Rude relatives aka how FAT I was

[Guest guest]

Help! Something happened this weekend that really hurt my feelings,

but for the sake of family unity, I kept my mouth shut, but it is

BUGGING me. Can I vent here? My sister-in-law had a few drinks (I

assume that's what loosened her lips) and started going on and on

about how fat I use to be. She started out by telling me how great I

looked now and how much happier I seemed, which was a nice thing, but

goes on to tell me " I couldn't even talk to you 'before', but now I

can talk to you. You're so much prettier now " . BTW, I noticed that

she didn't seem too fond of me in the past, and I guess it was the

weight thing all along. Anyway, she starts telling me about a " fat "

lady (her words) that lives on her street and all the mean things

people say about her, but followed it up with " but at least you

always kept yourself looking nice " . She talked about a " fat " girl in

her daughter's class, and how her daughter yelled at her because she

would make comments about her. It just went on and on. The gist of

it was (at least this is my interpretation), that she could be all

friendly w/ me now that I wasn't " fat " anymore (btw, she's " normal "

sized... although I'm actually a bit smaller than her these days). I

felt like I should defend myself, but I just sat there w/ my mouth

hanging open. She thought she was complimenting me I suppose, but it

was sooo offensive. Has anyone had this happen? I feel like I let

myself down by not speaking up, but kept quiet to keep the peace. Am

I being overly sensitive? Has this ever happened to you?

Thanks for the input,

[Guest guest]

Help! Something happened this weekend that really hurt my feelings,

but for the sake of family unity, I kept my mouth shut, but it is

BUGGING me. Can I vent here? My sister-in-law had a few drinks (I

assume that's what loosened her lips) and started going on and on

about how fat I use to be. She started out by telling me how great I

looked now and how much happier I seemed, which was a nice thing, but

goes on to tell me " I couldn't even talk to you 'before', but now I

can talk to you. You're so much prettier now " . BTW, I noticed that

she didn't seem too fond of me in the past, and I guess it was the

weight thing all along. Anyway, she starts telling me about a " fat "

lady (her words) that lives on her street and all the mean things

people say about her, but followed it up with " but at least you

always kept yourself looking nice " . She talked about a " fat " girl in

her daughter's class, and how her daughter yelled at her because she

would make comments about her. It just went on and on. The gist of

it was (at least this is my interpretation), that she could be all

friendly w/ me now that I wasn't " fat " anymore (btw, she's " normal "

sized... although I'm actually a bit smaller than her these days). I

felt like I should defend myself, but I just sat there w/ my mouth

hanging open. She thought she was complimenting me I suppose, but it

was sooo offensive. Has anyone had this happen? I feel like I let

myself down by not speaking up, but kept quiet to keep the peace. Am

I being overly sensitive? Has this ever happened to you?

Thanks for the input,

[Guest guest]

Hey ,

No, you're not being sensitive. This woman was (as we say in the South)

really showing her a$$. Talk about rude and hostile! It's probably got her

goat that you're smaller than her--sounds like she's got some serious sizism

issues.

You took the high road instead of taking her bait--you should be proud of

that. Anyone else who witnessed her little diatribe knows good and well what

was going on.

Ya know, sometimes living well truly is the best revenge. I'd say this was

one of those times.

Kimba (*:

Rude relatives aka " how FAT I was "

Help! Something happened this weekend that really hurt my feelings,

but for the sake of family unity, I kept my mouth shut, but it is

BUGGING me. Can I vent here? My sister-in-law had a few drinks (I

assume that's what loosened her lips) and started going on and on

about how fat I use to be. She started out by telling me how great I

looked now and how much happier I seemed, which was a nice thing, but

goes on to tell me " I couldn't even talk to you 'before', but now I

can talk to you. You're so much prettier now " . BTW, I noticed that

she didn't seem too fond of me in the past, and I guess it was the

weight thing all along. Anyway, she starts telling me about a " fat "

lady (her words) that lives on her street and all the mean things

people say about her, but followed it up with " but at least you

always kept yourself looking nice " . She talked about a " fat " girl in

her daughter's class, and how her daughter yelled at her because she

would make comments about her. It just went on and on. The gist of

it was (at least this is my interpretation), that she could be all

friendly w/ me now that I wasn't " fat " anymore (btw, she's " normal "

sized... although I'm actually a bit smaller than her these days). I

felt like I should defend myself, but I just sat there w/ my mouth

hanging open. She thought she was complimenting me I suppose, but it

was sooo offensive. Has anyone had this happen? I feel like I let

myself down by not speaking up, but kept quiet to keep the peace. Am

I being overly sensitive? Has this ever happened to you?

Thanks for the input,

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[Guest guest]

Hey ,

No, you're not being sensitive. This woman was (as we say in the South)

really showing her a$$. Talk about rude and hostile! It's probably got her

goat that you're smaller than her--sounds like she's got some serious sizism

issues.

You took the high road instead of taking her bait--you should be proud of

that. Anyone else who witnessed her little diatribe knows good and well what

was going on.

Ya know, sometimes living well truly is the best revenge. I'd say this was

one of those times.

Kimba (*:

Rude relatives aka " how FAT I was "

Help! Something happened this weekend that really hurt my feelings,

but for the sake of family unity, I kept my mouth shut, but it is

BUGGING me. Can I vent here? My sister-in-law had a few drinks (I

assume that's what loosened her lips) and started going on and on

about how fat I use to be. She started out by telling me how great I

looked now and how much happier I seemed, which was a nice thing, but

goes on to tell me " I couldn't even talk to you 'before', but now I

can talk to you. You're so much prettier now " . BTW, I noticed that

she didn't seem too fond of me in the past, and I guess it was the

weight thing all along. Anyway, she starts telling me about a " fat "

lady (her words) that lives on her street and all the mean things

people say about her, but followed it up with " but at least you

always kept yourself looking nice " . She talked about a " fat " girl in

her daughter's class, and how her daughter yelled at her because she

would make comments about her. It just went on and on. The gist of

it was (at least this is my interpretation), that she could be all

friendly w/ me now that I wasn't " fat " anymore (btw, she's " normal "

sized... although I'm actually a bit smaller than her these days). I

felt like I should defend myself, but I just sat there w/ my mouth

hanging open. She thought she was complimenting me I suppose, but it

was sooo offensive. Has anyone had this happen? I feel like I let

myself down by not speaking up, but kept quiet to keep the peace. Am

I being overly sensitive? Has this ever happened to you?

Thanks for the input,

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One word:

IGNORANT

> Help! Something happened this weekend that really hurt my

feelings,

> but for the sake of family unity, I kept my mouth shut, but it is

> BUGGING me. Can I vent here? My sister-in-law had a few drinks (I

> assume that's what loosened her lips) and started going on and on

> about how fat I use to be. She started out by telling me how great

I

> looked now and how much happier I seemed, which was a nice thing,

but

> goes on to tell me " I couldn't even talk to you 'before', but now I

> can talk to you. You're so much prettier now " . BTW, I noticed

that

> she didn't seem too fond of me in the past, and I guess it was the

> weight thing all along. Anyway, she starts telling me about

a " fat "

> lady (her words) that lives on her street and all the mean things

> people say about her, but followed it up with " but at least you

> always kept yourself looking nice " . She talked about a " fat " girl

in

> her daughter's class, and how her daughter yelled at her because

she

> would make comments about her. It just went on and on. The gist

of

> it was (at least this is my interpretation), that she could be all

> friendly w/ me now that I wasn't " fat " anymore (btw, she's " normal "

> sized... although I'm actually a bit smaller than her these days).

I

> felt like I should defend myself, but I just sat there w/ my mouth

> hanging open. She thought she was complimenting me I suppose, but

it

> was sooo offensive. Has anyone had this happen? I feel like I let

> myself down by not speaking up, but kept quiet to keep the peace.

Am

> I being overly sensitive? Has this ever happened to you?

>

> Thanks for the input,

>

>

[Guest guest]

One word:

IGNORANT

> Help! Something happened this weekend that really hurt my

feelings,

> but for the sake of family unity, I kept my mouth shut, but it is

> BUGGING me. Can I vent here? My sister-in-law had a few drinks (I

> assume that's what loosened her lips) and started going on and on

> about how fat I use to be. She started out by telling me how great

I

> looked now and how much happier I seemed, which was a nice thing,

but

> goes on to tell me " I couldn't even talk to you 'before', but now I

> can talk to you. You're so much prettier now " . BTW, I noticed

that

> she didn't seem too fond of me in the past, and I guess it was the

> weight thing all along. Anyway, she starts telling me about

a " fat "

> lady (her words) that lives on her street and all the mean things

> people say about her, but followed it up with " but at least you

> always kept yourself looking nice " . She talked about a " fat " girl

in

> her daughter's class, and how her daughter yelled at her because

she

> would make comments about her. It just went on and on. The gist

of

> it was (at least this is my interpretation), that she could be all

> friendly w/ me now that I wasn't " fat " anymore (btw, she's " normal "

> sized... although I'm actually a bit smaller than her these days).

I

> felt like I should defend myself, but I just sat there w/ my mouth

> hanging open. She thought she was complimenting me I suppose, but

it

> was sooo offensive. Has anyone had this happen? I feel like I let

> myself down by not speaking up, but kept quiet to keep the peace.

Am

> I being overly sensitive? Has this ever happened to you?

>

> Thanks for the input,

>

>

[Guest guest]

Take someone like you s-i-l add alcohol = raving jacka**. Sorry to use such

language but no other words fits.

> Help! Something happened this weekend that really hurt my feelings,

> but for the sake of family unity, I kept my mouth shut, but it is

> BUGGING me. Can I vent here? My sister-in-law had a few drinks (I

> assume that's what loosened her lips) and started going on and on

> about how fat I use to be. She started out by telling me how great I

> looked now and how much happier I seemed, which was a nice thing, but

> goes on to tell me " I couldn't even talk to you 'before', but now I

> can talk to you. You're so much prettier now " . BTW, I noticed that

> she didn't seem too fond of me in the past, and I guess it was the

> weight thing all along. Anyway, she starts telling me about a " fat "

> lady (her words) that lives on her street and all the mean things

> people say about her, but followed it up with " but at least you

> always kept yourself looking nice " . She talked about a " fat " girl in

> her daughter's class, and how her daughter yelled at her because she

> would make comments about her. It just went on and on. The gist of

> it was (at least this is my interpretation), that she could be all

> friendly w/ me now that I wasn't " fat " anymore (btw, she's " normal "

> sized... although I'm actually a bit smaller than her these days). I

> felt like I should defend myself, but I just sat there w/ my mouth

> hanging open. She thought she was complimenting me I suppose, but it

> was sooo offensive. Has anyone had this happen? I feel like I let

> myself down by not speaking up, but kept quiet to keep the peace. Am

> I being overly sensitive? Has this ever happened to you?

>

> Thanks for the input,

>

>

[Guest guest]

Take someone like you s-i-l add alcohol = raving jacka**. Sorry to use such

language but no other words fits.

> Help! Something happened this weekend that really hurt my feelings,

> but for the sake of family unity, I kept my mouth shut, but it is

> BUGGING me. Can I vent here? My sister-in-law had a few drinks (I

> assume that's what loosened her lips) and started going on and on

> about how fat I use to be. She started out by telling me how great I

> looked now and how much happier I seemed, which was a nice thing, but

> goes on to tell me " I couldn't even talk to you 'before', but now I

> can talk to you. You're so much prettier now " . BTW, I noticed that

> she didn't seem too fond of me in the past, and I guess it was the

> weight thing all along. Anyway, she starts telling me about a " fat "

> lady (her words) that lives on her street and all the mean things

> people say about her, but followed it up with " but at least you

> always kept yourself looking nice " . She talked about a " fat " girl in

> her daughter's class, and how her daughter yelled at her because she

> would make comments about her. It just went on and on. The gist of

> it was (at least this is my interpretation), that she could be all

> friendly w/ me now that I wasn't " fat " anymore (btw, she's " normal "

> sized... although I'm actually a bit smaller than her these days). I

> felt like I should defend myself, but I just sat there w/ my mouth

> hanging open. She thought she was complimenting me I suppose, but it

> was sooo offensive. Has anyone had this happen? I feel like I let

> myself down by not speaking up, but kept quiet to keep the peace. Am

> I being overly sensitive? Has this ever happened to you?

>

> Thanks for the input,

>

>