Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 , If it's any help 2u, I have been going to therapy on & off for over 20 years, even did a 6-week stint " in-patient " for my food addiction. Nothing has ever " cured " me. I still have my good and bad days. Have always felt hungry, even immediately after surgery. No idea if I have a pouch, doc says so, but if I do, it does nothing to restrict my consumption. And there's hardly anything that will make me sick. So I am STILL always on a " diet. " Still always feel deprived. And of course the deprivation syndrome makes me want to overeat. BUT, even tho my weight loss has stopped, I at least am managing to hold the line, which I've never been able to do b4. Even if you never lose another ounce, u are still healthier than u were b4 the surgery. Don't give up. And know there are lots of us out here in the same boat. I do so envy those who just lose the weight, go down and stay down and never seem to have much trouble getting or staying there. When I read about the gals who take " 3 bites " and they can't eat another morsel, I am really jealous. But we have to work with what we've got, I guess, and for me, that means depending solely on the malabsorption part of the surgery, and white-knuckling all the rest. Carol A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 , If it's any help 2u, I have been going to therapy on & off for over 20 years, even did a 6-week stint " in-patient " for my food addiction. Nothing has ever " cured " me. I still have my good and bad days. Have always felt hungry, even immediately after surgery. No idea if I have a pouch, doc says so, but if I do, it does nothing to restrict my consumption. And there's hardly anything that will make me sick. So I am STILL always on a " diet. " Still always feel deprived. And of course the deprivation syndrome makes me want to overeat. BUT, even tho my weight loss has stopped, I at least am managing to hold the line, which I've never been able to do b4. Even if you never lose another ounce, u are still healthier than u were b4 the surgery. Don't give up. And know there are lots of us out here in the same boat. I do so envy those who just lose the weight, go down and stay down and never seem to have much trouble getting or staying there. When I read about the gals who take " 3 bites " and they can't eat another morsel, I am really jealous. But we have to work with what we've got, I guess, and for me, that means depending solely on the malabsorption part of the surgery, and white-knuckling all the rest. Carol A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 In a message dated 4/18/2003 11:49:47 AM Central Daylight Time, morind@... writes: > I never grew out of fighting that external control, or, as he put it, the > " shoulds " . ------------------------------------- Mine tells me I gotta stop " shoulding " on myself (rhymes with shidding, which almost rhymes with sh--ting--u get the idea)..................... My mother was, and still is (at nearly 90 yrs of age), a master at somehow making me feel " I should, " " I ought to, " " I should not, " " I ought not " etc. I have the most overdevelped guilt complex of anyone I know. Carol A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 In a message dated 4/18/2003 11:49:47 AM Central Daylight Time, morind@... writes: > I never grew out of fighting that external control, or, as he put it, the > " shoulds " . ------------------------------------- Mine tells me I gotta stop " shoulding " on myself (rhymes with shidding, which almost rhymes with sh--ting--u get the idea)..................... My mother was, and still is (at nearly 90 yrs of age), a master at somehow making me feel " I should, " " I ought to, " " I should not, " " I ought not " etc. I have the most overdevelped guilt complex of anyone I know. Carol A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 In a message dated 4/18/2003 11:54:38 AM Central Daylight Time, nanpug@... writes: > .......how else will I " control " and not return to 250 lbs ?? I am so > confused and discouraged > ------------------------------------- > > First of all, be glad you're not 250 lbs. After losing 115 myself, I am > only about 30 lbs away from 250. It's all relative, I know. But some of us > started out having a lot further to go. > > Focus on what you have accomplished, and not what you still need to do. Set > a routine you can follow that will become second nature and so you won't > have to really " think " about the food. Don't allow unscheduled or > undirected time to invade your schedule. By that, I do NOT mean u shouldn't > have time for enjoying whatever activities you enjoy or for meditation, > etc. Just that they should have a certain place in your daily routine. I > find I do much better when I have a plan and follow the plan to the letter. > > > And ask your therapist to help you develop some exercises or " homework " for > dealing with and eliminating the obsession. > > I'm with you in your struggle, > > Carol A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 In a message dated 4/18/2003 11:54:38 AM Central Daylight Time, nanpug@... writes: > .......how else will I " control " and not return to 250 lbs ?? I am so > confused and discouraged > ------------------------------------- > > First of all, be glad you're not 250 lbs. After losing 115 myself, I am > only about 30 lbs away from 250. It's all relative, I know. But some of us > started out having a lot further to go. > > Focus on what you have accomplished, and not what you still need to do. Set > a routine you can follow that will become second nature and so you won't > have to really " think " about the food. Don't allow unscheduled or > undirected time to invade your schedule. By that, I do NOT mean u shouldn't > have time for enjoying whatever activities you enjoy or for meditation, > etc. Just that they should have a certain place in your daily routine. I > find I do much better when I have a plan and follow the plan to the letter. > > > And ask your therapist to help you develop some exercises or " homework " for > dealing with and eliminating the obsession. > > I'm with you in your struggle, > > Carol A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 Oh Carol.....your post both depresses me and gives me hope. My mind has been reeling since yesterday when my therapist dumped it on me that I have an eating disorder!! I have to admit that at first I was very confused......I don't binge, purge, (or use laxatives), I don't overeat, I don't starve........BUT, I do obsess.....morning, noon and night. So the diagnose is making a little more sense to me!! But my concern is this........WHAT is the cure........my " nature " is to obsess....I obsess about everything. I honestly don't believe that I could ever come to a relationship with food that I don't think about it in one way or another. I feel as though I HAVE to.......how else will I " control " and not return to 250 lbs ?? I am so confused and discouraged ......... P. Re: My Mantra > , > > If it's any help 2u, I have been going to therapy on & off for over 20 years, > even did a 6-week stint " in-patient " for my food addiction. Nothing has ever > " cured " me. I still have my good and bad days. Have always felt hungry, even > immediately after surgery. No idea if I have a pouch, doc says so, but if I > do, it does nothing to restrict my consumption. And there's hardly anything > that will make me sick. So I am STILL always on a " diet. " Still always feel > deprived. And of course the deprivation syndrome makes me want to overeat. > BUT, even tho my weight loss has stopped, I at least am managing to hold the > line, which I've never been able to do b4. Even if you never lose another > ounce, u are still healthier than u were b4 the surgery. Don't give up. And > know there are lots of us out here in the same boat. I do so envy those who > just lose the weight, go down and stay down and never seem to have much > trouble getting or staying there. When I read about the gals who take " 3 > bites " and they can't eat another morsel, I am really jealous. But we have to > work with what we've got, I guess, and for me, that means depending solely on > the malabsorption part of the surgery, and white-knuckling all the rest. > > Carol A > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 Oh Carol.....your post both depresses me and gives me hope. My mind has been reeling since yesterday when my therapist dumped it on me that I have an eating disorder!! I have to admit that at first I was very confused......I don't binge, purge, (or use laxatives), I don't overeat, I don't starve........BUT, I do obsess.....morning, noon and night. So the diagnose is making a little more sense to me!! But my concern is this........WHAT is the cure........my " nature " is to obsess....I obsess about everything. I honestly don't believe that I could ever come to a relationship with food that I don't think about it in one way or another. I feel as though I HAVE to.......how else will I " control " and not return to 250 lbs ?? I am so confused and discouraged ......... P. Re: My Mantra > , > > If it's any help 2u, I have been going to therapy on & off for over 20 years, > even did a 6-week stint " in-patient " for my food addiction. Nothing has ever > " cured " me. I still have my good and bad days. Have always felt hungry, even > immediately after surgery. No idea if I have a pouch, doc says so, but if I > do, it does nothing to restrict my consumption. And there's hardly anything > that will make me sick. So I am STILL always on a " diet. " Still always feel > deprived. And of course the deprivation syndrome makes me want to overeat. > BUT, even tho my weight loss has stopped, I at least am managing to hold the > line, which I've never been able to do b4. Even if you never lose another > ounce, u are still healthier than u were b4 the surgery. Don't give up. And > know there are lots of us out here in the same boat. I do so envy those who > just lose the weight, go down and stay down and never seem to have much > trouble getting or staying there. When I read about the gals who take " 3 > bites " and they can't eat another morsel, I am really jealous. But we have to > work with what we've got, I guess, and for me, that means depending solely on > the malabsorption part of the surgery, and white-knuckling all the rest. > > Carol A > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 In a message dated 4/18/2003 11:58:20 AM Eastern Standard Time, tuesdynite writes: > I gotta stop " shoulding " on myself or Don't Should on me and I won't should on you. Fay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2003 Report Share Posted April 18, 2003 In a message dated 4/18/2003 11:58:20 AM Eastern Standard Time, tuesdynite writes: > I gotta stop " shoulding " on myself or Don't Should on me and I won't should on you. Fay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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