Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 Ok, one more little experience. For the past year I have been taking salsa dance classes - LOVE IT!! Something that I would never have done before. Anyway there is a group of us that have been taking classes together for the whole year, so we have developed friendships. About a month ago, I found out that one of the guys in this group is a doc (single, handsome, tall and dark). What was my first thought??? Nope, I wanted to talk to him about wls! Only one other person in the school even knows that I have had wls (hmm, they know me as I am noe), so this was a big thing. He and I were talking during one of the breaks and I asked him what type of med he practiced. I told him first that 1) not trying to " hit on you " 2) not asking for medical advise 3) just had a question....well, turns out he specializes in geriatrics. But he asked me why I wondered, so I told him about the wls, said that if anyone had questions about it, I would be happy to share my experiences, etc. He was pretty amazed, started asking ME questions about it - how it's done, how much I lost, etc. BUT....when I asked him if he wanted to see a pic of me then he said no. He then went on to say that he knows me now, not then. Go figure. Honestly it kind of hurt because that person was/is a part of who I am today. Oh well, guess it's his loss. Still a great dancing partner! April Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 Ok, one more little experience. For the past year I have been taking salsa dance classes - LOVE IT!! Something that I would never have done before. Anyway there is a group of us that have been taking classes together for the whole year, so we have developed friendships. About a month ago, I found out that one of the guys in this group is a doc (single, handsome, tall and dark). What was my first thought??? Nope, I wanted to talk to him about wls! Only one other person in the school even knows that I have had wls (hmm, they know me as I am noe), so this was a big thing. He and I were talking during one of the breaks and I asked him what type of med he practiced. I told him first that 1) not trying to " hit on you " 2) not asking for medical advise 3) just had a question....well, turns out he specializes in geriatrics. But he asked me why I wondered, so I told him about the wls, said that if anyone had questions about it, I would be happy to share my experiences, etc. He was pretty amazed, started asking ME questions about it - how it's done, how much I lost, etc. BUT....when I asked him if he wanted to see a pic of me then he said no. He then went on to say that he knows me now, not then. Go figure. Honestly it kind of hurt because that person was/is a part of who I am today. Oh well, guess it's his loss. Still a great dancing partner! April Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 BUT....when I asked him if he wanted to see a pic > of me then he said no. He then went on to say that he knows me now, > not then. Go figure. Honestly it kind of hurt because that person > was/is a part of who I am today. Oh well, guess it's his loss. > Still a great dancing partner! > Well April.........I am not sure if this is good or not......but I think that I would have taken this as a sign that he is interested in you........hmmm, not really sure if it IS good....I can see where you would be hurt.....wonder if he thought about it again afterwards......I am really intrigued now.....you will have to let us know if anything else ever comes of this.........what would you do now if he did ask you out?? just curious!! P. single/reactions/Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 BUT....when I asked him if he wanted to see a pic > of me then he said no. He then went on to say that he knows me now, > not then. Go figure. Honestly it kind of hurt because that person > was/is a part of who I am today. Oh well, guess it's his loss. > Still a great dancing partner! > Well April.........I am not sure if this is good or not......but I think that I would have taken this as a sign that he is interested in you........hmmm, not really sure if it IS good....I can see where you would be hurt.....wonder if he thought about it again afterwards......I am really intrigued now.....you will have to let us know if anything else ever comes of this.........what would you do now if he did ask you out?? just curious!! P. single/reactions/Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 I would go - I know he did not mean anything bad by it, just being honest. April --- nancy pugliese wrote: > what would you do now if he did > ask you out?? just > curious!! P. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 I would go - I know he did not mean anything bad by it, just being honest. April --- nancy pugliese wrote: > what would you do now if he did > ask you out?? just > curious!! P. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 Judy, Well, I'm not worrying about anything else happening with this person. I have not 1 time in the past year thought of him as anything other than a friend/dancing partner. We go to the same dance school and classes thats it. But your right did hit the nail on the head - there are SOOO many changes that happen during & after wls. The way I figure it - I have kissed way to many frogs in my short life - don't want to get any more warts. When the right one comes, I'll know it and until then - well the frogs will need to find another princess - I'll hang out for the pea. April Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 Judy, Well, I'm not worrying about anything else happening with this person. I have not 1 time in the past year thought of him as anything other than a friend/dancing partner. We go to the same dance school and classes thats it. But your right did hit the nail on the head - there are SOOO many changes that happen during & after wls. The way I figure it - I have kissed way to many frogs in my short life - don't want to get any more warts. When the right one comes, I'll know it and until then - well the frogs will need to find another princess - I'll hang out for the pea. April Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 I'm married, but share many of these feelings. I recently had a male friend refuse to look at my before pictures. He told me he liked the way I look now, and didn't want to see me any other way. Funny, it didn't hurt my feelings, in fact, I sort of respect the fact that he doesn't want to, hmmmm, how do I say this and really come across with what I mean? I AM who I am now...and am not really my body. I guess I am just respecting his different feelings....I think it would hurt him to see me in that kind of pain. He is a DEAR friend. Guess I might feel differently if I felt a person disrespected the MO. But I know that's not where he's coming from...I wouldn't want to see a picture of him in pain, anymore than he would want to see one of me. So...you just have to pick and choose who you show those " before pictures " to. Regards~ Jacque Distal RNY, 5/30/00 Drs. Fox and Oh 310~126 Beginning BMI 50.0 Current BMI 20.3 > . BUT....when I asked him if he wanted to see a pic > of me then he said no. He then went on to say that he knows me now, > not then. Go figure. Honestly it kind of hurt because that person > was/is a part of who I am today. Oh well, guess it's his loss. > Still a great dancing partner! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 I'm married, but share many of these feelings. I recently had a male friend refuse to look at my before pictures. He told me he liked the way I look now, and didn't want to see me any other way. Funny, it didn't hurt my feelings, in fact, I sort of respect the fact that he doesn't want to, hmmmm, how do I say this and really come across with what I mean? I AM who I am now...and am not really my body. I guess I am just respecting his different feelings....I think it would hurt him to see me in that kind of pain. He is a DEAR friend. Guess I might feel differently if I felt a person disrespected the MO. But I know that's not where he's coming from...I wouldn't want to see a picture of him in pain, anymore than he would want to see one of me. So...you just have to pick and choose who you show those " before pictures " to. Regards~ Jacque Distal RNY, 5/30/00 Drs. Fox and Oh 310~126 Beginning BMI 50.0 Current BMI 20.3 > . BUT....when I asked him if he wanted to see a pic > of me then he said no. He then went on to say that he knows me now, > not then. Go figure. Honestly it kind of hurt because that person > was/is a part of who I am today. Oh well, guess it's his loss. > Still a great dancing partner! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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