Re: Fighting with your spouse

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In a message dated 4/16/2003 11:34:42 PM Central Daylight Time,

brzezinski4@... writes:

> seems while we do love each other we have less and less in common with each

> other now. And when we fight I STILL run to the fridge and look for

> comfort.

>

> What the hell is wrong with me??

>

> Sorry for the language, I just feel broken.

>

>

> ------------------------------------

My hubby and I have been having less and less in common for 41 years now,

LOL. (Well, not really a laughing matter, but I guess after all this time,

not much else one can do). I have NEVER, in all that time, gotten used to

feeling ok about being broken, either. Popular wisdom has it that if we don't

deal with the issues that drove us to overeat in the first place, we won't be

able to hang onto the weight loss THIS time either. But I know it's hard to

turn around and try to work on issues when you're feeling so hurt and angry.

Have you considered marital counseling? Sometimes it helps to feel that you

have a safe place to express your feelings to your spouse, that you have some

" protection " against getting hit back unfairly-- someone to " referee " the

debate.

Good luck in getting things straightened out. I do understand where you're

at.

Carol A

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In a message dated 4/16/2003 11:34:42 PM Central Daylight Time,

brzezinski4@... writes:

> seems while we do love each other we have less and less in common with each

> other now. And when we fight I STILL run to the fridge and look for

> comfort.

>

> What the hell is wrong with me??

>

> Sorry for the language, I just feel broken.

>

>

> ------------------------------------

My hubby and I have been having less and less in common for 41 years now,

LOL. (Well, not really a laughing matter, but I guess after all this time,

not much else one can do). I have NEVER, in all that time, gotten used to

feeling ok about being broken, either. Popular wisdom has it that if we don't

deal with the issues that drove us to overeat in the first place, we won't be

able to hang onto the weight loss THIS time either. But I know it's hard to

turn around and try to work on issues when you're feeling so hurt and angry.

Have you considered marital counseling? Sometimes it helps to feel that you

have a safe place to express your feelings to your spouse, that you have some

" protection " against getting hit back unfairly-- someone to " referee " the

debate.

Good luck in getting things straightened out. I do understand where you're

at.

Carol A

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Hi ,

DH and I have just come through the most trying time in all of our marriage.

I wanted to eat as well - all the time. I am doing better because our

outlook is getting better. We all have rough times. I am trying to find

other coping mechanisims. Hang in there...

Marjie

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Hi ,

DH and I have just come through the most trying time in all of our marriage.

I wanted to eat as well - all the time. I am doing better because our

outlook is getting better. We all have rough times. I am trying to find

other coping mechanisims. Hang in there...

Marjie

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