Re: Hello - New here and need some words of encouragement.

[Guest guest]

Sunny, I can't tell you whether you're doing the right thing or not. I

think that's got to be a personal decision. My kids are 24 and 26, but it

did cross my mind though about not being here for my precious granddaughter

as well as my 2 kids that still need me in other ways. All I can tell you

is that this is, by far, the most wonderful thing I've done. I really feel

good about myself, I have energy (lost 33# so far), and I have the most

precious thing to me.....hope for the future. Along with the overweight

come terrible medical conditions, ones that I just couldn't live with. And

those medical conditions would shorten my life considerably. As the years

go by and you're overweight, terrible things happen to your body. My

experience is that many if not most that have this surgery, have tried and

tried to lose the weight, with the yo-yo losses and gains. That too is not

healthy. So, hoping that many others give you their personal input, I'll

tell you that not a second since the surgery have I regretted it, even when

you dump or have problems. These problems seem miniscule to me compared to

my health prior to surgery. I send you all my best wishes to reconcile your

feelings about this surgery.

Joan

LAP RNY 11/18/03

Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA

282pre-op/275surg/242/140

Hello - New here and need some words of

encouragement.

Hi everyone!

My name is Sunny and I've been lurking for quite a while now and

finally summoned up the nerve to introduce myself. My surgery (open

RNY) is scheduled for January 6 and I'm so scared that I think I've

been in denial about the whole thing. I was prepared to go through

hoops trying to get approved but it was so fast and easy that I

didn't even have time to blink and, before I knew it, I had a

surgery date.

I have two young daughters (2 and 6) and am terrified at the thought

of dying and leaving them to grow up without a mother. Yet,

everytime I look in the mirror, climb the stairs or try to sit on

the floor (and then get up off the floor) I know that I cannot go on

like this. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place and

wonder how I ever let myself get so overweight that surgery is the

only alternative left. I try not to think about my upcoming surgery

but the closer it gets, the more scared I am. I can't even finish

this post without crying...am I doing the right thing?

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[Guest guest]

Sunny, I can't tell you whether you're doing the right thing or not. I

think that's got to be a personal decision. My kids are 24 and 26, but it

did cross my mind though about not being here for my precious granddaughter

as well as my 2 kids that still need me in other ways. All I can tell you

is that this is, by far, the most wonderful thing I've done. I really feel

good about myself, I have energy (lost 33# so far), and I have the most

precious thing to me.....hope for the future. Along with the overweight

come terrible medical conditions, ones that I just couldn't live with. And

those medical conditions would shorten my life considerably. As the years

go by and you're overweight, terrible things happen to your body. My

experience is that many if not most that have this surgery, have tried and

tried to lose the weight, with the yo-yo losses and gains. That too is not

healthy. So, hoping that many others give you their personal input, I'll

tell you that not a second since the surgery have I regretted it, even when

you dump or have problems. These problems seem miniscule to me compared to

my health prior to surgery. I send you all my best wishes to reconcile your

feelings about this surgery.

Joan

LAP RNY 11/18/03

Dr. Higa, Fresno, CA

282pre-op/275surg/242/140

Hello - New here and need some words of

encouragement.

Hi everyone!

My name is Sunny and I've been lurking for quite a while now and

finally summoned up the nerve to introduce myself. My surgery (open

RNY) is scheduled for January 6 and I'm so scared that I think I've

been in denial about the whole thing. I was prepared to go through

hoops trying to get approved but it was so fast and easy that I

didn't even have time to blink and, before I knew it, I had a

surgery date.

I have two young daughters (2 and 6) and am terrified at the thought

of dying and leaving them to grow up without a mother. Yet,

everytime I look in the mirror, climb the stairs or try to sit on

the floor (and then get up off the floor) I know that I cannot go on

like this. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place and

wonder how I ever let myself get so overweight that surgery is the

only alternative left. I try not to think about my upcoming surgery

but the closer it gets, the more scared I am. I can't even finish

this post without crying...am I doing the right thing?

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[Guest guest]

Hi Sunny

I don't know if this is the right thing for you. Only you can answer that

question.

I can say for me it was the right thing to do. I just wish now I had not

waited so long. My kids are now older (21 and 17) and I think of the things

that I could have done with them that I missed out on and I want to cry.

But I still have chances to do things with them now and that's important

too.

When I finally decided to talked to my primary doctor about being referred

for the surgery it had nothing to do with the cosmetics of losing weight.

Well....maybe to a small degree it did. But the main thing was my health.

I wanted to live a " normal " life and I wanted to live a long life. That was

not going to happen for me at my old weight.

Yes I wondered " How did I get so fat that I needed to have surgery to get

healthy again? " ....but you know I realized looking at the past wasn't going

to help me. Looking at the future and what could be if I was willing to do

the work that went along with it. So forget about being down on yourself

for " What was " and give yourself a pat on the back for " What is " .

The surgery can be a bit difficult at times. You will have some struggles

the first few months. But it will get better. You will feel better. You

will become healthier and stronger (physically and emotionally).

You kids will likely thank you for it in the end. Because you will have

given them the gift of a healthy Mom.

Candi

Hello - New here and need some words of

encouragement.

Hi everyone!

My name is Sunny and I've been lurking for quite a while now and

finally summoned up the nerve to introduce myself. My surgery (open

RNY) is scheduled for January 6 and I'm so scared that I think I've

been in denial about the whole thing. I was prepared to go through

hoops trying to get approved but it was so fast and easy that I

didn't even have time to blink and, before I knew it, I had a

surgery date.

I have two young daughters (2 and 6) and am terrified at the thought

of dying and leaving them to grow up without a mother. Yet,

everytime I look in the mirror, climb the stairs or try to sit on

the floor (and then get up off the floor) I know that I cannot go on

like this. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place and

wonder how I ever let myself get so overweight that surgery is the

only alternative left. I try not to think about my upcoming surgery

but the closer it gets, the more scared I am. I can't even finish

this post without crying...am I doing the right thing?

----------------------------------------------------------------------------

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[Guest guest]

Hi Sunny

I don't know if this is the right thing for you. Only you can answer that

question.

I can say for me it was the right thing to do. I just wish now I had not

waited so long. My kids are now older (21 and 17) and I think of the things

that I could have done with them that I missed out on and I want to cry.

But I still have chances to do things with them now and that's important

too.

When I finally decided to talked to my primary doctor about being referred

for the surgery it had nothing to do with the cosmetics of losing weight.

Well....maybe to a small degree it did. But the main thing was my health.

I wanted to live a " normal " life and I wanted to live a long life. That was

not going to happen for me at my old weight.

Yes I wondered " How did I get so fat that I needed to have surgery to get

healthy again? " ....but you know I realized looking at the past wasn't going

to help me. Looking at the future and what could be if I was willing to do

the work that went along with it. So forget about being down on yourself

for " What was " and give yourself a pat on the back for " What is " .

The surgery can be a bit difficult at times. You will have some struggles

the first few months. But it will get better. You will feel better. You

will become healthier and stronger (physically and emotionally).

You kids will likely thank you for it in the end. Because you will have

given them the gift of a healthy Mom.

Candi

Hello - New here and need some words of

encouragement.

Hi everyone!

My name is Sunny and I've been lurking for quite a while now and

finally summoned up the nerve to introduce myself. My surgery (open

RNY) is scheduled for January 6 and I'm so scared that I think I've

been in denial about the whole thing. I was prepared to go through

hoops trying to get approved but it was so fast and easy that I

didn't even have time to blink and, before I knew it, I had a

surgery date.

I have two young daughters (2 and 6) and am terrified at the thought

of dying and leaving them to grow up without a mother. Yet,

everytime I look in the mirror, climb the stairs or try to sit on

the floor (and then get up off the floor) I know that I cannot go on

like this. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place and

wonder how I ever let myself get so overweight that surgery is the

only alternative left. I try not to think about my upcoming surgery

but the closer it gets, the more scared I am. I can't even finish

this post without crying...am I doing the right thing?

----------------------------------------------------------------------------

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[Guest guest]

Sunny, I very much understand how you feel. When I went into surgery

I was the single parent of a 3yo daughter. I was also afraid of

leaving her all alone, but I was also scared to continue on as the

type of mother I was. I couldn't do anything with her and I

constantly felt guilty about my weight and was afraid that my constant

eating would be passed on to her and that she would also have to

suffer the pain of obesity. That wasn't acceptable to me.

Obviously anything can go wrong, but anything can go wrong in life.

Accidents can happen and many diseases are inherent risk of obesity.

I am greatful everyday for this surgery and to Sunny and anyone else

who is considering surgery and/or having second thoughts; today, I do

Tae Bo exercises with my daughter where as a year ago, I couldn't keep

up with her running from me. My quality of life has improved beyond

description.

Sunny, you will be fine. Just remember to start following all of your

Dr.'s pre-op instructions and start walking as soon as possible after

your surgery.

Marina (Los Angeles, CA)

post-op 3/12/03

262/175/155

> Hi everyone!

> My name is Sunny and I've been lurking for quite a while now and

> finally summoned up the nerve to introduce myself. My surgery (open

> RNY) is scheduled for January 6 and I'm so scared that I think I've

> been in denial about the whole thing. I was prepared to go through

> hoops trying to get approved but it was so fast and easy that I

> didn't even have time to blink and, before I knew it, I had a

> surgery date.

>

> I have two young daughters (2 and 6) and am terrified at the thought

> of dying and leaving them to grow up without a mother. Yet,

> everytime I look in the mirror, climb the stairs or try to sit on

> the floor (and then get up off the floor) I know that I cannot go on

> like this. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place and

> wonder how I ever let myself get so overweight that surgery is the

> only alternative left. I try not to think about my upcoming surgery

> but the closer it gets, the more scared I am. I can't even finish

> this post without crying...am I doing the right thing?

[Guest guest]

Sunny, I very much understand how you feel. When I went into surgery

I was the single parent of a 3yo daughter. I was also afraid of

leaving her all alone, but I was also scared to continue on as the

type of mother I was. I couldn't do anything with her and I

constantly felt guilty about my weight and was afraid that my constant

eating would be passed on to her and that she would also have to

suffer the pain of obesity. That wasn't acceptable to me.

Obviously anything can go wrong, but anything can go wrong in life.

Accidents can happen and many diseases are inherent risk of obesity.

I am greatful everyday for this surgery and to Sunny and anyone else

who is considering surgery and/or having second thoughts; today, I do

Tae Bo exercises with my daughter where as a year ago, I couldn't keep

up with her running from me. My quality of life has improved beyond

description.

Sunny, you will be fine. Just remember to start following all of your

Dr.'s pre-op instructions and start walking as soon as possible after

your surgery.

Marina (Los Angeles, CA)

post-op 3/12/03

262/175/155

> Hi everyone!

> My name is Sunny and I've been lurking for quite a while now and

> finally summoned up the nerve to introduce myself. My surgery (open

> RNY) is scheduled for January 6 and I'm so scared that I think I've

> been in denial about the whole thing. I was prepared to go through

> hoops trying to get approved but it was so fast and easy that I

> didn't even have time to blink and, before I knew it, I had a

> surgery date.

>

> I have two young daughters (2 and 6) and am terrified at the thought

> of dying and leaving them to grow up without a mother. Yet,

> everytime I look in the mirror, climb the stairs or try to sit on

> the floor (and then get up off the floor) I know that I cannot go on

> like this. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place and

> wonder how I ever let myself get so overweight that surgery is the

> only alternative left. I try not to think about my upcoming surgery

> but the closer it gets, the more scared I am. I can't even finish

> this post without crying...am I doing the right thing?

[Guest guest]

so great you're out of lurking mode---welcome!

wls is one of the biggest decisions anyone can make. it's also

daunting,to subject ourselves to major surg & having to change our

relationship w/ food & all the other duties of a post-op.

if you're in search of testimonials, well, wls has meant freedom

from the weight & all it's baggage.

research your doc & the hospital. keep the faith & keep posting.

lori h.

[Guest guest]

so great you're out of lurking mode---welcome!

wls is one of the biggest decisions anyone can make. it's also

daunting,to subject ourselves to major surg & having to change our

relationship w/ food & all the other duties of a post-op.

if you're in search of testimonials, well, wls has meant freedom

from the weight & all it's baggage.

research your doc & the hospital. keep the faith & keep posting.

lori h.

[Guest guest]

Hi Sunny!

I am 32 , married and have a 14 month old son.

My mom came for a week to take care of him while I was in the hospital for 5

days (blood pressure issue).

Then I had a mothers helper for 4 days.

Then It was just me and Noah during the day until my husband came home.

My recovery from Open Rny has been slow and painful... due to the lifting I am

doing but not supposed to be doing.

I have been doing way more around the house then I should be doing.

Prior to surgery.. I never even thought for a minute that I would die.. or

something bad would happen.

I felt the odds were all in my favor.. and of course I would be fine.

I practically skipped into the hosptial.. and jumped into that gown and begged

for them to start cutting!

I wasn't nervous at all. Poor hubby was a wreck.

It wasn't until I woke up that reality hit.. pain... OMG.. what did I just do?

Within a few days... severe pain lessened.

I dumped 1x in the hospital.. they gave me oral pain meds with lots of sugar.

Since then I avoid sugar like the plague.

Even tho the first 2 weeks were very uncomfortable... and it is still not very

easy for me to pick up my son..

I would do it all over in a heartbeat!!!

I wish you a quick recovery and lots of lost lbs!

K - Ft Lauderdale, Fl

Post Op - Open RNY 12/2/03

257/230/115 ( I am short.. 5' )

27 lbs gone forever!!!!

Sunny wrote:

Hi everyone!

My name is Sunny and I've been lurking for quite a while now and

finally summoned up the nerve to introduce myself. My surgery (open

RNY) is scheduled for January 6 and I'm so scared that I think I've

been in denial about the whole thing. I was prepared to go through

hoops trying to get approved but it was so fast and easy that I

didn't even have time to blink and, before I knew it, I had a

surgery date.

I have two young daughters (2 and 6) and am terrified at the thought

of dying and leaving them to grow up without a mother. Yet,

everytime I look in the mirror, climb the stairs or try to sit on

the floor (and then get up off the floor) I know that I cannot go on

like this. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place and

wonder how I ever let myself get so overweight that surgery is the

only alternative left. I try not to think about my upcoming surgery

but the closer it gets, the more scared I am. I can't even finish

this post without crying...am I doing the right thing?

[Guest guest]

Hi Sunny!

I am 32 , married and have a 14 month old son.

My mom came for a week to take care of him while I was in the hospital for 5

days (blood pressure issue).

Then I had a mothers helper for 4 days.

Then It was just me and Noah during the day until my husband came home.

My recovery from Open Rny has been slow and painful... due to the lifting I am

doing but not supposed to be doing.

I have been doing way more around the house then I should be doing.

Prior to surgery.. I never even thought for a minute that I would die.. or

something bad would happen.

I felt the odds were all in my favor.. and of course I would be fine.

I practically skipped into the hosptial.. and jumped into that gown and begged

for them to start cutting!

I wasn't nervous at all. Poor hubby was a wreck.

It wasn't until I woke up that reality hit.. pain... OMG.. what did I just do?

Within a few days... severe pain lessened.

I dumped 1x in the hospital.. they gave me oral pain meds with lots of sugar.

Since then I avoid sugar like the plague.

Even tho the first 2 weeks were very uncomfortable... and it is still not very

easy for me to pick up my son..

I would do it all over in a heartbeat!!!

I wish you a quick recovery and lots of lost lbs!

K - Ft Lauderdale, Fl

Post Op - Open RNY 12/2/03

257/230/115 ( I am short.. 5' )

27 lbs gone forever!!!!

Sunny wrote:

Hi everyone!

My name is Sunny and I've been lurking for quite a while now and

finally summoned up the nerve to introduce myself. My surgery (open

RNY) is scheduled for January 6 and I'm so scared that I think I've

been in denial about the whole thing. I was prepared to go through

hoops trying to get approved but it was so fast and easy that I

didn't even have time to blink and, before I knew it, I had a

surgery date.

I have two young daughters (2 and 6) and am terrified at the thought

of dying and leaving them to grow up without a mother. Yet,

everytime I look in the mirror, climb the stairs or try to sit on

the floor (and then get up off the floor) I know that I cannot go on

like this. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place and

wonder how I ever let myself get so overweight that surgery is the

only alternative left. I try not to think about my upcoming surgery

but the closer it gets, the more scared I am. I can't even finish

this post without crying...am I doing the right thing?

[Guest guest]

Wow you sound just like me sunny. I have 2 daughters 3 and 6. I am

having the surgery on tuesday. i am very excited and nervous to. my

mom and sister in law are helping me. my husband is in baghdad so he

can help. do you have Yahoo IM? add me so we can chat.. nora.

www.trulock.org

> Hi everyone!

> My name is Sunny and I've been lurking for quite a while now and

> finally summoned up the nerve to introduce myself. My surgery (open

> RNY) is scheduled for January 6 and I'm so scared that I think I've

> been in denial about the whole thing. I was prepared to go through

> hoops trying to get approved but it was so fast and easy that I

> didn't even have time to blink and, before I knew it, I had a

> surgery date.

>

> I have two young daughters (2 and 6) and am terrified at the

thought

> of dying and leaving them to grow up without a mother. Yet,

> everytime I look in the mirror, climb the stairs or try to sit on

> the floor (and then get up off the floor) I know that I cannot go

on

> like this. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place

and

> wonder how I ever let myself get so overweight that surgery is the

> only alternative left. I try not to think about my upcoming surgery

> but the closer it gets, the more scared I am. I can't even finish

> this post without crying...am I doing the right thing?

[Guest guest]

Wow you sound just like me sunny. I have 2 daughters 3 and 6. I am

having the surgery on tuesday. i am very excited and nervous to. my

mom and sister in law are helping me. my husband is in baghdad so he

can help. do you have Yahoo IM? add me so we can chat.. nora.

www.trulock.org

> Hi everyone!

> My name is Sunny and I've been lurking for quite a while now and

> finally summoned up the nerve to introduce myself. My surgery (open

> RNY) is scheduled for January 6 and I'm so scared that I think I've

> been in denial about the whole thing. I was prepared to go through

> hoops trying to get approved but it was so fast and easy that I

> didn't even have time to blink and, before I knew it, I had a

> surgery date.

>

> I have two young daughters (2 and 6) and am terrified at the

thought

> of dying and leaving them to grow up without a mother. Yet,

> everytime I look in the mirror, climb the stairs or try to sit on

> the floor (and then get up off the floor) I know that I cannot go

on

> like this. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place

and

> wonder how I ever let myself get so overweight that surgery is the

> only alternative left. I try not to think about my upcoming surgery

> but the closer it gets, the more scared I am. I can't even finish

> this post without crying...am I doing the right thing?