Guest guest Posted December 21, 2003 Report Share Posted December 21, 2003 Leah, I had surgery a week after you. I don't really have a " typical " day of eating. Your menu sounds yummy! I avoid juice after years with Diabetes and not drinking it, but would love to. It also is high on potassium that I can't have. I've been eating cottage cheese for breakfast. It's got twice the protein that the yogurt has and almost twice what an egg has. Sometimes I'll put some fruit on it, and love it with diced tomatoes. Lunch, and snacks I grab what's handiest. I keep deli turkey around as I love it, and cheeses. The string cheese is supposed to be the lowest fat, but it doesn't often taste like anything. I love swiss cheese. I just bought some fat-free american that I haven't tried yet. I buy grilled chicken strips from Costco, all ready to eat, and freeze them in small packages so I can add them to lunch. I have tried all sorts of fruits and vegetables, and all agree with me. Someone mentioned the spaghetti squash on here, so I bought that so I can make spaghetti for the guys, and I won't have to have the noodles. Dinner-wise I eat whatever I've made the guys for dinner. Granted they're much healthier meals than in the past. If there's something I should stay clear of, I leave it. I know though that I'm not getting enough protein, and have to look harder at my totals. I'm not fond of fish, but I plan on having tuna tomorrow. I have a dessert once in awhile, sugar-free pudding with fat-free milk. It seems to digest so great, and I justify it with the fact that milk has some protein. haha I also snack on sunflower seeds and nuts. I had a tangerine tonight, and it was sooooo yummy. It's really tough to compare your weight loss with anybody else. We're all so different. The exercise is a very important part. It keeps the weight loss going much better. You look like you're doing great with your weight loss, and if you don't feel it's enough, just think back to " before " when a 2# loss was great in a week. As to fluids, I keep changing. For awhile water seems really good, then I switch to something else. Went through the Crystal Light, then many others, and lately hot lemon decaf tea is wonderful. I don't like iced tea, but had some in town the other day and it tasted pretty good. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Calling all 5 week post-oppers! I would like to hear from folks that had surgery about the same time I did and compare my diet and weight loss to theirs. (or from those who remember what they ate and their weight loss at 5 wks out) I realize everyone is different, I would just like to have an idea how others are doing and what their eating. My surgery was 11/11/03. I've lost 29 lbs. I'm not losing as fast as I'd like, but I think it's because I haven't been walking like I should. This is a typical day for me. Morning: Glass of orange juice first thing. Then maybe 1/2 hour or so later, scrambled egg with salsa or refried beans and cheese and salsa. (not a big egg eater!) Lunch: 1/2 can Wolf Gang Puck Chicken Tortilla soup. (very good) Supper: Baked Tilapia or chicken with green beans. Sometimes turkey chilli. I may snack on some cheese or lowfat,low salt peanut butter on a couple of crackers. I also struggle to get in enough fluids. I get tired of water all the time and drink a lot of decaf iced tea sweetened with Splenda. Please share your experiences with me. One more thing, I would like to try some sugarfree gum, but I'm terrified of accidently swallowing it. I haven't read or heard anything about it, I just assume that my pouch couldn't handle gum. Yea, I know what it means to assume. Thank you! Leah Booth 306/277/135ish Dr Hargroder, Plaqamine LA (he's the best by the way!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2003 Report Share Posted December 21, 2003 Leah, I had surgery a week after you. I don't really have a " typical " day of eating. Your menu sounds yummy! I avoid juice after years with Diabetes and not drinking it, but would love to. It also is high on potassium that I can't have. I've been eating cottage cheese for breakfast. It's got twice the protein that the yogurt has and almost twice what an egg has. Sometimes I'll put some fruit on it, and love it with diced tomatoes. Lunch, and snacks I grab what's handiest. I keep deli turkey around as I love it, and cheeses. The string cheese is supposed to be the lowest fat, but it doesn't often taste like anything. I love swiss cheese. I just bought some fat-free american that I haven't tried yet. I buy grilled chicken strips from Costco, all ready to eat, and freeze them in small packages so I can add them to lunch. I have tried all sorts of fruits and vegetables, and all agree with me. Someone mentioned the spaghetti squash on here, so I bought that so I can make spaghetti for the guys, and I won't have to have the noodles. Dinner-wise I eat whatever I've made the guys for dinner. Granted they're much healthier meals than in the past. If there's something I should stay clear of, I leave it. I know though that I'm not getting enough protein, and have to look harder at my totals. I'm not fond of fish, but I plan on having tuna tomorrow. I have a dessert once in awhile, sugar-free pudding with fat-free milk. It seems to digest so great, and I justify it with the fact that milk has some protein. haha I also snack on sunflower seeds and nuts. I had a tangerine tonight, and it was sooooo yummy. It's really tough to compare your weight loss with anybody else. We're all so different. The exercise is a very important part. It keeps the weight loss going much better. You look like you're doing great with your weight loss, and if you don't feel it's enough, just think back to " before " when a 2# loss was great in a week. As to fluids, I keep changing. For awhile water seems really good, then I switch to something else. Went through the Crystal Light, then many others, and lately hot lemon decaf tea is wonderful. I don't like iced tea, but had some in town the other day and it tasted pretty good. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Calling all 5 week post-oppers! I would like to hear from folks that had surgery about the same time I did and compare my diet and weight loss to theirs. (or from those who remember what they ate and their weight loss at 5 wks out) I realize everyone is different, I would just like to have an idea how others are doing and what their eating. My surgery was 11/11/03. I've lost 29 lbs. I'm not losing as fast as I'd like, but I think it's because I haven't been walking like I should. This is a typical day for me. Morning: Glass of orange juice first thing. Then maybe 1/2 hour or so later, scrambled egg with salsa or refried beans and cheese and salsa. (not a big egg eater!) Lunch: 1/2 can Wolf Gang Puck Chicken Tortilla soup. (very good) Supper: Baked Tilapia or chicken with green beans. Sometimes turkey chilli. I may snack on some cheese or lowfat,low salt peanut butter on a couple of crackers. I also struggle to get in enough fluids. I get tired of water all the time and drink a lot of decaf iced tea sweetened with Splenda. Please share your experiences with me. One more thing, I would like to try some sugarfree gum, but I'm terrified of accidently swallowing it. I haven't read or heard anything about it, I just assume that my pouch couldn't handle gum. Yea, I know what it means to assume. Thank you! Leah Booth 306/277/135ish Dr Hargroder, Plaqamine LA (he's the best by the way!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 Leah, You sound like you are really doing good. I am 8 weeks post op and also feel my weight loss is slow. I have lost 38 pounds. But stop and think what it was like to try and lose weight before surgery. I looked back at my last weight watchers attempt. It took me 7 months to lose 28 pounds. I have also made turkey chili. that is quite tasty. I have made an omlet with 1 egg ham and cheese. I eat cheese and nuts chewed up fine. Ihave also had chicken fajitas, Chicken Qusadeas, plain chicken. Just tried a raw carrot for the first time yesterday, I was a little nauseated after, but it stayed down fine. Happy Holidays Jill H. 276/238/140 10/20/03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 Leah, You sound like you are really doing good. I am 8 weeks post op and also feel my weight loss is slow. I have lost 38 pounds. But stop and think what it was like to try and lose weight before surgery. I looked back at my last weight watchers attempt. It took me 7 months to lose 28 pounds. I have also made turkey chili. that is quite tasty. I have made an omlet with 1 egg ham and cheese. I eat cheese and nuts chewed up fine. Ihave also had chicken fajitas, Chicken Qusadeas, plain chicken. Just tried a raw carrot for the first time yesterday, I was a little nauseated after, but it stayed down fine. Happy Holidays Jill H. 276/238/140 10/20/03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 , I'm jumping for joy right now and writing it down. Sugar-free cocoa. I never bothered to look to see if they had one, just avoided it. That sounds wonderful in the evening! Wonder if they have decaf chocolate like they do coffee and tea?? And 64#, WOW. Congratulations!!!!! Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 , I'm jumping for joy right now and writing it down. Sugar-free cocoa. I never bothered to look to see if they had one, just avoided it. That sounds wonderful in the evening! Wonder if they have decaf chocolate like they do coffee and tea?? And 64#, WOW. Congratulations!!!!! Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 Hi everyone, Sorry I havent posted in awhile. I am doing well I have lost 30lbs. I still have problems eating, I mainly keep myself on liquids. I have found somethings that I can tolorate. I still cannot eat scrambled eggs, and love them, I can eat baked chicken(dark only), the meat out of a taco bell soft taco, cant eat the refried beans tho, don't settle good, Ground turkey, I used it when ever I cook speghetti make it into meat balls (can eat a 1/2 of one). I found that I can drink FLAT diet sprite, besides that not to much more. Happy Holidays 11/18/03 220/190/150 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 Hi everyone, Sorry I havent posted in awhile. I am doing well I have lost 30lbs. I still have problems eating, I mainly keep myself on liquids. I have found somethings that I can tolorate. I still cannot eat scrambled eggs, and love them, I can eat baked chicken(dark only), the meat out of a taco bell soft taco, cant eat the refried beans tho, don't settle good, Ground turkey, I used it when ever I cook speghetti make it into meat balls (can eat a 1/2 of one). I found that I can drink FLAT diet sprite, besides that not to much more. Happy Holidays 11/18/03 220/190/150 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 Leah, I had surgery on 11/12/03. I've lost 35 lbs and typically eat a scambled egg for breakfast, tuna or turkey for lunch, and chicken with a vegetable for dinner. Sometimes I have a snack of string cheese or a sugar free popsicle/fudgesicle. I've eaten a variety of different things on a case by case basis as the situation arose, just always stayed in my doctor's range of 1-2 oz of protein, 1oz vegetable. Not eating many carbs at all. I held at a loss of 27 lbs for about 4 days and was panicked, but then for some reason I lost like 3 lbs in one day. Don't be discouraged, 29 lbs in 5 weeks is incredible. My primary drinks are water and Crystal Light Rasberry Tea. We're doing great! :-) Tammy 257/222/135 Calling all 5 week post-oppers! > I would like to hear from folks that had surgery about the same time > I did and compare my diet and weight loss to theirs. (or from those > who remember what they ate and their weight loss at 5 wks out) I > realize everyone is different, I would just like to have an idea how > others are doing and what their eating. My surgery was 11/11/03. > I've lost 29 lbs. I'm not losing as fast as I'd like, but I think > it's because I haven't been walking like I should. This is a > typical day for me. > Morning: Glass of orange juice first thing. Then maybe 1/2 hour or > so later, scrambled egg with salsa or refried beans and cheese and > salsa. (not a big egg eater!) > Lunch: 1/2 can Wolf Gang Puck Chicken Tortilla soup. (very good) > Supper: Baked Tilapia or chicken with green beans. Sometimes turkey > chilli. > I may snack on some cheese or lowfat,low salt peanut butter on a > couple of crackers. I also struggle to get in enough fluids. I get > tired of water all the time and drink a lot of decaf iced tea > sweetened with Splenda. > Please share your experiences with me. > One more thing, I would like to try some sugarfree gum, but I'm > terrified of accidently swallowing it. I haven't read or heard > anything about it, I just assume that my pouch couldn't handle gum. > Yea, I know what it means to assume. > > Thank you! > Leah Booth > 306/277/135ish > Dr Hargroder, Plaqamine LA (he's the best by the way!) > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2003 Report Share Posted December 22, 2003 Leah, I had surgery on 11/12/03. I've lost 35 lbs and typically eat a scambled egg for breakfast, tuna or turkey for lunch, and chicken with a vegetable for dinner. Sometimes I have a snack of string cheese or a sugar free popsicle/fudgesicle. I've eaten a variety of different things on a case by case basis as the situation arose, just always stayed in my doctor's range of 1-2 oz of protein, 1oz vegetable. Not eating many carbs at all. I held at a loss of 27 lbs for about 4 days and was panicked, but then for some reason I lost like 3 lbs in one day. Don't be discouraged, 29 lbs in 5 weeks is incredible. My primary drinks are water and Crystal Light Rasberry Tea. We're doing great! :-) Tammy 257/222/135 Calling all 5 week post-oppers! > I would like to hear from folks that had surgery about the same time > I did and compare my diet and weight loss to theirs. (or from those > who remember what they ate and their weight loss at 5 wks out) I > realize everyone is different, I would just like to have an idea how > others are doing and what their eating. My surgery was 11/11/03. > I've lost 29 lbs. I'm not losing as fast as I'd like, but I think > it's because I haven't been walking like I should. This is a > typical day for me. > Morning: Glass of orange juice first thing. Then maybe 1/2 hour or > so later, scrambled egg with salsa or refried beans and cheese and > salsa. (not a big egg eater!) > Lunch: 1/2 can Wolf Gang Puck Chicken Tortilla soup. (very good) > Supper: Baked Tilapia or chicken with green beans. Sometimes turkey > chilli. > I may snack on some cheese or lowfat,low salt peanut butter on a > couple of crackers. I also struggle to get in enough fluids. I get > tired of water all the time and drink a lot of decaf iced tea > sweetened with Splenda. > Please share your experiences with me. > One more thing, I would like to try some sugarfree gum, but I'm > terrified of accidently swallowing it. I haven't read or heard > anything about it, I just assume that my pouch couldn't handle gum. > Yea, I know what it means to assume. > > Thank you! > Leah Booth > 306/277/135ish > Dr Hargroder, Plaqamine LA (he's the best by the way!) > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Gosh I had my surgery October 29 and have only lost 34 lbs. I do everything I am supposed to do, but I rather lose it slow I guess, than fast. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Gosh I had my surgery October 29 and have only lost 34 lbs. I do everything I am supposed to do, but I rather lose it slow I guess, than fast. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 In a message dated 12/23/2003 7:53:50 AM Pacific Standard Time, jclinton@... writes: > , what a huge weight loss in about 2-1/2 months! You're so close to > 100# loss. It's awesome! > > I am floored too.... drooling ... unbelievable ... I've been struggling up and down with my last 20lbs FOREVER .. lol.... you must be bounding off the walls HAPPY Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA ' 2/75/148/126 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 In a message dated 12/23/2003 7:53:50 AM Pacific Standard Time, jclinton@... writes: > , what a huge weight loss in about 2-1/2 months! You're so close to > 100# loss. It's awesome! > > I am floored too.... drooling ... unbelievable ... I've been struggling up and down with my last 20lbs FOREVER .. lol.... you must be bounding off the walls HAPPY Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA ' 2/75/148/126 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 In a message dated 12/23/2003 7:57:09 AM Pacific Standard Time, jclinton@... writes: > We need to applaud those that lose 5# and those that lost 50#. They both > worked hard for it. > hey hey hey Joan.... what about us half pound losers!! Kudo's ... give give give ....more Kudo's for meeeeeeee!!! LOL. Ok ok, not this week, I've been bad and am wholy undeserving. But its funny, and I must share this with you.... that one day when you acknowledged even my one lb loss .. my heart went " flip flip " like a little kid. You are such a gracious and always giving .cheer leader Joan. Thank you for that. A quick note regarding your impass with your Mom. I could exchange volumes on this subject, how it has effected me personally, my children etc. I applaud your resolve to ... mend things ... for yourself. You are fully deserving of " peace " regardless of who things turn out. You simply cannot control other people ... end of story. A huge hug to you. Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA 275/148/126 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 In a message dated 12/23/2003 7:57:09 AM Pacific Standard Time, jclinton@... writes: > We need to applaud those that lose 5# and those that lost 50#. They both > worked hard for it. > hey hey hey Joan.... what about us half pound losers!! Kudo's ... give give give ....more Kudo's for meeeeeeee!!! LOL. Ok ok, not this week, I've been bad and am wholy undeserving. But its funny, and I must share this with you.... that one day when you acknowledged even my one lb loss .. my heart went " flip flip " like a little kid. You are such a gracious and always giving .cheer leader Joan. Thank you for that. A quick note regarding your impass with your Mom. I could exchange volumes on this subject, how it has effected me personally, my children etc. I applaud your resolve to ... mend things ... for yourself. You are fully deserving of " peace " regardless of who things turn out. You simply cannot control other people ... end of story. A huge hug to you. Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA 275/148/126 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 In a message dated 12/23/2003 8:50:27 AM Pacific Standard Time, jclinton@... writes: > I guess in one way these 2 things are alike.....to get past > them you have to acknowledge it first, then work very hard, and most of all > protect and love yourself!! > that is soooooooooo powerful !!! They are linked Joan. And heavens, that you have been able to make peace with your parent in denial... and allow them their illusion... this is HUGE .. this is soooooooooooo huge....I am floored by your introspection and personal power. Bravo!!.... really ... BRAVO Joan.... know that someone who " knows " .. has today aknowleged you inner strength !!!! Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 In a message dated 12/23/2003 8:50:27 AM Pacific Standard Time, jclinton@... writes: > I guess in one way these 2 things are alike.....to get past > them you have to acknowledge it first, then work very hard, and most of all > protect and love yourself!! > that is soooooooooo powerful !!! They are linked Joan. And heavens, that you have been able to make peace with your parent in denial... and allow them their illusion... this is HUGE .. this is soooooooooooo huge....I am floored by your introspection and personal power. Bravo!!.... really ... BRAVO Joan.... know that someone who " knows " .. has today aknowleged you inner strength !!!! Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 , what a huge weight loss in about 2-1/2 months! You're so close to 100# loss. It's awesome! Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 , what a huge weight loss in about 2-1/2 months! You're so close to 100# loss. It's awesome! Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 I think it's so great to see big weight losses, but we've all got to remember that we have different metabolism, different bodies. What one person loses, another one doesn't. Try to keep your eye more on yourself and your accomplishment so far. Thirty-four pounds in great, great, great!!!! For those that lost quite a bit of weight prior to surgery, their weight loss isn't as big. A friend lost 40# prior to surgery, and had her surgery 2 weeks before I did, but our weight loss is about the same. It doesn't discourage her though. She knows she lost the " easier " weight prior to surgery. And the heavier you are, the weight seems to come off faster. We need to applaud those that lose 5# and those that lost 50#. They both worked hard for it. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 I think it's so great to see big weight losses, but we've all got to remember that we have different metabolism, different bodies. What one person loses, another one doesn't. Try to keep your eye more on yourself and your accomplishment so far. Thirty-four pounds in great, great, great!!!! For those that lost quite a bit of weight prior to surgery, their weight loss isn't as big. A friend lost 40# prior to surgery, and had her surgery 2 weeks before I did, but our weight loss is about the same. It doesn't discourage her though. She knows she lost the " easier " weight prior to surgery. And the heavier you are, the weight seems to come off faster. We need to applaud those that lose 5# and those that lost 50#. They both worked hard for it. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Mandy, I'd cheer you or anyone who lost 1/4#. Any weight loss is a struggle. In the other world outside surgery, no one would ever think that a tiny loss is a loss and to be celebrated. I'm sure we've all gone through the cycle over and over, lose, gain, lose, gain. At this point I'm sure it's really hard for you being at goal, or close. The weight doesn't come off overnight, and your stomach is bigger. Then is when the real struggle happens. I can only hope that when I get to where you are I can keep it off for 6 YEARS!!!! Have you settled into a true body image of yourself and how good you look? I wonder if after so many years of feeling fat at times, whether I'll be able to truly see myself as thin or normal consistently. And oh yes.....those who have or had conflicts with mothers! It's a tough one, but necessary to keep peace in the family. I just keep a daily resolve to not let there be any " crazymaking " with me. Crazymaking comes from a book I read umpteen years ago by a german. When the insanity starts, and those horrible and crazy requests come to me, I can finally say no. I refuse to speak to them at all about past problems, as they haven't the capacity to understand......and many of sisters/brothers have acknowledged that they too went through the same problems. They just can't face up to it and deal with it. So they muddle through with false lives, denying the past. If that works for them, okay. At least this is one part of my life that I've conquered and it is sooooo empowering. Hope I can do as well with the weight. I guess in one way these 2 things are alike.....to get past them you have to acknowledge it first, then work very hard, and most of all protect and love yourself!! Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Re: Calling all 5 week post-oppers! In a message dated 12/23/2003 7:57:09 AM Pacific Standard Time, jclinton@... writes: > We need to applaud those that lose 5# and those that lost 50#. They both > worked hard for it. > hey hey hey Joan.... what about us half pound losers!! Kudo's ... give give give ....more Kudo's for meeeeeeee!!! LOL. Ok ok, not this week, I've been bad and am wholy undeserving. But its funny, and I must share this with you.... that one day when you acknowledged even my one lb loss .. my heart went " flip flip " like a little kid. You are such a gracious and always giving .cheer leader Joan. Thank you for that. A quick note regarding your impass with your Mom. I could exchange volumes on this subject, how it has effected me personally, my children etc. I applaud your resolve to ... mend things ... for yourself. You are fully deserving of " peace " regardless of who things turn out. You simply cannot control other people ... end of story. A huge hug to you. Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA 275/148/126 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Mandy, I'd cheer you or anyone who lost 1/4#. Any weight loss is a struggle. In the other world outside surgery, no one would ever think that a tiny loss is a loss and to be celebrated. I'm sure we've all gone through the cycle over and over, lose, gain, lose, gain. At this point I'm sure it's really hard for you being at goal, or close. The weight doesn't come off overnight, and your stomach is bigger. Then is when the real struggle happens. I can only hope that when I get to where you are I can keep it off for 6 YEARS!!!! Have you settled into a true body image of yourself and how good you look? I wonder if after so many years of feeling fat at times, whether I'll be able to truly see myself as thin or normal consistently. And oh yes.....those who have or had conflicts with mothers! It's a tough one, but necessary to keep peace in the family. I just keep a daily resolve to not let there be any " crazymaking " with me. Crazymaking comes from a book I read umpteen years ago by a german. When the insanity starts, and those horrible and crazy requests come to me, I can finally say no. I refuse to speak to them at all about past problems, as they haven't the capacity to understand......and many of sisters/brothers have acknowledged that they too went through the same problems. They just can't face up to it and deal with it. So they muddle through with false lives, denying the past. If that works for them, okay. At least this is one part of my life that I've conquered and it is sooooo empowering. Hope I can do as well with the weight. I guess in one way these 2 things are alike.....to get past them you have to acknowledge it first, then work very hard, and most of all protect and love yourself!! Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Re: Calling all 5 week post-oppers! In a message dated 12/23/2003 7:57:09 AM Pacific Standard Time, jclinton@... writes: > We need to applaud those that lose 5# and those that lost 50#. They both > worked hard for it. > hey hey hey Joan.... what about us half pound losers!! Kudo's ... give give give ....more Kudo's for meeeeeeee!!! LOL. Ok ok, not this week, I've been bad and am wholy undeserving. But its funny, and I must share this with you.... that one day when you acknowledged even my one lb loss .. my heart went " flip flip " like a little kid. You are such a gracious and always giving .cheer leader Joan. Thank you for that. A quick note regarding your impass with your Mom. I could exchange volumes on this subject, how it has effected me personally, my children etc. I applaud your resolve to ... mend things ... for yourself. You are fully deserving of " peace " regardless of who things turn out. You simply cannot control other people ... end of story. A huge hug to you. Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA 275/148/126 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Mandy, thanks! It does feel great. Took a long time, but has been so worth it. I hope to apply these things to my quest with food. I've heard others talk of being sabotaged by friends, family. Yes, there is truly a jealousy that you're doing this for yourself. Yesterday had an email from a fellow GB friend. She'd been in town with a friend that kept trying to get her to eat something. The friend then insisted on going to a particular hamburger place, which would not have been good for the GB friend. Upon more insistence, and driving quite a distance, the friend wolfed down 2 big hamburgers, then tried to get the GB friend to eat the last bite. I could hear the frustration in her email, that this friend just doesn't get it, does not hear anything you're saying. I guess it goes back to many of our roots, that food is comfort, food is friendly, that you want someone else to enjoy it. I've got my resolve up, because I know I'll be faced with this at some point, and politely let them know " NO " . I figure even though they feel they're helping you, they aren't. If they can't hear your words when you say " NO " , and the fact that you've told them many times what you need and don't need, I won't even hear them after that. Way too many years of not being heard, makes me cautious of those that don't think of what is right for you, and try bulldozing you over, even in the name of love. I know this is different for everyone, but for me this will work. Okay, that's it, felt good to get it out! On my way to the movies and have a good time. Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Re: Calling all 5 week post-oppers! In a message dated 12/23/2003 8:50:27 AM Pacific Standard Time, jclinton@... writes: > I guess in one way these 2 things are alike.....to get past > them you have to acknowledge it first, then work very hard, and most of all > protect and love yourself!! > that is soooooooooo powerful !!! They are linked Joan. And heavens, that you have been able to make peace with your parent in denial... and allow them their illusion... this is HUGE .. this is soooooooooooo huge....I am floored by your introspection and personal power. Bravo!!.... really ... BRAVO Joan.... know that someone who " knows " .. has today aknowleged you inner strength !!!! Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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