Hubby...Re: here 4 days post op

[Guest guest]

And again, I think not the least of the trouble spouses may have in

coping post-op come because they're also worried about someone they

love -- namely, the recovering patient. And afraid they will let

their beloved ones down.

If anyone should find him- or herself in this boat, you might

consider hiring either a sitter or a nurse, or even a nanny or a

friendly teen-ager, to help with some of the daily scut work of

caring for a patient and kids!

Or, even better, a housekeeper, if you're past the need for a nurse.

Cammie

> >

> > Hey all I am 4 days post op (surgery Nov. 17) and doing as well

as

> > can be expected, I think. I spent 1 night in the hospital after

> > surgery and I definately think it should have been a least 2

> days.

> > I did really well the first 24 hours and then it all went down

> > hill. The next 24 hours were not so good. The pain meds made me

> > vomit and thanks to this site I did not panic, I just leaned

> > forward. Then of course I got behind on eating and pain meds so

> we

> > called the OS and he fixed everthing and now I am doing well. I

> of

> > course am swollen and more so on my right side.

> >

> > My husband has been very wonderful about taking care of me until

> > today and he snapped. Yelling at the dog yelling at the kids and

> I

> > know it's hard but suck it up. I think something he wishes I was

> > the one taking care of him, but let me tell you it is not all

rosy

> > on this side. So now I will not be asking him for anything else

> and

> > I will do it all myself. Like tonight I fixed myself mashed

> > potatoes, but after I got finished making them I wasn't hungry

any

> > more, so I put them in the fridge for another day. sorry to

vent,

> > but I cannot imagine what he is going through is worst, is it? I

> > asked him why all the anger and he told me he felt like a grunt.

> I

> > will tell you I tell my husband thank you EVERYTIME he brings my

> > anything. What else can I do??

> >

> > hope everyone else is doing well,I saw 2 post ops from Nov. 18th

> and

> > I'm glad they are doing well.

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

And again, I think not the least of the trouble spouses may have in

coping post-op come because they're also worried about someone they

love -- namely, the recovering patient. And afraid they will let

their beloved ones down.

If anyone should find him- or herself in this boat, you might

consider hiring either a sitter or a nurse, or even a nanny or a

friendly teen-ager, to help with some of the daily scut work of

caring for a patient and kids!

Or, even better, a housekeeper, if you're past the need for a nurse.

Cammie

> >

> > Hey all I am 4 days post op (surgery Nov. 17) and doing as well

as

> > can be expected, I think. I spent 1 night in the hospital after

> > surgery and I definately think it should have been a least 2

> days.

> > I did really well the first 24 hours and then it all went down

> > hill. The next 24 hours were not so good. The pain meds made me

> > vomit and thanks to this site I did not panic, I just leaned

> > forward. Then of course I got behind on eating and pain meds so

> we

> > called the OS and he fixed everthing and now I am doing well. I

> of

> > course am swollen and more so on my right side.

> >

> > My husband has been very wonderful about taking care of me until

> > today and he snapped. Yelling at the dog yelling at the kids and

> I

> > know it's hard but suck it up. I think something he wishes I was

> > the one taking care of him, but let me tell you it is not all

rosy

> > on this side. So now I will not be asking him for anything else

> and

> > I will do it all myself. Like tonight I fixed myself mashed

> > potatoes, but after I got finished making them I wasn't hungry

any

> > more, so I put them in the fridge for another day. sorry to

vent,

> > but I cannot imagine what he is going through is worst, is it? I

> > asked him why all the anger and he told me he felt like a grunt.

> I

> > will tell you I tell my husband thank you EVERYTIME he brings my

> > anything. What else can I do??

> >

> > hope everyone else is doing well,I saw 2 post ops from Nov. 18th

> and

> > I'm glad they are doing well.

> >

> >

> >

> >