Guest guest Posted April 16, 2003 Report Share Posted April 16, 2003 My wife and I had some seriuos problems with our relationship before the wls, and tonight we were really foaming at the mouth over what all couples fight over, MONEY. But is seems while we do love each other we have less and less in common with each other now. And when we fight I STILL run to the fridge and look for comfort. What the hell is wrong with me?? Sorry for the language, I just feel broken. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2003 Report Share Posted April 16, 2003 My wife and I had some seriuos problems with our relationship before the wls, and tonight we were really foaming at the mouth over what all couples fight over, MONEY. But is seems while we do love each other we have less and less in common with each other now. And when we fight I STILL run to the fridge and look for comfort. What the hell is wrong with me?? Sorry for the language, I just feel broken. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2003 Report Share Posted April 16, 2003 In a message dated 4/17/2003 12:35:06 AM Eastern Standard Time, brzezinski4@... writes: > But is seems while we do love each > other we have less and less in common with each other now My 2 cents, in a mature marriage, people are not necessarily glued together. There are married people that do everything together but many are marriages are between people with different interests. However, the basics are necessary. My spouse has so many more interests than me. No way would I be a part of his gun club, cigar buddies etc. He definitely hates shopping with the girls. Different political parties. But we are both good, kind, decent people. Our family comes first in our life. He loves my family and I love his. Neither of us is religious. We fight constantly about money. He thinks we still have it and tries to spend like we do. I know we don't. What I am saying is if you love each other and share basic values, you can enjoy your own interests separately. One other thing we do share is this surgery. We had the same surgeon, hospital room, easy recovery. Now he eats nasty stuff and sometimes I do butt in on his choices which cause another fight and him to go to comfort food. Fay Bayuk **300/173 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2003 Report Share Posted April 16, 2003 In a message dated 4/17/2003 12:35:06 AM Eastern Standard Time, brzezinski4@... writes: > But is seems while we do love each > other we have less and less in common with each other now My 2 cents, in a mature marriage, people are not necessarily glued together. There are married people that do everything together but many are marriages are between people with different interests. However, the basics are necessary. My spouse has so many more interests than me. No way would I be a part of his gun club, cigar buddies etc. He definitely hates shopping with the girls. Different political parties. But we are both good, kind, decent people. Our family comes first in our life. He loves my family and I love his. Neither of us is religious. We fight constantly about money. He thinks we still have it and tries to spend like we do. I know we don't. What I am saying is if you love each other and share basic values, you can enjoy your own interests separately. One other thing we do share is this surgery. We had the same surgeon, hospital room, easy recovery. Now he eats nasty stuff and sometimes I do butt in on his choices which cause another fight and him to go to comfort food. Fay Bayuk **300/173 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2003 Report Share Posted April 16, 2003 Well..........whether we like to believe it or not......food IS COMFORT.......I honestly think that it is totally normal, not necessarily " healthy (weight wise) " , but normal to run to food. And think about it......how often do you actually do it??? Is it gonna cause that much damage........if you are stressed to that point that often then ya maybe you outta look into some therapy to help with alternatives.......but, like (I think it was you!!) said......life is too dang short to beat yourself up over every little mishap......ya got ticked/stressed, ya ate some ice cream (or whatever).......let it go, tomorrow is another day. You are not a failure....you are an inspiration......and you will be again in the morning.......your a great guy .....don't read to much into or make to much outta it.......JMHO of course..... P. Fighting with your spouce > My wife and I had some seriuos problems with our relationship before > the wls, and tonight we were really foaming at the mouth over what > all couples fight over, MONEY. But is seems while we do love each > other we have less and less in common with each other now. And when > we fight I STILL run to the fridge and look for comfort. > > What the hell is wrong with me?? > > Sorry for the language, I just feel broken. > > > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2003 Report Share Posted April 16, 2003 Well..........whether we like to believe it or not......food IS COMFORT.......I honestly think that it is totally normal, not necessarily " healthy (weight wise) " , but normal to run to food. And think about it......how often do you actually do it??? Is it gonna cause that much damage........if you are stressed to that point that often then ya maybe you outta look into some therapy to help with alternatives.......but, like (I think it was you!!) said......life is too dang short to beat yourself up over every little mishap......ya got ticked/stressed, ya ate some ice cream (or whatever).......let it go, tomorrow is another day. You are not a failure....you are an inspiration......and you will be again in the morning.......your a great guy .....don't read to much into or make to much outta it.......JMHO of course..... P. Fighting with your spouce > My wife and I had some seriuos problems with our relationship before > the wls, and tonight we were really foaming at the mouth over what > all couples fight over, MONEY. But is seems while we do love each > other we have less and less in common with each other now. And when > we fight I STILL run to the fridge and look for comfort. > > What the hell is wrong with me?? > > Sorry for the language, I just feel broken. > > > > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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