shania--Question

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Dear Shania,

I am speaking as the Mother of a Daughter with pancreatitis and the

grand mother of her 2 children. I know this has worried her too and

I will try to say this with out upsetting you, but, it has effected

them greatly. My grand daughter is now 11 and has taken over a lot

of the household responsibilities and has assume the role of the

caregiver. This hurts me to watch and is very hard for me to keep my

mouth shut at times. My grandson has been effected in the fact that

he only knows his Mom and Dad and wont be away from them. He is now

5. Both children have a great fear when their Mother has to be in

the hospital or is in great pain.

My daughter is holding onto them too, in that I mean that she is

determined to home school them and keep them under her roof and not

let them interact with other children. It kills me to see that they

are not leading normal lifes. But I do not have the final word on

what happens, so I am just stuck in the middle. Those kids need the

interation of other children and go to school to learn, not only an

education but how to interact with people. I am so afraid that this

is going to ruin their lifes in one way or another.

My daughter really is not capable of home schooling them. She

neither feels like it and does not have the proper education that a

child needs today.

I am especially afraid for my grand daughter, because as I said, she

is taking over the role of caregiver for her Mom and her

Dad. She is not allowed to be a kid. This bothers me greatly and

never leaves my mind, but my hands are tied.

Sorry to have rattled on so, and I know this is not the case with

everyone, but wanted to give you my views as a grandmother who sees

it all and wishes things could change.

My best to you, Jean