support but he just gave me a

dirty look. I geuss it's not the same when you get access to the

nude photo of whom you are chatting with. I kind of feel like it is

my fault because I am in pain so much and I want to sleep all of the

time. I know that doesn't make for a good marraige, but I just never

thought he would do something like this. I don't want to make too

much out of this either. Does anyone else have a simular experience

that I can draw from. I guess what I need to know is, is it my fault

because I am sick and I am not the wife I should be?

Simi Valley