RE: WHERE DO US MOM'S SLEEP?

[Guest guest]

Most hospitals have a sleep chair, it unfolds, they give u linens and a

pillow

WHERE DO US MOM'S SLEEP?

HI

MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY BE A

DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

MARY

PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR THAT

MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

Most hospitals have a sleep chair, it unfolds, they give u linens and a

pillow

WHERE DO US MOM'S SLEEP?

HI

MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY BE A

DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

MARY

PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR THAT

MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

A camping chair may be an EXCELLENT idea...wish I would have thought

of that.

I was in ICU 2 nights, night one, no one said BOO about my mom

staying, and I am much older than 19...idea here is though, no matter

how diligent the RNs, a moment can pass when you are in serious need

and with out the ability to speak and move comfortably say to reach

the button and write it all down, I thought the mom-factor was a

must...she asked early on and I never fought.

she slept in a tall stiff non-reclining chair and looked awefully

uncomfortable (whe would have slept on the floor if she had to but I

felt bad to see her squished). Next night, my fiance was planning on

staying and they tried to kick him out and my surgen had a convo with

the head of nursing and won him the right to stay with me, but he had

to promise for other ICU patients privacy to stay in my room all nt,

especially if " something was going on with another patient " and so he

did, but he looked like a bendy-straw bent the wrong way... "

From home, something to write on and markers are easier to see then

pen...or wip-off board...maybe a cd/m3p or such to sleep with and get

away from the beeping machines, a book maybe, the stay is so just

step by step to getting home, it matters more when you get home, like

one thing, is something to hold...play with or pet or what not...like

a pet (if you have a calm one) or a blanket that you can't help but

rub between your fingers, heck even a rubber band

works!....sounds 'kookie' I know, but when you're in a moment

of " this will never pass " -and they happen once in a while, that

something to distract you and give you a sense of serene pleasure,

VERY helpful...I would pet my cat or I have this blanket and on the

ends is a finishing ribbon of sorts that feels rough when you smush

one way and smooth the other, just kept your brain busy on nothing

while you try and focus on something else.

Just remember, she CAN do this and so can you...but this isn't easy

on the non-patient either, so make a schedule with someone -may it be

family or friend for YOU time once she is home. Even for an

hour...get out of the house and do something else, where you don't

have to rush home or think soley about her situation. It will do tons

for you both.

Good luck and happy holidays...oh and tell her no fears, anything you

would eat normally for the holidays CAN BE made into a slushy-tasty-

blended treat in seconds!!! JO

<mdbaron101@m...> wrote:

>

> HI

> MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY BE A

> DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

> IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

> SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

> MARY

> PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR THAT

> MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

A camping chair may be an EXCELLENT idea...wish I would have thought

of that.

I was in ICU 2 nights, night one, no one said BOO about my mom

staying, and I am much older than 19...idea here is though, no matter

how diligent the RNs, a moment can pass when you are in serious need

and with out the ability to speak and move comfortably say to reach

the button and write it all down, I thought the mom-factor was a

must...she asked early on and I never fought.

she slept in a tall stiff non-reclining chair and looked awefully

uncomfortable (whe would have slept on the floor if she had to but I

felt bad to see her squished). Next night, my fiance was planning on

staying and they tried to kick him out and my surgen had a convo with

the head of nursing and won him the right to stay with me, but he had

to promise for other ICU patients privacy to stay in my room all nt,

especially if " something was going on with another patient " and so he

did, but he looked like a bendy-straw bent the wrong way... "

From home, something to write on and markers are easier to see then

pen...or wip-off board...maybe a cd/m3p or such to sleep with and get

away from the beeping machines, a book maybe, the stay is so just

step by step to getting home, it matters more when you get home, like

one thing, is something to hold...play with or pet or what not...like

a pet (if you have a calm one) or a blanket that you can't help but

rub between your fingers, heck even a rubber band

works!....sounds 'kookie' I know, but when you're in a moment

of " this will never pass " -and they happen once in a while, that

something to distract you and give you a sense of serene pleasure,

VERY helpful...I would pet my cat or I have this blanket and on the

ends is a finishing ribbon of sorts that feels rough when you smush

one way and smooth the other, just kept your brain busy on nothing

while you try and focus on something else.

Just remember, she CAN do this and so can you...but this isn't easy

on the non-patient either, so make a schedule with someone -may it be

family or friend for YOU time once she is home. Even for an

hour...get out of the house and do something else, where you don't

have to rush home or think soley about her situation. It will do tons

for you both.

Good luck and happy holidays...oh and tell her no fears, anything you

would eat normally for the holidays CAN BE made into a slushy-tasty-

blended treat in seconds!!! JO

<mdbaron101@m...> wrote:

>

> HI

> MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY BE A

> DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

> IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

> SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

> MARY

> PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR THAT

> MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

It's also been my experience that how much access you get in icu

units depends at least in part on how quickly you can persuade the

nurses that, while you're not a nurse, you can relieve them of some

of the " smaller " chores that can be very important to a patient.

Getting ice, helping with feeding, keeping the bed arranged as the

patient wants it. Also, if they know that you're not gonna pitch a

fit or have screaming hysterics.

They usually have begun by running me off like clockwork -- and then

they figure out that I'm reasonable reliable and know how to be

helpful.

C.

> >

> > HI

> > MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY BE

A

> > DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

> > IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

> > SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

> > MARY

> > PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR THAT

> > MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

It's also been my experience that how much access you get in icu

units depends at least in part on how quickly you can persuade the

nurses that, while you're not a nurse, you can relieve them of some

of the " smaller " chores that can be very important to a patient.

Getting ice, helping with feeding, keeping the bed arranged as the

patient wants it. Also, if they know that you're not gonna pitch a

fit or have screaming hysterics.

They usually have begun by running me off like clockwork -- and then

they figure out that I'm reasonable reliable and know how to be

helpful.

C.

> >

> > HI

> > MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY BE

A

> > DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

> > IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

> > SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

> > MARY

> > PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR THAT

> > MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

Im 18 and when I had surgery my dad stayed with me.. yes he slept in

the chair. Unfortunately for me my dad snored which was sooo

annoying But I looked past it since he did do alot such as change

my ice packs and clean up and feed me more so then the nurses. So for

your daughters sake i hope you dont do that to her, snore that is

lol But I didnt really bring anything from home but a teddy bear

just to hold something is nice while you are laying there. you cant

really get up and do anything that you would normally do before bed

(brushing, washing etc.) so it really isnt necessary to bring. One

thing i would recommend tho is a button down shirt for when she comes

home, I hadnt thought of this and when i went to put my sweatshirt on

it couldnt fit over my then huge head plus it would of been painful

so i had to wear my nasty hospital gown home.

-Kriston

> > >

> > > HI

> > > MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY

BE

> A

> > > DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

> > > IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

> > > SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

> > > MARY

> > > PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR

THAT

> > > MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

Im 18 and when I had surgery my dad stayed with me.. yes he slept in

the chair. Unfortunately for me my dad snored which was sooo

annoying But I looked past it since he did do alot such as change

my ice packs and clean up and feed me more so then the nurses. So for

your daughters sake i hope you dont do that to her, snore that is

lol But I didnt really bring anything from home but a teddy bear

just to hold something is nice while you are laying there. you cant

really get up and do anything that you would normally do before bed

(brushing, washing etc.) so it really isnt necessary to bring. One

thing i would recommend tho is a button down shirt for when she comes

home, I hadnt thought of this and when i went to put my sweatshirt on

it couldnt fit over my then huge head plus it would of been painful

so i had to wear my nasty hospital gown home.

-Kriston

> > >

> > > HI

> > > MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY

BE

> A

> > > DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

> > > IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

> > > SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

> > > MARY

> > > PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR

THAT

> > > MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

Our surgeon gave us a 'magic pad' to use in the hospital. And yes I did

change the ice etc for my daughter. The nursing staff is minimal once u

get out of ICU (which was great, they had like 1-2 nurses per patient,

we stayed there almost over night) after the first nite in ICU and the

first day in a reg bed, I made my kid get up and walk around. Had to

make sure she drank plenty of fluids - otherwise they almost didn't let

her go home. It definitely was a learning experience. She lost about

12 lbs which she is keeping off with exercise, not only does she love

her new face, but her new body... what a way to loose weight lol. She

had her surgery on 7/14 and said she is very happy she has had it done.

Her braces will be coming off at the end of January and her next and

last appointment with her surgeon is in March.

Re: WHERE DO US MOM'S SLEEP?

Im 18 and when I had surgery my dad stayed with me.. yes he slept in

the chair. Unfortunately for me my dad snored which was sooo

annoying But I looked past it since he did do alot such as change

my ice packs and clean up and feed me more so then the nurses. So for

your daughters sake i hope you dont do that to her, snore that is

lol But I didnt really bring anything from home but a teddy bear

just to hold something is nice while you are laying there. you cant

really get up and do anything that you would normally do before bed

(brushing, washing etc.) so it really isnt necessary to bring. One

thing i would recommend tho is a button down shirt for when she comes

home, I hadnt thought of this and when i went to put my sweatshirt on

it couldnt fit over my then huge head plus it would of been painful

so i had to wear my nasty hospital gown home.

-Kriston

> > >

> > > HI

> > > MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY

BE

> A

> > > DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

> > > IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

> > > SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

> > > MARY

> > > PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR

THAT

> > > MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

Our surgeon gave us a 'magic pad' to use in the hospital. And yes I did

change the ice etc for my daughter. The nursing staff is minimal once u

get out of ICU (which was great, they had like 1-2 nurses per patient,

we stayed there almost over night) after the first nite in ICU and the

first day in a reg bed, I made my kid get up and walk around. Had to

make sure she drank plenty of fluids - otherwise they almost didn't let

her go home. It definitely was a learning experience. She lost about

12 lbs which she is keeping off with exercise, not only does she love

her new face, but her new body... what a way to loose weight lol. She

had her surgery on 7/14 and said she is very happy she has had it done.

Her braces will be coming off at the end of January and her next and

last appointment with her surgeon is in March.

Re: WHERE DO US MOM'S SLEEP?

Im 18 and when I had surgery my dad stayed with me.. yes he slept in

the chair. Unfortunately for me my dad snored which was sooo

annoying But I looked past it since he did do alot such as change

my ice packs and clean up and feed me more so then the nurses. So for

your daughters sake i hope you dont do that to her, snore that is

lol But I didnt really bring anything from home but a teddy bear

just to hold something is nice while you are laying there. you cant

really get up and do anything that you would normally do before bed

(brushing, washing etc.) so it really isnt necessary to bring. One

thing i would recommend tho is a button down shirt for when she comes

home, I hadnt thought of this and when i went to put my sweatshirt on

it couldnt fit over my then huge head plus it would of been painful

so i had to wear my nasty hospital gown home.

-Kriston

> > >

> > > HI

> > > MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY

BE

> A

> > > DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

> > > IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

> > > SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

> > > MARY

> > > PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR

THAT

> > > MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

I have no clue. I don't think we will be getting much sleep regardless of where

we lay our heads. I plan to bring pillows and a blanket just in case.

WHERE DO US MOM'S SLEEP?

HI

MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY BE A

DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

MARY

PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR THAT

MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

I have no clue. I don't think we will be getting much sleep regardless of where

we lay our heads. I plan to bring pillows and a blanket just in case.

WHERE DO US MOM'S SLEEP?

HI

MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY BE A

DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

MARY

PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR THAT

MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

[Guest guest]

Call the hospital ahead of time, and ask what's possible. Some

hospitals provide chairs, some offer rollaways or cots, and some even

let the person staying with the patient use a second bed in the room,

if it's going to be empty anyhow (that's rare, though, I think). Some

provide nothing except a regular chair, which is usually

uncomfortable to the inth degree.

Cammie

> I have no clue. I don't think we will be getting much sleep

regardless of where we lay our heads. I plan to bring pillows and a

blanket just in case.

> WHERE DO US MOM'S SLEEP?

>

>

>

> HI

> MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY BE

A

> DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

> IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

> SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

> MARY

> PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR THAT

> MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Call the hospital ahead of time, and ask what's possible. Some

hospitals provide chairs, some offer rollaways or cots, and some even

let the person staying with the patient use a second bed in the room,

if it's going to be empty anyhow (that's rare, though, I think). Some

provide nothing except a regular chair, which is usually

uncomfortable to the inth degree.

Cammie

> I have no clue. I don't think we will be getting much sleep

regardless of where we lay our heads. I plan to bring pillows and a

blanket just in case.

> WHERE DO US MOM'S SLEEP?

>

>

>

> HI

> MY 19 YR DAUGHTER IS HAVING UPPER SURGERY ON THE 20TH. IT MAY BE

A

> DUMB ? BUT DO WE SLEEP IN THE CHAIR??

> IT'S A HJUGE CONCERN THAT SHE CAN'T TALK SO YES THANKS FOR THE

> SUPPORT TO STAY, YIKES.

> MARY

> PS WHAT THINGS FROM HOME WILL SHE NEED TO BRING?? ME TOO FOR THAT

> MATTER, KINDA LIKE CAMPING IN THE HOSPITAL.....

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