Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 In a message dated 4/25/03 5:43:58 AM, Graduate-OSSG writes: << I, too, never married, partly because I wasted my younger years, when there were more single men around, on bums, but that's OK. >> Dear -- Boy, can I relate. Bravo to you for such a stellar attitude. I must say, however, that it's my observation that you've not " wasted " anything. I think we would not be where we are today without the knowledge of all those " wasted " years. My best to you. Bobbie Anchorage Open Proximal RNY 5-11-01 Panniculectomy 2-14-03 Then: 314 Now: 185.5 In a message dated 4/25/03 5:43:58 AM, Graduate-OSSG writes: << I, too, never married, partly because I wasted my younger years, when there were more single men around, on bums, but that's OK. >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 In a message dated 4/25/03 5:43:58 AM, Graduate-OSSG writes: << I, too, never married, partly because I wasted my younger years, when there were more single men around, on bums, but that's OK. >> Dear -- Boy, can I relate. Bravo to you for such a stellar attitude. I must say, however, that it's my observation that you've not " wasted " anything. I think we would not be where we are today without the knowledge of all those " wasted " years. My best to you. Bobbie Anchorage Open Proximal RNY 5-11-01 Panniculectomy 2-14-03 Then: 314 Now: 185.5 In a message dated 4/25/03 5:43:58 AM, Graduate-OSSG writes: << I, too, never married, partly because I wasted my younger years, when there were more single men around, on bums, but that's OK. >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 Hi Thanks for your suggestions about handling this issue. As far as hiding the fact of my surgery, for me, the more accepting I get of my new body, the less willing I am to tell people I have just met about my surgery. I used to love to show off my " fat " pictures, but now, I don't do that unless I am asked. This is partly because I found that when I talked about my surgery a lot, I think sometimes people would think of me as " that woman who had the weight loss surgery. " and I started to think of myself that way. There is nothing wrong with that, it just distracted me from claiming my place in the " thin " world; from getting used to my new body. I recently took a series of gardening classes. As an experiment, I didn't talk about my surgery at all. It was really fun for me to pretend that I had always been that way. It helped me to accept that I actually am a thin person, no matter what I was in the past. If I get to know someone well, and want to continue on with a friendship, then of course I tell them about the surgery, but I just don't want to be defined by that from the beginning. BarbaraJean distal 1994 from 300 to 128 Don't try to hide the fact of your surgery. That is part of you too. Beside the physical issues, it says a lot about how you make decisions about your life and people that get close to you should be able to understand and admire you for doing a smart, hard, risky thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 Hi Thanks for your suggestions about handling this issue. As far as hiding the fact of my surgery, for me, the more accepting I get of my new body, the less willing I am to tell people I have just met about my surgery. I used to love to show off my " fat " pictures, but now, I don't do that unless I am asked. This is partly because I found that when I talked about my surgery a lot, I think sometimes people would think of me as " that woman who had the weight loss surgery. " and I started to think of myself that way. There is nothing wrong with that, it just distracted me from claiming my place in the " thin " world; from getting used to my new body. I recently took a series of gardening classes. As an experiment, I didn't talk about my surgery at all. It was really fun for me to pretend that I had always been that way. It helped me to accept that I actually am a thin person, no matter what I was in the past. If I get to know someone well, and want to continue on with a friendship, then of course I tell them about the surgery, but I just don't want to be defined by that from the beginning. BarbaraJean distal 1994 from 300 to 128 Don't try to hide the fact of your surgery. That is part of you too. Beside the physical issues, it says a lot about how you make decisions about your life and people that get close to you should be able to understand and admire you for doing a smart, hard, risky thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 Hi Sondra, In some ways i wish i could say that i relate. Truth is I can't. I had surgery 22 months ago. I started at 313. I have lost 105 pounds and still have another 70 or so to go( 26/28 to 16/18) Not tiny by any means. I haven't had a date in the past 3+ years. I don't get anymore attention now then when i was 313 and invisable. I wish you the best of luck in your journey. Take care Serenity Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 Hi Sondra, In some ways i wish i could say that i relate. Truth is I can't. I had surgery 22 months ago. I started at 313. I have lost 105 pounds and still have another 70 or so to go( 26/28 to 16/18) Not tiny by any means. I haven't had a date in the past 3+ years. I don't get anymore attention now then when i was 313 and invisable. I wish you the best of luck in your journey. Take care Serenity Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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