Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 My best friend had her surgery the same day as me. When she started her surgery she weighed 378 and is 5'6. She has since lost 29 lbs. But what I want someone's opinion about is, she eats whatever she wants, fried foods, candy, cake. And she even smokes pot. I think this is going to hurt her in the long run. We were supposed to puree our food for 8 weeks, which she refused to do. She eats out almost every meal. I think this is stupid to spend this money and do and eat whatever you want. What do you think? Thanks for listening to me. I want to tell her to grow up and do what your supposed to do, but I just keep my mouth shut... Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 My best friend had her surgery the same day as me. When she started her surgery she weighed 378 and is 5'6. She has since lost 29 lbs. But what I want someone's opinion about is, she eats whatever she wants, fried foods, candy, cake. And she even smokes pot. I think this is going to hurt her in the long run. We were supposed to puree our food for 8 weeks, which she refused to do. She eats out almost every meal. I think this is stupid to spend this money and do and eat whatever you want. What do you think? Thanks for listening to me. I want to tell her to grow up and do what your supposed to do, but I just keep my mouth shut... Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 In a message dated 12/23/2003 7:51:53 AM Pacific Standard Time, Twinsmommy42@... writes: > I want to tell her to grow > up and do what your supposed to do, but I just keep my mouth shut... > " good friends " develop the limberness of heart to allow for a healthy dose of foot in mouth syndrome... if you care for this persona, ... confront her NOW. I know, I know, easier said than done... but its a matter of how much you care... or how little you care. Ask yourself, ...if she were your child ... would you keep quiet?? Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA 275/148/126 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 In a message dated 12/23/2003 7:51:53 AM Pacific Standard Time, Twinsmommy42@... writes: > I want to tell her to grow > up and do what your supposed to do, but I just keep my mouth shut... > " good friends " develop the limberness of heart to allow for a healthy dose of foot in mouth syndrome... if you care for this persona, ... confront her NOW. I know, I know, easier said than done... but its a matter of how much you care... or how little you care. Ask yourself, ...if she were your child ... would you keep quiet?? Skinny Wishes from Mandy in CA 275/148/126 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 I agree with you. I think that when its all said and done that she will gain it back. Or your right maybe worse. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 I agree with you. I think that when its all said and done that she will gain it back. Or your right maybe worse. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 When she tells me she eats candy and then the other night was her Christmas party she ate 2 pieces of cake, I made a comment that I have no desire to eat that kind of stuff, that it doesn't even sound good to me. And it doesn't. I am making pie for Christmas using splenda and I will have a sliver of that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 When she tells me she eats candy and then the other night was her Christmas party she ate 2 pieces of cake, I made a comment that I have no desire to eat that kind of stuff, that it doesn't even sound good to me. And it doesn't. I am making pie for Christmas using splenda and I will have a sliver of that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 We have a support group that meets the second Tuesday of every month. I couldn't go this month, but I am going to the January meeting. She said she is going, but we will see. I have smoked pot twice and that was in my20's and was not impressed. Made me to tired and hungry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 We have a support group that meets the second Tuesday of every month. I couldn't go this month, but I am going to the January meeting. She said she is going, but we will see. I have smoked pot twice and that was in my20's and was not impressed. Made me to tired and hungry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Your friend is making some bad choices, they may catch up with her in the end..regainingthe weight or worse, death or serious illness...not to scare you or her but I would not have gone though all of this for taking chances.. ..but then I am sure not everyone is successful with this because not only do you have to make physical changes but also emotional changes as well, and some people do not face those, skinny or fat...just my opinion..... Tina Scrapfully Yours, Tina M. Durbin/Teacher Leaving Prints Scrapbook Instructor A picture is worth a thousand words,but a thousand pictures is worth a scrapbook..so get scrappin' Web Site: http://tina.durbin.leavingprints.us Home Email: tunakins@... Personal Site: http://pages.ivillage.com/tunakins2003 -- Need an Opinion My best friend had her surgery the same day as me. When she started her surgery she weighed 378 and is 5'6. She has since lost 29 lbs. But what I want someone's opinion about is, she eats whatever she wants, fried foods, candy cake. And she even smokes pot. I think this is going to hurt her in the long run. We were supposed to puree our food for 8 weeks, which she refused to do. She eats out almost every meal. I think this is stupid to spend this money and do and eat whatever you want. What do you think? Thanks for listening to me. I want to tell her to grow up and do what your supposed to do, but I just keep my mouth shut... Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Your friend is making some bad choices, they may catch up with her in the end..regainingthe weight or worse, death or serious illness...not to scare you or her but I would not have gone though all of this for taking chances.. ..but then I am sure not everyone is successful with this because not only do you have to make physical changes but also emotional changes as well, and some people do not face those, skinny or fat...just my opinion..... Tina Scrapfully Yours, Tina M. Durbin/Teacher Leaving Prints Scrapbook Instructor A picture is worth a thousand words,but a thousand pictures is worth a scrapbook..so get scrappin' Web Site: http://tina.durbin.leavingprints.us Home Email: tunakins@... Personal Site: http://pages.ivillage.com/tunakins2003 -- Need an Opinion My best friend had her surgery the same day as me. When she started her surgery she weighed 378 and is 5'6. She has since lost 29 lbs. But what I want someone's opinion about is, she eats whatever she wants, fried foods, candy cake. And she even smokes pot. I think this is going to hurt her in the long run. We were supposed to puree our food for 8 weeks, which she refused to do. She eats out almost every meal. I think this is stupid to spend this money and do and eat whatever you want. What do you think? Thanks for listening to me. I want to tell her to grow up and do what your supposed to do, but I just keep my mouth shut... Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Pam, I cringed when I read this! It sounds like she wasn't ready for surgery at all. She hasn't made a commitment to changing the way she eats. To me, it sounds self-destructive. As a friend, I don't know if you could get through to her or not. I really doubt she sees she has a problem. I have a similar problem with a friend, not with food, but with other stuff, and feel so frustrated because I know she wouldn't be able to hear what I had to say. It would go in one ear and out the other, and she wouldn't comprehend what I was saying. I think I'd try to be the best role model for her, let her see the way you eat, and I'm sure you'll be losing weight that she isn't. Maybe it would open her eyes, and not her mouth. haha It really is sad, because she's heading towards one of the statistics that gain all the weight back! Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Need an Opinion My best friend had her surgery the same day as me. When she started her surgery she weighed 378 and is 5'6. She has since lost 29 lbs. But what I want someone's opinion about is, she eats whatever she wants, fried foods, candy, cake. And she even smokes pot. I think this is going to hurt her in the long run. We were supposed to puree our food for 8 weeks, which she refused to do. She eats out almost every meal. I think this is stupid to spend this money and do and eat whatever you want. What do you think? Thanks for listening to me. I want to tell her to grow up and do what your supposed to do, but I just keep my mouth shut... Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Pam, I cringed when I read this! It sounds like she wasn't ready for surgery at all. She hasn't made a commitment to changing the way she eats. To me, it sounds self-destructive. As a friend, I don't know if you could get through to her or not. I really doubt she sees she has a problem. I have a similar problem with a friend, not with food, but with other stuff, and feel so frustrated because I know she wouldn't be able to hear what I had to say. It would go in one ear and out the other, and she wouldn't comprehend what I was saying. I think I'd try to be the best role model for her, let her see the way you eat, and I'm sure you'll be losing weight that she isn't. Maybe it would open her eyes, and not her mouth. haha It really is sad, because she's heading towards one of the statistics that gain all the weight back! Joan LAP RNY 11/18/03 Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA 282pre-op/275surg/243/140 Need an Opinion My best friend had her surgery the same day as me. When she started her surgery she weighed 378 and is 5'6. She has since lost 29 lbs. But what I want someone's opinion about is, she eats whatever she wants, fried foods, candy, cake. And she even smokes pot. I think this is going to hurt her in the long run. We were supposed to puree our food for 8 weeks, which she refused to do. She eats out almost every meal. I think this is stupid to spend this money and do and eat whatever you want. What do you think? Thanks for listening to me. I want to tell her to grow up and do what your supposed to do, but I just keep my mouth shut... Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 hey pam. if she's in fact your best friend, i'd confront her. surg ain't a cure, it's a precious valuable tool & gift. a gift that sounds like she's squandering. " success " has a price, it's not a magic carpet ride. can you all go to in-person meetings? w/ your support & nudging & @ meetings, she hopefully will pick up some wls skills. PS don't know about pot, i'm the biggest square, never even tried it---too stinky! lori h. > My best friend had her surgery the same day as me. When she started her > surgery she weighed 378 and is 5'6. She has since lost 29 lbs. But what I want > someone's opinion about is, she eats whatever she wants, fried foods, candy, > cake. And she even smokes pot. I think this is going to hurt her in the long > run. We were supposed to puree our food for 8 weeks, which she refused to do. > She eats out almost every meal. > I think this is stupid to spend this money and do and eat whatever you want. > What do you think? Thanks for listening to me. I want to tell her to grow > up and do what your supposed to do, but I just keep my mouth shut... > > Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 hey pam. if she's in fact your best friend, i'd confront her. surg ain't a cure, it's a precious valuable tool & gift. a gift that sounds like she's squandering. " success " has a price, it's not a magic carpet ride. can you all go to in-person meetings? w/ your support & nudging & @ meetings, she hopefully will pick up some wls skills. PS don't know about pot, i'm the biggest square, never even tried it---too stinky! lori h. > My best friend had her surgery the same day as me. When she started her > surgery she weighed 378 and is 5'6. She has since lost 29 lbs. But what I want > someone's opinion about is, she eats whatever she wants, fried foods, candy, > cake. And she even smokes pot. I think this is going to hurt her in the long > run. We were supposed to puree our food for 8 weeks, which she refused to do. > She eats out almost every meal. > I think this is stupid to spend this money and do and eat whatever you want. > What do you think? Thanks for listening to me. I want to tell her to grow > up and do what your supposed to do, but I just keep my mouth shut... > > Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 I completely agree!!! Sounds like she wanted an " easy fix " versus a lifestyle change but she also has other issues that she needs to contend with aside from her weight. I hope you do talk to her and that she hears what you say. > Pam, I cringed when I read this! It sounds like she wasn't ready for > surgery at all. She hasn't made a commitment to changing the way she eats. > To me, it sounds self-destructive. As a friend, I don't know if you could > get through to her or not. I really doubt she sees she has a problem. I > have a similar problem with a friend, not with food, but with other stuff, > and feel so frustrated because I know she wouldn't be able to hear what I > had to say. It would go in one ear and out the other, and she wouldn't > comprehend what I was saying. I think I'd try to be the best role model for > her, let her see the way you eat, and I'm sure you'll be losing weight that > she isn't. Maybe it would open her eyes, and not her mouth. haha It > really is sad, because she's heading towards one of the statistics that gain > all the weight back! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 I completely agree!!! Sounds like she wanted an " easy fix " versus a lifestyle change but she also has other issues that she needs to contend with aside from her weight. I hope you do talk to her and that she hears what you say. > Pam, I cringed when I read this! It sounds like she wasn't ready for > surgery at all. She hasn't made a commitment to changing the way she eats. > To me, it sounds self-destructive. As a friend, I don't know if you could > get through to her or not. I really doubt she sees she has a problem. I > have a similar problem with a friend, not with food, but with other stuff, > and feel so frustrated because I know she wouldn't be able to hear what I > had to say. It would go in one ear and out the other, and she wouldn't > comprehend what I was saying. I think I'd try to be the best role model for > her, let her see the way you eat, and I'm sure you'll be losing weight that > she isn't. Maybe it would open her eyes, and not her mouth. haha It > really is sad, because she's heading towards one of the statistics that gain > all the weight back! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 I don't know if she will or not. She is bull headed and wants to do what she wants to do. I eat a couple doritos once in a while also. But not many. I bought some baked lays and they were good. I only eat maybe 4-5. I don't want to ruin what I paid all this money to do. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 I don't know if she will or not. She is bull headed and wants to do what she wants to do. I eat a couple doritos once in a while also. But not many. I bought some baked lays and they were good. I only eat maybe 4-5. I don't want to ruin what I paid all this money to do. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 My friend doesn't exercise either. I eat out once in a while. The main place my kids like to go is 's so I get there chili and I love it.. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 My friend doesn't exercise either. I eat out once in a while. The main place my kids like to go is 's so I get there chili and I love it.. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Pam, I have a friend who had surgery 11 months before I did and is in a similar situation minus the pot. She eats pretty much whatever she wants when she wants, candy, fried foods, sugar, etc. She started out at about the same weight and height your friend did and now (19 months later) she is not even under 300 lbs. I've surpassed her in the weight loss and what have you. She also doesn't exercise either. Right after I had my surgery, she'd go walking with me every night but only if I forced her to. I know for a fact that she doesn't know and the only reason that she doesn't is because I'm not there to push. I think it's really sad that some people do not use this GIFT in the way it is intended and continue the same destructive behaviors that they exhibited before the surgery. I'm not saying that I'm perfect, lord knows that I'm not. I eat out a lot, but usually get only protein of some sort but have the occasional sandwich from Chick Fil A-the chicken only but it's still fried- but at least I mostly stick to what I'm supposed to eat through the course of a day. I agree that your friend wasn't ready for surgery but maybe you should talk to her. If she's any kind of friend at all, she will listen with an open mind to what you have to say. T. Lap RNY 6/20/03 432/296/170 Houston, Dr. Adam Naaman Visit my homepage at http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/ " I will find my way, I can go the distance. I'll be there someday if I can be strong, I know every mile will be worth my while, I would go most anywhere to fell like I belong. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 Pam, I have a friend who had surgery 11 months before I did and is in a similar situation minus the pot. She eats pretty much whatever she wants when she wants, candy, fried foods, sugar, etc. She started out at about the same weight and height your friend did and now (19 months later) she is not even under 300 lbs. I've surpassed her in the weight loss and what have you. She also doesn't exercise either. Right after I had my surgery, she'd go walking with me every night but only if I forced her to. I know for a fact that she doesn't know and the only reason that she doesn't is because I'm not there to push. I think it's really sad that some people do not use this GIFT in the way it is intended and continue the same destructive behaviors that they exhibited before the surgery. I'm not saying that I'm perfect, lord knows that I'm not. I eat out a lot, but usually get only protein of some sort but have the occasional sandwich from Chick Fil A-the chicken only but it's still fried- but at least I mostly stick to what I'm supposed to eat through the course of a day. I agree that your friend wasn't ready for surgery but maybe you should talk to her. If she's any kind of friend at all, she will listen with an open mind to what you have to say. T. Lap RNY 6/20/03 432/296/170 Houston, Dr. Adam Naaman Visit my homepage at http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/ " I will find my way, I can go the distance. I'll be there someday if I can be strong, I know every mile will be worth my while, I would go most anywhere to fell like I belong. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2003 Report Share Posted December 23, 2003 We eat different places, mostly " nice " places like Bennigan's or Chili's or Mexican food ...stuff like that so it's pretty easy for me to get grilled chicken or steak or fajitas and only eat the meat and beans. I don't cheat very often....just the occasional sandwich from Chick Fil A as I said..I do love 's Chili!...though I do LOVE Blue Bunny Carb Smart Ice Cream made with Splenda...though is that considered cheating? I put two scoops in with my protein drinks (on the rare occasion that I drink them) and make a protein milkshake. They are yummy!!! T. Lap RNY 6/20/03 432/296/170 Houston, Dr. Adam Naaman Visit my homepage at http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/ " I will find my way, I can go the distance. I'll be there someday if I can be strong, I know every mile will be worth my while, I would go most anywhere to fell like I belong. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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