Mock Chocolate Birthday Cake?? & my own mini vent

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Hi,

My son's birthday is coming up soon and I had promised him months

ago a chocolate birthday cake which he reminds me about virtually

every day! I know I saw somewhere that Folger's coffee bags could

be use to make an SCD mock " chocolate " and I wondered if I could

make a cake using an idea like that to look as much like a real

chcolate cake as possible.

Now, before anyone goes emailing any sanctimonius diatribes a'la

McD's a few days ago telling me how bad a mommy I am to want my kid

to fit in and that your child is happy with a brussel sprout with a

birthday candle stuck in it and you would never ever give your child

something with coffee in it, etc etc, please hear me out.

(I am normally a very mild mannered non confrontational person but

this has been eating at me a while so here it is:)

I wonder how many of you had to do what your kids have to do when

you were young? Well, I did- I was that kind of highly allergic

kid. Do you know what it feels like to sit in Pizza Hut with all

your classmates and eat a rolled up piece of plain ham while

everyone else is enjoying pizza all around you? I do. Do you know

what it feels like to sit there with your ears burning and feeling

red hot and your eyes watering and your head cast down?

Do you know what it feels like to feel so different and confused

that you pull out all your eyelashes and pull bald spots in your

hair, you put blankets over your head and wonder in a detached way

what it would feel like to just breathe up all the air? I do.

Or the embarrasment in 7th grade to have to have your mom called

every day because you break out in huge hives and your eyes swell

shut after lunch almost every day only to later find it was simply

because the pre algebra teacher had switched to a new lysol spray on

the desks?

Have you ever peed in your pants almost every day for a time in

fourth grade because you snuck money and bought chocolate milk at

lunchtime even though you knew it would bother you and you shouldn't

drink it but everyone else was and the teacher was too busy to

notice or care? Been there, done that.

Or I could tell you about the time I was so mad at my parents in 2nd

grade because they wouldn't buy me a giant fundraiser candy bar and

every other kid in my class brought one in their lunch box, so I

stole money from my dad's change jar to buy one then was ultra sick

from both the guilt and the candy.

I could dredge up a lot more painful memories, but I don't want to.

I hope I never ever lose that remembrance of being a child like so

many adults seem to, but I don't want to wallow in the past either.

Today I am happy and confident and feeling great thanks to the grace

of God and marrying the right kind of supportive man. But I do not

EVER want my child to feel like I did in those bad kind of ways.

And, if it means buying him an occasional happy meal (that is as

close to SCD as you can get with a 100% beef patty, apple slices,

honey and water) then gosh durn it I will and I refuse to feel bad

about it.

So, now that I have had my own vent " just like everyone else " then I

feel better and am ready to go back to my usual sunshine and

sweetness and be an uber polite list member!

If anyone has a great cake recipe or ideas I can try I would greatly

appreciate it!

Thanks,

Janet, mom to:

Cody- almost 5 yrs- multiple food allergies- SCD 6 days and doing

fantastic!