Re: Frustrated to the MAX!

[Guest guest]

Tigger,

I am so sorry you had a rough visit with your surgeon. I can

certainly understand the frustration. I would like to share some thing

with you. I have a dear friend that is an advocate for morbidly obese.

She has been a strong supporter of me having the surgery. At about a 15

months out, I started getting frustrated because I was no longer loosing.

She asked me if I was healthier then I was a year ago. I can honestly

say that I was. I chose to do this surgery, first and foremost, for

health reasons. I would love to weigh 135 lbs. But I am also grateful I

no longer weigh 479 lbs. I know this may not help know but it might be

something you want to consider later.

I was also wondering what your expectations of the surgery were

pre-op. Did you have a specific goal weight in mind? Were you willing

to accept less then that? The reason I ask is that I had pretty high

expectations when I had this surgery. My surgeon and insurance actually

required a psych eval. The psychiatrist asked what my expectations were.

I told him idealistically, I wanted to weigh 135 lbs., I would be

estatic to weigh 200 lbs., and I would be grateful for weighing anything

as close to normal as possible, whatever that may end up being. There

was part of me that knew I may never reach my goal weight. However, if

my goal was improved health, I could not fail. Please also realize that

you may not be finished loosing.

It may not be a bad idea to see a therapist. It may actually

help to talk to someone about the frustrations of not loosing more. It

may help to talk to someone about things like your changing body image.

It may also help to get you back on track. At least consider going to a

therapist, not because your surgeon recommended it, but because it is

best for you.

Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs.

SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs.

Current Weight 335

Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

On Fri, 07 Mar 2003 00:16:45 -0000 " tigger57ri "

writes:

> Hi everyone! I thought I'd let out a little of my frustrations on you

>

> guys, since you all seem to have been through it all or know someone

>

> who has. I've been to my Gastro Dr. and my surgeon today. Oh, I'm 13

>

> months post-op. I've been having strange pain in my stomach and

> sometimes my abdomen. Basically they both said I was full of crap...

>

> literally... constipated. Not that I will argue that point, but that

>

> was the end of it. You know, make sure you drink your water, take

> MOM, etc. I can almost deal with that, but I was in tears in the

> surgeons office. According to his records I have lost 50 lbs in one

>

> year. No, not 150, but 50. He response to me has been.. " you've lost

>

> slowly right from the beginning and I can't figure out why. " The

> end. I explained my frustration at having lost (he says 50 pounds, I

>

> say 65 - from my scale) so slowly. He just commented that my loss

> has been slow from the beginning and he doesn't see why it should be

>

> since I've been doing everything I'm suppose to. He actually told me

>

> that I may not even lose any more. I've lost 50 percent of what I

> wanted to lose and I have my health back and that was pretty much

> all

> he could ask for as a surgeon. He also said that at some point

> the " honeymoon " will be over and I'll have to watch out for gaining

>

> some weight back. He also recommended I see a therapist, since this

>

> bothers me so much. I have to admit, I'm kind of in shock. I started

>

> crying in his office. Because of a snow storm here, I came home and

>

> went to bed. Now, I guess tomorrow I have to get up and get back

> into

> fighting mode. It's just not fair that I've had to fight for every

> damn pound. I didn't expect a miracle, but I expected a little more

>

> than what I've gotten.

> Thank you all for letting me vent. Any and all comments and help

> would be greatly appreciated. Oh, and yes, I drink at least 64 oz of

>

> water a day, exercise 30-45 minutes 4 to 5 times a week, eat very

> little carbs (actually still eat very little, period), and take my

> supplements.

>

> Tigger

>

>

>

>

> Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

>

> Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Tigger,

I am so sorry you had a rough visit with your surgeon. I can

certainly understand the frustration. I would like to share some thing

with you. I have a dear friend that is an advocate for morbidly obese.

She has been a strong supporter of me having the surgery. At about a 15

months out, I started getting frustrated because I was no longer loosing.

She asked me if I was healthier then I was a year ago. I can honestly

say that I was. I chose to do this surgery, first and foremost, for

health reasons. I would love to weigh 135 lbs. But I am also grateful I

no longer weigh 479 lbs. I know this may not help know but it might be

something you want to consider later.

I was also wondering what your expectations of the surgery were

pre-op. Did you have a specific goal weight in mind? Were you willing

to accept less then that? The reason I ask is that I had pretty high

expectations when I had this surgery. My surgeon and insurance actually

required a psych eval. The psychiatrist asked what my expectations were.

I told him idealistically, I wanted to weigh 135 lbs., I would be

estatic to weigh 200 lbs., and I would be grateful for weighing anything

as close to normal as possible, whatever that may end up being. There

was part of me that knew I may never reach my goal weight. However, if

my goal was improved health, I could not fail. Please also realize that

you may not be finished loosing.

It may not be a bad idea to see a therapist. It may actually

help to talk to someone about the frustrations of not loosing more. It

may help to talk to someone about things like your changing body image.

It may also help to get you back on track. At least consider going to a

therapist, not because your surgeon recommended it, but because it is

best for you.

Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs.

SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs.

Current Weight 335

Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

On Fri, 07 Mar 2003 00:16:45 -0000 " tigger57ri "

writes:

> Hi everyone! I thought I'd let out a little of my frustrations on you

>

> guys, since you all seem to have been through it all or know someone

>

> who has. I've been to my Gastro Dr. and my surgeon today. Oh, I'm 13

>

> months post-op. I've been having strange pain in my stomach and

> sometimes my abdomen. Basically they both said I was full of crap...

>

> literally... constipated. Not that I will argue that point, but that

>

> was the end of it. You know, make sure you drink your water, take

> MOM, etc. I can almost deal with that, but I was in tears in the

> surgeons office. According to his records I have lost 50 lbs in one

>

> year. No, not 150, but 50. He response to me has been.. " you've lost

>

> slowly right from the beginning and I can't figure out why. " The

> end. I explained my frustration at having lost (he says 50 pounds, I

>

> say 65 - from my scale) so slowly. He just commented that my loss

> has been slow from the beginning and he doesn't see why it should be

>

> since I've been doing everything I'm suppose to. He actually told me

>

> that I may not even lose any more. I've lost 50 percent of what I

> wanted to lose and I have my health back and that was pretty much

> all

> he could ask for as a surgeon. He also said that at some point

> the " honeymoon " will be over and I'll have to watch out for gaining

>

> some weight back. He also recommended I see a therapist, since this

>

> bothers me so much. I have to admit, I'm kind of in shock. I started

>

> crying in his office. Because of a snow storm here, I came home and

>

> went to bed. Now, I guess tomorrow I have to get up and get back

> into

> fighting mode. It's just not fair that I've had to fight for every

> damn pound. I didn't expect a miracle, but I expected a little more

>

> than what I've gotten.

> Thank you all for letting me vent. Any and all comments and help

> would be greatly appreciated. Oh, and yes, I drink at least 64 oz of

>

> water a day, exercise 30-45 minutes 4 to 5 times a week, eat very

> little carbs (actually still eat very little, period), and take my

> supplements.

>

> Tigger

>

>

>

>

> Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

>

> Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Tigger,

The first thought that came to my mind is perhaps the small weight loss is

somehow related to the stomach pain you have been having? Perhaps see

another doctor?

We have already won when we believe it in our hearts.

ICQ: 67869779

AIM: joydenisek

> Hi everyone! I thought I'd let out a little of my frustrations on you

> guys, since you all seem to have been through it all or know someone

> who has. I've been to my Gastro Dr. and my surgeon today. Oh, I'm 13

> months post-op. I've been having strange pain in my stomach and

> sometimes my abdomen. Basically they both said I was full of crap...

> literally... constipated. Not that I will argue that point, but that

> was the end of it. You know, make sure you drink your water, take

> MOM, etc. I can almost deal with that, but I was in tears in the

> surgeons office. According to his records I have lost 50 lbs in one

> year. No, not 150, but 50. He response to me has been.. " you've lost

> slowly right from the beginning and I can't figure out why. " The

> end. I explained my frustration at having lost (he says 50 pounds, I

> say 65 - from my scale) so slowly. He just commented that my loss

> has been slow from the beginning and he doesn't see why it should be

> since I've been doing everything I'm suppose to. He actually told me

> that I may not even lose any more. I've lost 50 percent of what I

> wanted to lose and I have my health back and that was pretty much all

> he could ask for as a surgeon. He also said that at some point

> the " honeymoon " will be over and I'll have to watch out for gaining

> some weight back. He also recommended I see a therapist, since this

> bothers me so much. I have to admit, I'm kind of in shock. I started

> crying in his office. Because of a snow storm here, I came home and

> went to bed. Now, I guess tomorrow I have to get up and get back into

> fighting mode. It's just not fair that I've had to fight for every

> damn pound. I didn't expect a miracle, but I expected a little more

> than what I've gotten.

> Thank you all for letting me vent. Any and all comments and help

> would be greatly appreciated. Oh, and yes, I drink at least 64 oz of

> water a day, exercise 30-45 minutes 4 to 5 times a week, eat very

> little carbs (actually still eat very little, period), and take my

> supplements.

>

> Tigger

[Guest guest]

Hi Tigger,

The first thought that came to my mind is perhaps the small weight loss is

somehow related to the stomach pain you have been having? Perhaps see

another doctor?

We have already won when we believe it in our hearts.

ICQ: 67869779

AIM: joydenisek

> Hi everyone! I thought I'd let out a little of my frustrations on you

> guys, since you all seem to have been through it all or know someone

> who has. I've been to my Gastro Dr. and my surgeon today. Oh, I'm 13

> months post-op. I've been having strange pain in my stomach and

> sometimes my abdomen. Basically they both said I was full of crap...

> literally... constipated. Not that I will argue that point, but that

> was the end of it. You know, make sure you drink your water, take

> MOM, etc. I can almost deal with that, but I was in tears in the

> surgeons office. According to his records I have lost 50 lbs in one

> year. No, not 150, but 50. He response to me has been.. " you've lost

> slowly right from the beginning and I can't figure out why. " The

> end. I explained my frustration at having lost (he says 50 pounds, I

> say 65 - from my scale) so slowly. He just commented that my loss

> has been slow from the beginning and he doesn't see why it should be

> since I've been doing everything I'm suppose to. He actually told me

> that I may not even lose any more. I've lost 50 percent of what I

> wanted to lose and I have my health back and that was pretty much all

> he could ask for as a surgeon. He also said that at some point

> the " honeymoon " will be over and I'll have to watch out for gaining

> some weight back. He also recommended I see a therapist, since this

> bothers me so much. I have to admit, I'm kind of in shock. I started

> crying in his office. Because of a snow storm here, I came home and

> went to bed. Now, I guess tomorrow I have to get up and get back into

> fighting mode. It's just not fair that I've had to fight for every

> damn pound. I didn't expect a miracle, but I expected a little more

> than what I've gotten.

> Thank you all for letting me vent. Any and all comments and help

> would be greatly appreciated. Oh, and yes, I drink at least 64 oz of

> water a day, exercise 30-45 minutes 4 to 5 times a week, eat very

> little carbs (actually still eat very little, period), and take my

> supplements.

>

> Tigger

[Guest guest]

, I've been wondering that too, but they did a scope and

everything looks fine. The Gastro Dr. did have to open up a stricture

a little, but everything else looked fine. Also, I've lost slowly

right from the beginning. As a matter of fact, I GAINED 12 lbs when i

was in the hospital having my surgery. It probably boils down to all

those years of starving myself and doing fad diets. Thanks for the

support. I haven't completely ruled out seeing another WLS doctor yet

either. One day at a time right now.

Hugs,

Tigger

> Hi Tigger,

>

> The first thought that came to my mind is perhaps the small weight

loss is

> somehow related to the stomach pain you have been having? Perhaps

see

> another doctor?

>

>

> We have already won when we believe it in our hearts.

> ICQ: 67869779

> AIM: joydenisek

>

>

> > Hi everyone! I thought I'd let out a little of my frustrations on

you

> > guys, since you all seem to have been through it all or know

someone

> > who has. I've been to my Gastro Dr. and my surgeon today. Oh, I'm

13

> > months post-op. I've been having strange pain in my stomach and

> > sometimes my abdomen. Basically they both said I was full of

crap...

> > literally... constipated. Not that I will argue that point, but

that

> > was the end of it. You know, make sure you drink your water, take

> > MOM, etc. I can almost deal with that, but I was in tears in the

> > surgeons office. According to his records I have lost 50 lbs in

one

> > year. No, not 150, but 50. He response to me has been.. " you've

lost

> > slowly right from the beginning and I can't figure out why. " The

> > end. I explained my frustration at having lost (he says 50

pounds, I

> > say 65 - from my scale) so slowly. He just commented that my loss

> > has been slow from the beginning and he doesn't see why it should

be

> > since I've been doing everything I'm suppose to. He actually told

me

> > that I may not even lose any more. I've lost 50 percent of what I

> > wanted to lose and I have my health back and that was pretty much

all

> > he could ask for as a surgeon. He also said that at some point

> > the " honeymoon " will be over and I'll have to watch out for

gaining

> > some weight back. He also recommended I see a therapist, since

this

> > bothers me so much. I have to admit, I'm kind of in shock. I

started

> > crying in his office. Because of a snow storm here, I came home

and

> > went to bed. Now, I guess tomorrow I have to get up and get back

into

> > fighting mode. It's just not fair that I've had to fight for every

> > damn pound. I didn't expect a miracle, but I expected a little

more

> > than what I've gotten.

> > Thank you all for letting me vent. Any and all comments and help

> > would be greatly appreciated. Oh, and yes, I drink at least 64 oz

of

> > water a day, exercise 30-45 minutes 4 to 5 times a week, eat very

> > little carbs (actually still eat very little, period), and take my

> > supplements.

> >

> > Tigger

[Guest guest]

, I've been wondering that too, but they did a scope and

everything looks fine. The Gastro Dr. did have to open up a stricture

a little, but everything else looked fine. Also, I've lost slowly

right from the beginning. As a matter of fact, I GAINED 12 lbs when i

was in the hospital having my surgery. It probably boils down to all

those years of starving myself and doing fad diets. Thanks for the

support. I haven't completely ruled out seeing another WLS doctor yet

either. One day at a time right now.

Hugs,

Tigger

> Hi Tigger,

>

> The first thought that came to my mind is perhaps the small weight

loss is

> somehow related to the stomach pain you have been having? Perhaps

see

> another doctor?

>

>

> We have already won when we believe it in our hearts.

> ICQ: 67869779

> AIM: joydenisek

>

>

> > Hi everyone! I thought I'd let out a little of my frustrations on

you

> > guys, since you all seem to have been through it all or know

someone

> > who has. I've been to my Gastro Dr. and my surgeon today. Oh, I'm

13

> > months post-op. I've been having strange pain in my stomach and

> > sometimes my abdomen. Basically they both said I was full of

crap...

> > literally... constipated. Not that I will argue that point, but

that

> > was the end of it. You know, make sure you drink your water, take

> > MOM, etc. I can almost deal with that, but I was in tears in the

> > surgeons office. According to his records I have lost 50 lbs in

one

> > year. No, not 150, but 50. He response to me has been.. " you've

lost

> > slowly right from the beginning and I can't figure out why. " The

> > end. I explained my frustration at having lost (he says 50

pounds, I

> > say 65 - from my scale) so slowly. He just commented that my loss

> > has been slow from the beginning and he doesn't see why it should

be

> > since I've been doing everything I'm suppose to. He actually told

me

> > that I may not even lose any more. I've lost 50 percent of what I

> > wanted to lose and I have my health back and that was pretty much

all

> > he could ask for as a surgeon. He also said that at some point

> > the " honeymoon " will be over and I'll have to watch out for

gaining

> > some weight back. He also recommended I see a therapist, since

this

> > bothers me so much. I have to admit, I'm kind of in shock. I

started

> > crying in his office. Because of a snow storm here, I came home

and

> > went to bed. Now, I guess tomorrow I have to get up and get back

into

> > fighting mode. It's just not fair that I've had to fight for every

> > damn pound. I didn't expect a miracle, but I expected a little

more

> > than what I've gotten.

> > Thank you all for letting me vent. Any and all comments and help

> > would be greatly appreciated. Oh, and yes, I drink at least 64 oz

of

> > water a day, exercise 30-45 minutes 4 to 5 times a week, eat very

> > little carbs (actually still eat very little, period), and take my

> > supplements.

> >

> > Tigger

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 3/7/2003 5:48:11 AM Central Standard Time,

vt_rita@... writes:

> Anyway, Just wanted to let you know that I really do

> understand, losing slowly, not doing what so many

> others have done (getting to a goal within a year, oh

> to dream) and for me, even staying a normal size is a

> lot of work.

> ------------------------------------------

And for me, I never even got to a normal size yet !

Carol A

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 3/7/2003 5:48:11 AM Central Standard Time,

vt_rita@... writes:

> Anyway, Just wanted to let you know that I really do

> understand, losing slowly, not doing what so many

> others have done (getting to a goal within a year, oh

> to dream) and for me, even staying a normal size is a

> lot of work.

> ------------------------------------------

And for me, I never even got to a normal size yet !

Carol A

[Guest guest]

Thanks everyone for sharing. Not that I'm glad we go through all this

heartache by not getting to goal faster, but it is nice to know that

I'm not alone. You have all been so supportive. I wish the very best

to all of you. And if I finally make it under 200 pounds, you will

probably hear me screaming it from the rooftops whereever you are!

Tigger

> In a message dated 3/7/2003 5:48:11 AM Central Standard Time,

> vt_rita@y... writes:

>

> > Anyway, Just wanted to let you know that I really do

> > understand, losing slowly, not doing what so many

> > others have done (getting to a goal within a year, oh

> > to dream) and for me, even staying a normal size is a

> > lot of work.

> > ------------------------------------------

>

> And for me, I never even got to a normal size yet !

>

> Carol A

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks everyone for sharing. Not that I'm glad we go through all this

heartache by not getting to goal faster, but it is nice to know that

I'm not alone. You have all been so supportive. I wish the very best

to all of you. And if I finally make it under 200 pounds, you will

probably hear me screaming it from the rooftops whereever you are!

Tigger

> In a message dated 3/7/2003 5:48:11 AM Central Standard Time,

> vt_rita@y... writes:

>

> > Anyway, Just wanted to let you know that I really do

> > understand, losing slowly, not doing what so many

> > others have done (getting to a goal within a year, oh

> > to dream) and for me, even staying a normal size is a

> > lot of work.

> > ------------------------------------------

>

> And for me, I never even got to a normal size yet !

>

> Carol A

>

>

>

>