Thinking here

April 12, 2003

Tara,

It truly is a shame that this happens on a sight that is suppose

to help support all wls people. I am one of those that believes in

research, research, research before you make your decision. I truly

don't care what surgery someone has decided to have as long as they have

done the research and know the pros and cons of the surgery.

I am on a sight through my surgeons' office. These surgeons

have done mostly the vbg but have also done some bypass. I don't know

how many times people have gotten on this site to bash one surgery or the

other. They quote statistics that are completely biased one way or the

other. There have also been tons of discussions about how easy this

surgery is and that they will never gain any weight back because they are

dedicated. They believe that all they have to do is have the surgery and

the rest of their life is a piece of cake (sorry for the pun). Some have

also gone so far as to doubt the decision they made about the surgery

they have already had.

Now the reason I bring this up is that I have referred people to

this site more for educational purposes then anything. As much as I try

to explain about the pros and cons of the surgeries, about the work it

takes to succeed, etc they just don't quite get it. Somehow when they

come to this site and start reading, they finally get it.

I have also noticed that I really don't know most of the time who

has had what surgery on this site. I don't really care most of the time

unless it would affect the answer to a question (ie do they malabsorb or

not.) We are all on the same boat, facing a lot of the same issues,

struggling with a lot of the same concerns. I would hope that is what

comes across on this board more then the RNY does this or that and the

VBG does this or that.

Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

CHF 4/14/01 479 lbs.

SRVG 7/16/01 401 lbs.

Current Weight 335

Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

On Sat, 12 Apr 2003 08:20:43 -0700 (PDT) Tara and Brzezinski

writes:

> Hi Gang- Last week i was in obesityhelp.com's chat room- i kinda like

> to hang out there. Well anyways the room had a " Bashing of

> Surgeries " going on, My surgery is better than yours type bashing.

> Now im not all into that type of talk because i didnt have a choice

> of surgeries and second i believe it is a personal decision between

> the person and the doctor. Plus for me i didnt care what type of

> surgery i got as long as it got done. The one person was bashing

> RNY,blah-blah, Im not sure what she/he said she had done but it was

> the surgery where you still can eat bigger amounts of food compared

> to the rny, i think ,and really getting some of the new pre-op a

> little scared by saying things on the line RNY will have you

> gaining all your weight back, you wont ever be able to eat normal

> foods again, dumping,SLD and whatever else that could happen and all

> that blah-blah stuff, then she tells her listeneners , these new

> pre-op's before you go and get rny you need to check out the Yahoo

> grad group and it will support everything i just said. Well i got to

> thinking- if these pre-op's came here to lurk or whatever to see if

> this lady was right, What are they thinking after reading our posts

> for the last few days? Really i think so far everyone has done

> great on their weightloss/maintance and as far gaining weight back

> i have yet to see anything posted here that would scare me away from

> this type of surgery.Now this is just me rambling and thinking. I

> know that alot of us gain some water weight or a few extra pounds

> here and there thats part of life and I guess what im trying to say

> Is 98% of us love our new life and are so afraid that if we gain

> some weight that we are headed down the road to obesity again or

> that our health problems will come back and in truth we are not, but

> i also think it is good that we are aware of what we are doing that

> we know how to fix a problem with our tool we have and if it is the

> tool failing then we have enough common sense to go to the doc and

> try to fix it. I dont see most of the men complianing about pounds

> regianed or whatever- could this be that we women will never be

> happy with anything even when we are happy? My hubby seems to think

> so..LOL.. sorry for the rambling - Also if that person is lurking

> here and reading this post i would like to ask one question now

> becuase i was too p.o the other night to- Who are you to tell me i'm

> going to regain my weight back?Tara

April 12, 2003